So broke up with my girlfriend about 8 months ago. She was constantly around this guy she worked with so I left. Acted kinda beta when she started dating the guy. Didn't talk to her started texting her little things here and there. Nothing serious. We hung a few times mostly when she's down and out. Well night before thanksgiving we go out some guy grabs her. I beat the guy up. End up getting arrested. She spends the night at my house we sleep together but no sex she said she felt violated and gross. So she starts dating her ex last week. I text her and tell her to fuck off she says she's sorry and she won't call me again. Sunday morning I find an earring in my car and text her a picture of it to see if it was hers but it was not. She text me yesterday and ask me the name of my accountant. I send it and ask her if everything is alright she says she's ok. I text her today and ask if she got a hold of him then something about making me cookies that she loves to make and how they are great with morning sex. She sends nothing back. Anyone got any advice I feel like I missed an opportunity not pushing the sex issue. Anything I can do to get in her pants we had great sexual chemistry (she's a squirter)

I been hooking up since I left she always ask me if I'm dating anyone when we've hung out?

Ahhh the warrior rescues the damsel in grab ass distress from dishonor.

Then the mighty warrior refuses his reward?

Does the damsel feel unworthy of her gift of squirting?

Or does the damsel feel she can use this particular warrior to do her bidding with out justification, or further squirting reward?

Not wasting any more time on her is your best reward.

No further communication is justified unless it will end in YOUR reward.
Answer "Of course."

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It all came to a head a day or two after Christmas. I went to a local pub and saw my ex and her boyfriend out and about. Well she comes over says hello and talks to me and my buddy for a bit she then says well I better get back over to her boyfriend before I get into trouble. My buddy goes to the bathroom and her boyfriend comes over and asks if I'll shake his hand I tell him no that he's a pussy and a scumbag and he needs to get away from me and not to talk to me or I'm going to hurt him. As the night goes on she constantly keeps making her way back over to my friend and I. Finally she sits down and we talk a little. I played songs on the jukebox and one of the songs was are song. She looks at me and says that's a low blow I say is it to be honest I just really like this song. She finds her boyfriend they say goodbye and as they're walking out he says merry Christmas. Well I grab him throw against a table then the bar well it gets broken up. I tell her I told her boyfriend not to talk to me but he's to stupid to understand that. So she texts me the next day and says don't ever talk to me again. I respond with k. Haven't seen or heard from her sense I sent her happy new year text which I sent everyone in my phone on new year's. 

Grabbing the guy probably wasn't the best thing but she set him up and for some reason he didn't listen when I told him not to talk to me.

I currently am single but have a girl I hook up with on a regular basis. Been on 11 dates since the break up. I still think about her constantly.....any advice my man?

Keep up the good work on the dating. Fucking %?

GFTOW.

Delete her from your phone, social media.
Stop hanging out where she goes.

Kicking her BF's ass will only drive her closer to him, crazy but true.

If this happens again, flip the script. Tell her your happy for her, the new little dick is perfect for her, she should marry him quick!

If she approaches you in the bar, be polite, then excuse your self to go talk to a 10 you've been eye fucking all night.

Your best medicine, and best chance are to forget her.

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respectfully disagree with that. at least not subconsciously. although i do agree it's beta to fight over a chick like that, getting your ass kicked is not attractive ever.


bro i know it's tough but you need to realize this is just one chick. not worth this level of bullshit whatsoever. if my girl was constantly making her way over to hang out with her ex while i was there i'd find a new girl who doesn't fuck around like that. it's disrespectful.

you gotta chill with the fighting and shit-talking. if you're the man you're unaffected by all the other little boys around, you should have shook the guy's hand and moved on to the other hot chicks at the bar. if the guy somehow wronged you other than just being a normal dude who is attracted to a woman who happens to be your ex, then don't shake his hand but do so in a calm way. don't talk shit.

you broke up with her for a reason. there are girls out there who don't spend all their time hanging out with random guys who aren't their boyfriends. find one. you'll be relieved and much happier.

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I get what you are saying, but have both seen and experienced this ridiculous anomaly too many times to not put stock in it.

Once I was chatting with a hottie, all good right? She went back to where her BF was. He slapped her across the face...HARD! I proceed to invite him outside where I was properly punishing him for his grievous error, SHE jumps on my back in his defense!

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Gotta agree with this. Getting beat up isn't necessarily a bad thing. A woman's emotional investment will forgive not winning a fight, especially in the case of the OP. It creates a nurture mentality in the woman and allows them to bond even more.

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Yeah this was the guy she was always around. Like I was super nice I even considered him a friend. I helped him out a ton this guy when he broke up with his girlfriend he spent the night at my house. He got his jeep stuck I had my buddy pull him out. This guy went after him at a party and I stopped the guy from beating him up.

Then we were supposed to be in my buddies wedding together and I tried to talk to him so something like what happened didn't happen at the wedding he blew me off then finally my friend who was getting married made us talk and he denied the whole thing. Then he said I was abusive and all this other shit which just wasn't true. So in my mind kind of had it coming I wouldn't have done anything had he not said anything. Which I asked him not to do.

I agree with you guys I probably shouldn't have grabbed the dude but at some point you have to stop being a push over in my opinion it would be one thing if it was some random dude but after helping him out well I was pissed. Either way its too late now.

I guess I understand the nurturing situation getting your ass kicked creates but subconsciously it can't be good.

I haven't text or called her it's been like 3 weeks so I figure she'll call me within the next two weeks. Then I don't know what I'll do but ball will be in my court?

I don't go out looking for them but where I am it's small town USA and I'm sure I'll see them out and about once again. I will definitely try and react differently.

I'm only trying to do this because the sex is very good. Her and i didn't have the best relationship. I guess right now in a sense I'm playing the "bad boy" role when we hang out we have fun and I don't listen to her when she complains and does nothing about her situation. I don't know if I can parlay that into sex but I'm going to try.

Until then I will take your advice and continue hunting.

1. From the events you've given, it sounds like you may actually be abusive as the guy says. Quick to anger and fighting, it's easy to guess that this may flow over into your relationships either physically or emotionally. Added to the low key manipulative stuff.

2. Delete, block this girl and move on. This girl will only get you into trouble.

Well I don't think I was abusive and talking to anyone close to the situation her friends and mine they'd tell you the same. I appreciate the advice it's obvious that it bothers me. I guess I was brought up different where if someone asks you a question you answer it honestly even if it's not what you want to here just like you did. Thanks again.

But is that the reaction that you really wanted to have? Your strength in that situation is to remain unaffected. Hell, you could have acted happy that the two were together and that would have really fucked with your ex's head. What you did was act overly emotional and that made you weak, even if you did come across physically stronger.

Do like Neo says and delete the phone number. Delete everything connected to her.

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Absolutely right.

OP you need to get to the point where you don't even care if things fall apart with a girl because you know there's another one right down the line. Abundance mentality. Does an alpha male who has 12 girls lined up give one fuck if he sees his ex with another dude? Fuck no, he's got 12 hotter girls in his rotation. Does he go around playing "our song" while she's there. No fucking chance, there's no time. There are hotter girls at this bar.

Until you can literally treat every single woman, regardless of looks or status or connection or whatever, as a replaceable entity in your life, you're gonna struggle in relationships more than you should. That's why I agree with the others here who have said delete her info and move on.

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yeah i see your point here and have seen that a good bit. there's definitely a nurturing side that kicks in when some random dude is beating your bf's head in. i certainly don't think kicking a girl's bf's ass is going to get *me* any closer to her. but in general, getting my ass kicked won't earn me nearly as many v-tingles as i'd get if i kicked the shit out of a guy who tried to fight me.

i do however wonder what would have happened if, instead of fighting the dude, you had simply given the girl a "wtf are you doing dating an asshole like that" look to further humiliate her...

if there's anything i've learned it's that white-knighting in any form doesn't really get you anywhere, sadly.

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