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I came back home and since I was going to stay here for 3 weeks I decided to open up the house again for CS (C stands for Couch and S for surfing). I took some time to get it started, but eventually the request started pouring in. I started screening for girls. I also was willing to accept guys if I felt we had a lot or real interests in common. The first girl was a japanese girl very sweet who I later discovered through a game of Truth Telling that she was virgin (HBv). This was the end of that.
Then on new years eve I had 2 girls coming over. With one of them I had strong connection. Similar interest, obvious chemistry. And retrospectively I am now analysing why I could not close this very simple deal. Self esteem down the drain. I will spare you the details and just say that on the evening the girls met other CSers, and the topic of the day seemed to be: those creepy people who host girls just to fuck them. I have to admit I had no idea how to respond to that except thinking I now want only to host solo girls. The two f CS were young, 18 and 22 (I am over 40). I had great chemistry with HB22 while HB18 was I think more intelligent but the chemistry was just not there. If we were living in the same country she could have made a great friend. At the end of the evening I was drunk. The girls were supposed to go back to their hotel but I told them that if they wanted they could sleep in the couches or on the floor mattras. That night they slept in 4 in one room (3 girls, HBv, HB18, HB22 and 1 guy) while I was sleeping alone in the other room in a huge bed.
I just did not know how to offer to sleep in my bed without that sounding creepy/bad.
I did actually offer to HB22 to come and sleep in my bed. She answered: "what do you mean". I answered earnestly: "exactly what you are thinking in this moment". And then backed off from a very embarrassing conversation. After this there was embarassmente always when we chatted. The next day I told the two girls that I could not host them because I simply could not handle too many people at home. This seemed to raise their interest in me again, and HB22 asked if we could meet up again in the next days. I said, sure, exchanged phone numbers. And greeted her.
HBv left the city. Male guest left the city the next day. Another male guest arrived. I invited HB22 to come over for some spiritual exchanges. She answered: "yes, we come in two after sunset". So I organised a nice dinner and after we were massaging in front of the fireplace. The male guest (quite young) was massaging the hans of HB18 and was too embarassed to do anything. I was massaging the hand, and feet of HB 22. But she was putting up all sorts of blocks.
Eventually we looked at the time and it was 2am, and I went to bed, offering them to stay for the night if they were willing to share a mettrass together. They did. I have to admit the idea of them sleeping together was quite hot. Plus I wanted to give the sense that my bed (big and confy) was available.
Every day they would go out in the morning and come back in the evening.
This time HB22 sent me a text message asking to come back to sleep during the afternoon, as she was knacked and the hotel was far away. I took that as an IOI but I also took it too late plus I was not at home to open her.
The next day they invited me out, and then I offered them some pigiama from my late mother, so they slept at home again.
The next day was the last one. In the morning I spoke with HB22 telling her how I was sorry I was so direct on the first night. We went through everything that has happened also laughing at how embarassed was the young guy with HB18. She asked me about tantric sex, told her that intellectual discourse does not work on it, and if she wanted I could share some simple unthreatening excercise. By that time I have given up any idea to even kiss close her. But still wanted to be as friendly as possible.
She accepted and sent HB18 out on a hike in search of the perfect breakfast. I tried to do some exercise with her but she was basically completely frozen. Eventually I was able to hold her hands and caress them, and this was obviously good enough for her that she started being unable to talk. A clear sign oxytocin was being released. Eventually at the end we started teasing each other, and she told me that she was teasing me because "my energy just asked for it".
I said that she was still closed ans she was welcome to come back for 3 months when she wanted to open up more and after 3 months we would probably kiss. She asked me if this was what was on my mind all the time.
No.
But did you want to?
to do what?
kiss me?
of course.
I sensed it, and this is why I was so close.
I don't know what I said here, either that she wanted it too, or that she was just close in general. At some point I got up, in a very slow deliberate movement started walking toward her. She is on the other side of the room and has the time to say: "now this looks very threatening". I walk slowly up to her and put one hand around her waist and the other on the side of her face. I could have tried to kiss her in that moment, but instead kissed her on the cheek and closed the scene.
Why?
1) being on CS I could not risk her writing me a bad review
2) in retrospect I realise she wanted it. But I am so used to close through massage that I am no longer able to kiss close a girl making the move.
AFter that she left, we met again in the afternoon. They gave me some gifts for the house, and we hugged and said goodbye.
Errors:
1) getting drunk and acting while drunk was the first error.
2) accepting the male host was the second (although he was a great guy so I am happy he was here. We might work together)
3) Having the CS speak about male who try to bed their guests was also a problem, but how do you avoid it?
any comment?
Firstly, good job on your quest for couch surf game. I get so many friends that say they want to do it but they just never get round to it
Let me just clarify something for you, we were couch surfing like normal for a while and didn't really have intentions to turn into a method.
We would have a bunch of Mates over and my friend who looks like Ryan Gosling kept on fucking our Couch surfers.
Me and my wing moved in together and we optimised they way we do it . tried it for ourselves and we kept getting laid which now explains my CS escapades thread.
I think it would help you if you had a wing for the 2 sets, it would be much better for you. Girls who are solo seem to quite DTF too.
Our CS profile is great. Because. Our CS reviews filter For us. "PEBBLE and James are really cool and we had a crazy nights together!"
If these girls read this. And yet still request to stay over, then we are dealing with girls that are open minded to it so we get less "some hosts us CS To get laid" type of comments. We now get less requests but more sex because we are polarising.
We always always add them on FACEBOOK and look for boyfriends. We also look at the pics and we instantly tell if she is reserved or DTF. Just like in a nigh club. You can just tell by looking at them.
What you need to do is. Filter, handle obstacles . If we have 3 girls staying over , we will get a friend over. Try to escalate much more smoother. We usually play drinking games that involve dares and we get them to make out with us. Once we do that. We hold their hands and if they let us hold their hands. We know there is attraction.
At this point. It's just getting them into the bedroom. You can just do the usual "let me show you something" thing. Or, one of the dares can be "I dare you to go in your PEBBLE's bedroom for 1 min and shut the door"
Keep updating. I'm here to help.
Where are you based by the way?
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