I always do this and do it deliberately?
I'm seeing two girls frequently right now, and have two other friends I see once in a blue moon. I've met a lot of their friends, and family. I tell them I love them(and I do), but I also say I'm not
in love with them. And I made it clear from the start, I care about them, but I will NEVER be their exclusive boyfriend.
Hugging her? I do more than that. We hold hands anywhere we go in public, we lay around cuddling for an hour or more at my/her place. Occasionally we even go out and do things on dates without even having sex. I basically treat each girl as a girlfriend in every way, but make it plain we will not end up together. And yes, we have typical date times, and spontaneous ones as well.
I let myself grow and form deep bonds with them, and allow them to do the same with me. We care about each other greatly. But in a totally non possessive way(occasionally they break things off, because they DO start dating some guy exclusively and I'm cool with this). I tell them about the other women, and that I love them too. I only bring this topic up twice, once when we first start, and again a little later, so she gets it for sure.
Yes, a few girls have broken things off early because she thinks she's going to get hurt, but interestingly, those girls seem to have it rougher than the ones who don't do this.
I always do this with pretty much every girl. And eventually, I stop seeing these girls. Broken hearts? No. So much of that is destruction of a fantasy future together. If you make sure she completely understands that this is temporary and you will
never end up with her, I've yet to have a devastated girl. I make sure this topic is casually brought up at least every other month.
But then again, I never make it a dramatic breakup. I spend at least a month slowing things down, and getting her in the frame of mind that she's getting a little bored with everything other than sex. I always make a point of highlighting any moment she seems bored and say something like, "anytime we hang out, you seem kind of distant. It's like the only way to snap you out of it, is to get you horny".
I even bring up the topic of our future when she has a boyfriend or a husband. I tell her if she meets a guy and decides to become his girlfriend, we can't hang out anymore. Our sexual connection is too strong, and she will have sex with me(this is good, because it always comes true when she hangs out with me anyway
).
Now in fairness, I actually am friends with these girls, and even once things cool off, I usually see them a few times a year. I still love them, and I never hide this fact. I think it's a great situation to be in, as you eventually have a pretty deep pool of former lovers that you infrequently hang out with.
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