Hi this is my first post here.

I am in an open relationship with my wife, we were monogamous for 4 years (atleast she was lol) but i spent about 6 months easing her into the idea of an open relationship and last month I got her to agree to the lifestyle change.

I do mostly club game at the weekends and daily game on Tinder and plenty of fish, I am having great success getting their numbers after about 10 messages and then we text where I turn the convo sexual and I get a meet agreement after an hour or so of talking.
The problem I have is addressing the fact that I am married and in an open relationship. It seems that because they know there Is no chance of a long term commitment they put up a barrier, instant shut down, cold responses. I have overcome it with a few women but it's not been easy.
Telling them I'm married at the start or in my profile means no open, so I want to address the subject after we have become sexual or after arranging to meet. Iv found trying to build a deep connection, getting her to open up about something personal first helps alot. But I'm struggling to create a solid routine that I can lay down time after time.
So I'm here to hear your ideas

Thanks
Dan The Sinner

Anybody? Lol

Maybe you can get something from my experience. I was actually just looking for a one night stand at the time and met a girl at a party where I was with my girlfriend. After my girlfriend left I talked to her for few hours before asking to kiss her when I got the “but don’t you have a girlfriend” question. I just gave her the true explanation about the situation and all moved forward. It didn't cause much of a problem probably because at the point I made my intentions clear I could see she was very attracted to me. It even might work in favor of you if you aren't interested in anything long-term, because it makes it clearer that it will be a one night stand and there are girls who want just that.
You seem to have somewhat different intentions, but I would suggest taking a bit more time on building attraction and showing your value than usually before the natural place for the wife question comes up, so you would look like a confident person in a genuinely open relationship not as a dude who might just be saying that and is in fact just cheating on her spouse.

Full disclosure: I am not married, but I have been in situations similar to this where the girl wanted to do something but felt obligated not to for one reason or another.

Here's the solution:

1) Do not bring up your marriage. At least not until you sleep with the girl. You are not doing anyone any favors. The girl is more concerned about your wife flipping out and her being a home wrecker, so relieve her of that burden by not bringing it up.
2) I've successfully closed girls I was not supposed to (they were friends of friends I had already closed or were married or in a relationship or thought I was gay...) by pretending I was trying to resist but could not help myself. If she gives you push back "But you're married, " agree. Then, continue. "I know you're right... It's just crazy we have such a connection. I didn't expect this to happen. I mean, my wife proposed the open relationship, which I was supportive of but I never thought I would find anyone I clicked with. To be honest, I wasn't even planning to come out tonight. I was tired and not even really in a good mood until I bumped into you." and just keep going from there. The more you can play the fate and serendipity card, the better the fling will go.

Make sense?

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Chris
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