Just started seeeing really nice girl again , everythings going well, only source of tension is her ex, for a start she says hes a "family friend" and since hes friends with her brother hes around her house alotttt, but i havent seen him with her brother at all and when we had a massive arguement and broke up very briefly she says shes slept with himm, butttttt, where all the scatiness comes in is that there was hardly any time between breaking up and making up for that to happen, this put in with the fact for a popular girl with all her family and friends on instagram and FB, he is not in a single picture of hers , i cant even find a fb or insta account linked to hers for him, and the details of their relationship and who she says he is are really inconsistent. this may be a wierd situation i know but can anyone relate?? anybody else come across fake ex boyfriends?/ or just anything along these line
cheers im getting a brain aneurysm over thinking it and researching it lool

So the girl says that when you two broke up she slept with her ex boyfriend? And you don't believe her because there are no pictures? This sounds like straight denial on your part...you know what has to be done and that is to walk away from this. Had she slept with some random dude while on break, then maybe, but she slept with an ex, who happens to be a close family friend....this can never end will for you.

i see what you meann there im not trying to deny that he slept with her, and im not that bothered about it cause when we did briefly break up i was drunk and properly went apeshit on her and said some realliy fucked up thing like using every secret she gave me against her, but then realised i made a mistake and made up two days later, (and thats a pussy act i knoww but i fucked up different storyhe main point im trying to get across, is that why isnt he in any of her dps, her social media pictures, her history, her friends history for what was supposed to be a previous three year on/off relationship for them two??, and whyy are his details she tells me so inconsitent?? and ohhh on another notee the person she describess he isss, is like a lot. ALOT like her sisters bf? can i play amateur psychologist and say maybe this is some sort of jealously projection or something i dunno, but yeah his whole existence on the whole, fucking her when we apart or not fucking her when we were apart is my main question

Seems like a lot of drama. Either stay with her and drop everything that happened and have no more emotional blow ups or move on.

What type of advice are you looking for here?

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i agree with you there man, deffo keeping the emotions as low as possible on my sidee but there are some continuing issues even as i speak tonight that are popping up but as said other matters i can get through easy, what i'm looking for advice wise, is if people think the ex is fake too? i mean if theres no physical evidence that he exists, but she puts forward all these storeis and claims passionatley he is real, a) should i just indulge her and pretend i dont ever want to meet him, or b) should i call her on it? pluss as well as i said am i just being parnoid about thiss and he is real? just i dont expect there to be literally no evidence of him in her life is all,

As far as online evidence goes its not at all uncommon for people to break up and delete all there all pics and rid themselves of all the old mementoes.

true true, but ill be honest man, ive gone fulll on social media stalker trying to find shit lool, and she said she had him on fb, cause we were chattin on the phone and she was taking the piss outta shit on his wall, and ive tried to find a dude who sounds like she described, has a fb like shes described, and is one of her friends but i cant find anything at all that comes together, and i just thought theres gottta be at least somethinggg left over picture wise on his, orr for a startt finding a profile in the first place is what really makes me think its not as it seems

ADDITIONAL INFO: Ummmm a theme of lying doess seem to be appearing as she stood me up tonight with the excuse that she heard from her friends that i had been seeing other girls.................A) this isnt true at all and b) i dont know any of the girls from her town or any of her friends so it is literally impossible for this to be told to her, suggesting of course that she completely made it up as an excuse to stand me up...........thoughts on this reflecting on possible lies about ex fabrication etc?

So either your dating a crazy woman who lies about fictitious ex boyfriends or your dating a woman who fucked her ex while you guys are on a short break. This is lose/lose. Hopefully someone else has some insight but this is how I see it.

theres no historical trail is for a reason. girls are fucking retarded and love to date (fuck) the "mystery" man who know one knows about. they can go off and be super cum guzzling sluts and then go home to daddy and have him cook her a nice meal. and no one will know