and most times you need a girl to swap.

That's all of us fucked then

For swingers to be fruitful, he will need a girl to trade with otherwise you just become the creep.

To get deep into this thread...

The OP is trying to short cut is way to get pussy. That is all. There are no short cuts. Sorry.

This is more for advance players that have been in seduction for at least couple of years and are getting consistent results. The second group I recommend this is for players that have a rotation or a couple (husband and wife that want to avoid boredom and spice it up/boyfriend and girlfriend/primary or main girl/ the key is that the girl is slightly more invested in the dude that he is in her.) I would not recommend this for newbies or guys that are still somewhat struggling to maintain relationships.

In addition, I do not recommend this to any really macho/jealousy/territorial/insecure/violent/needy alphas (and I am not judging since I was there once).The reason you should not try this, Is because it may cause drama, problems, paranoia etc… With that being said these guys would benefit from it by getting over insecurities, seeing this as not big deal and understanding that it does not mean shit to have one of your girls being banged by some other girl or dude.

If you guys are interested to find a way to convince a women to go to a swing club is to make it her idea, not a big deal, and do not push for it, just let it happen, I talk about ways to get women to do crazy shit in this post .

I do not care if you have been to a swingers club a million times, when you go there with a girl you are introducing to the lifestyle, have a poker face and attitude. Since she may be overwhelmed (but exited at the same time). One of the key is to act like is your first time there, remember as an attractive dude is your job to lead and make her feel comfortable.

Also, never verbalize you plan going to a swingclub, "lets go to a swing club" is putting women on the spot and making them fell like sluts. Just tell her "dress really slutty and sexy I will have a surprise will be lots of fun", she will know was sup.

So what is a Modern swinging:

“Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity involving partner swapping at an informal gathering of friends to planned regular social meetings to "hooking up" with like-minded people at a sex club (also known as a swinger club, not to be confused with a strip club). Different clubs offer varied facilities and SPAM, and often hold "theme" nights.[6] Much like a "secret society", swingers have code talk and secret lingo to hide their discussions from the scrutiny of those not involved in that lifestyle.

Swinging is also known to take place in semi-public venues such as hotels, resorts, or cruise ships, or often in private homes.[7] Furthermore, many websites that cater to swinging couples now exist, some boasting hundreds of thousands of members.[7]”

Type of Swinger clubs and parties:

There are the poly communities you usually find about through the poly groups in your area.

The parties and swinger clubs range from white trash parties, middle class parties and the playboy mansion type parties were usually the rich and famous wear masks (there are some politicians and pastors under those masks, you may be surprised).

In both you will find a single fee, membership or a combination of both.

When you choose the membership you pay the highest price if you are a single dude, single women are typically the cheapest entry/membership, the second cheapest is a hetero couple.

Prices also vary depending on the night you go to the swing club or if they are having some special event, for example they have Latin nights, couple nights, single nights etc…

The more popular nights of course will be more expensive.

In some clubs in addition to the membership you have to pay an entrance fee depending on the night.

Typical swinger club logistics:

So now you go to the swing clubs I recommend your girl to dress kind of slutty sexy if you go with a girl. If you are going alone (and I do not recommend this, I will explain why later on) just make sure you are clean and dress cool.

There is usually valet parking or you can park your own car. So now we are going in there will be a cashier that will request your membership card (if you are a couple they will not bother much checking if the girl you are with is your main or not, which is kind of cool, for the scumbags out there, in other words you can use your membership with different women pretending they are your main J). But, if you are a scumbag player you will not fit in cause couples meet couples, and the lifestyle is AGAINST CHEATERS and they look down on them.

As you go in the club the first thing you do is to give your drinks to the bar tender, they usually label the drink with your name, so they know is yours.

There is also an awesome buffet with food and desserts. The food believe it or not is typically pretty good.

There is also a dj playing top 40 pop or Latin music (if Latin night).

The good thing about the swinger clubs is that it is similar dynamics to a regular club, the difference is that some girls are dress a bit more slutty than the club, they dress to a slutty level of hallowing.

Usually there are social circles and couples that know each other, you can usually spot the shy/newbie couple, and usually other couples that were there once upon a time, open them and do small talk to feel the vibe, sometimes they talk to new couples about dynamics and how it works. This is good that people unlike clubs are a bit more friendly and down to earth.

Unlike a club that on the tv screen have music videos in a swing club on the screen you will see porn movies. There are also couple of poles through the club, but usually in the dance floor there will not be anybody naked, again it looks and feels like a regular type club.

Now towards the back the typical swinger club have a social type room, where people are fully clothe but the dude may have the girl give him a bj or doing stuff to the girl, and lurkers come by. This is a good system to find out what other couple, dudes or girls may give you interest or approach invites.

Ex. In the middle room I have the girl I am with give me a bj while a bunch of dudes or girls come and start caressing her ass, or some girl may come and give me a bj etc… You may think I have big confidence, but remember this is very common and other couples are doing the same, so is normal in a swing club.

Then, there is the lockers, the lockers are unisex were men and women can go in take the regulars clothes off and put a towel around (to go to the main back room you cannot go in with clothes).

In the back room that is where the regular swing club begins, again you need to go in semi naked (towel around). You will have many attendants that have towels, disinfectants and condoms with a little car moving around in case someone needs something.

In the back room there are many rooms were you can lock the door you can be private with your new girl that you swap, or with the couple that you picked up or _________ whatever fantasy you want, but again the key is you can lock the door and you have your own room.

There are also some objects in swing clubs like a gynecology type device, sexy cabins, glory holes etc…

I do not know about the women bathroom, but in the men bathroom there is also cups with mouth wash available.

Just like regular clubs that have a regular night rhythm/vibe same thing applies to swing clubs but the vibe dynamics is people much more friendly and open minded than in regular clubs.

I will not cover club dynamics of swinger clubs much, cause there are many variables unlike a club, but just like a club there is the arrival time, warm up time (people usually talking and dancing with clothes on), pick up time (usually after 2 hours in the middle room people messing around with clothes on, bjs and light touching is big in there.)

Then the last room is the couple only rooms, were there is a huge bed connected the size of small club is design strategically so people can belong and touch each other, so you could be doing a girl and can reach out and touch another girl.

How to game in a swing club:

First let me tell you some dudes in the community that do or are familiar with this type of game (they may have different style, geographical location, setting or experience: Teevester aka Tva_oslo, Revelifestyledesign, chitownmaverick, nwp, Uncle Walker, Jetsetjim.

Women that are into the lifestyle, my friend lovergirl (I originally wanted her to write this post but she has onitis lately), you can read about her experiences in this blog https://lifeofalovergirl.wordpress.com/

I don’t care what anybody says the key to swing club game is to go in with a HOT GIRL, or above average girl, period end of story. WOMEN RUN THE GAME IN SWING CLUBS. So I would advise you to do some coaching to your girl, or just have a hot girl, they don’t need game. When I used to go with my main, I had the pick of the litter, but she has an amazing body especially naked. (Of course for dudes that are into curvy women).

If you are a hot dude, you may be ok, but again if you have the choice of being a hot dude or going with a hot girl, you will do way better having a hot girl. I actually recommend not going by yourself since is lower value, with this being said there are those couples/women that are into gangbanging, but in my experience, they are minority.(lovergirl for example). My theory is that the dudes control the girl so if there is a hot girl they want, women to please them, will swap, get me.

If I want to open or game another couple or girl the best thing to do is to send your girl in, for example if a girl is giving a bj to another dude, you send your girl to touch gently/caress the other girls ass (by the way this does not mean your girl is gay or bi, it just how it works)

I recommend that you and your girl have some types of signals in case she is getting creped out or does not feel comfortable. Most dudes get the hint, unfortunately there are some dudes that don’t, they are usually a very small minority if you are in the couple only area. If you are in the no couple area and getting creeped out, the best thing is to stop doing what you are doing and move, if they are not getting the hints. Note.- You will feel like a hot girl rejecting guys, and you will get to experience what women have to deal with in the clubs with creepers.

Again the problem happens more when you are in the back room not the couples only room, were you will have a bunch of single guys creeping out women (some women like the attention though). Let me explain let say I am with a hot girl doing doggy style and you if you know me I am an ass dude, so my girls usually have nice asses. As I am doing doggy you will have the creepers hoping for a bj jerking off next to the girl I am with face, or grabbing her ass as I am going in and out. Or let’s say she is giving me a bj you will have 5 dudes around her trying to touch her. This is ok to do for a little bit so your girl can feel important and validated, but some dudes are just creepers and don’t fucking get the hints that is when you have to jump in, and tell them nicely to stop.

Here is an idea of a good swing club (this is the one I go to): http://trapezeclub.com/

Paranoia of stds:

There is LESS RISK OF STD if you are in the lifestyle according to the center for disease control for more information follow the link:

http://coupledoingit.com/2010/12/18/std ... lifestyle/



Different levels of foreplay:

Couple have levels of comfort, some are only touch (no sex/no oral), some oral and no sex, some have to be present during the sexual activity, some women only allow doggy etc… etc… In other words whatever parameter the couple at that stage in the relationship is comfortable with.



Conclusion.-

Since I am a club gamer getting bored (have been doing clubs none stop for more than 20 years), I may transition to this extension of club game eventually, but I am really into dancing. With that being said if you frequent this type of club you may never want to ever go out to regular club again or do any other type of game, since they are tons of fun and you will always get laid or multiple bjs. Caveat. - This is very addictive as well, so be careful.

Build an emotional connection through your hard throbbing cock.
Build trust and comfort by holding their hands and covertly rubbing your elbows on their nipples.

^ Hurts my eyes.
Here is the link to Swinging game (I'm allowed )

Interesting. And blows my idea of grabbing a fat chick just to get in, lol

Dudes like to share their women with other dudes. It's that whole gang bang mentality.

So he decides when and how you are allowed to fuck his woman? That is sound advice!