Hey guys, so i'm seeing this girl(20yo) for 3 months who is actually having a boyfriend(about 2 years) and i know shes really not that into him anymore.

Shes rarely sleeping with him and if she does, she just does it to be kind to him, not because shes really enjoying it much, because she knows that the sex shes having with me is way more fulfilling. (got that from a email of hers to a friend when she forgot to log out on my PC...i know im weak for reading it anyways but i wanted to know if shes honest with me.)

She says the relationship with him got really boring, she still likes him as a person alot though
so she wouldnt quit with him because she would feel like she is weak or egoistic for not trying to fight for the relationship and to make it bloom again.



Still she sees me on a regular basis (in the beginning almost every day now its like 2 times a week), we almost always end up having sex and she still sometimes sends me songs that pretty much tell me, that she needs me. I already told her that i'd like to be in a relationship with her and that i couldnt keep doing it this way anylonger with her not breaking up with her current boyfriend.

Two weeks ago I told her that i wouldnt see her anymore but after a while of her texting me i got weak and we are now seeing each other again.

I'd really love to be with her but i got no clue of how to make her quit seeing her boyfriend. any clues/inspirational words?

She was already dropping the frequency with which she was seeing you which tells me she may have guy #3 on lock now. You have to really think if you want to get in to a relationship with a woman who has a proven track record on fucking around behind a boyfriend's back i.e. you if you got into a relationshit with her.

I'd like to know your real thought process on this one...

So you are banging a girl who's been in a seemingly serious relationship for 2.5 years, and she is "bored" of him. You are posting in this forum, which I can safely assume means you don't have as good as game as the guy she is/was with. Do you honestly think that if you jump into an LTR with her she is gonna stay faithful to you?

Dude, getting into a LTR with this girl is only going to have one ending, and it won't be pretty...

Ya 3 things here:

1) She's definitely going to be fucking around on you if you get into a relationship with her. Her moral compass isn't aligned... Not a quality girl, man... and not worth stressing out over.

2) OceanX sums it up well - you're 3rd in the rotation right now.

3) Broaden your options... have others on the go - this one won't be so special to you once there are others... I'm not a huge fan of ultimatums either - but if you're really fucking her SO much better than her boyfriend, then you could just say you're no longer down for being guy #2, and when she figures out her shit, she knows where to find you.

yeah thanks for your replies guys, i think youre right. Not sure about that #3 thing, and pretty sure i'm the best sexual encounter she had, cuz she wrote that in her email to her friend too.

But about the emotional part you guys are right, It'd be wrong to take her as a long term girlfriend, if shes able to cheat on her boyfriend for that long. Just last night she came by again and i didnt even ask her whats going on. I dont wanna know. Shes actually living real close to me and i really like fucking and talking to her before and afterwards thats why i'd like to keep a casual sex relationship going actually.... which is kinda in the way of my emotions cuz i really actually FEEL shit...
this question might sound stupid but you guys got any tips on how to step back on the emotional part, so I can keep a sexual relationship with her going for the sake of our own good?

Just my rational mind speaking haha because shes living real close after all, you know what i mean

(Ive been seeing other girls on the side, which were fun,but nothing like her...)

She'll cheat on you if you start a relationship with her.

Done and done.