| So, I am playing a chess game with this girl. Usually I don't get involved with 1 girl and I still am not, but I got intrigued by the idea of playing a game where I base everything out of "indirect" attraction. She is part of a group of friends, she is good looking and she has lots of guys that try to sleep with her. Bottom line, my assumption here is that anything too direct will put me in the category of boring lame won guys and that would be it.
Thus, I went indirect. Taking from the concept of "rambling" from the day bang book of rooshv, I started dropping here and there things about me (I do lots of cool/uncommon stuff) and that probably caught some of her attention. I have also created a SPAM chat with other friends to organize activities, so I never ask her directly to join, I just organize something and she would join and if she does not I don't care anyway.
The other day I have organized a dinner with friends, she came and we had a great connection on some topics, especially talking about relationships and being free and other blah blah (which I enjoyed actually).
Now, the other day she makes a lunch with friends and she invites me. She makes a lot of jokes about getting married, how she would be accepted by my granma, etc.. She finally also convinces me to go to a dancing class together after I tried to say no a few times.
I think I have lost my chess game... or I am about to. I am not sure if this is over analyzing, but the fact that she convinces me to do something so time consuming (2 days) makes me look like a puppet or worst, a boring unsexable friend. One friend also made a joke about me and her getting together after all her jokes and she said a quite serious "no", which sounded quite real. All in all, her game looks too blunt, girls that are interested are never that blunt to me.
Other things that make me think I have lost this:
1. She has not added me on fb (so far, 90% of the interested ones did)
2. She has not texted me anything, only stuff related to events we were organizing/attending
3. She seem to have some kind of non commitment story with a guy from the group
4. She did not ask me any real personal question
5. She makes jokes that are too blunt like if she is considering me a safe beta male
I have 2 questions:
1. Did I fuck this up? If so, where?
2. How can I improve my chances? How should I play during the dancing classes?
Some things I can do from the top of my mind:
1. I can try to start a text game. The risk here is to come out from my indirect game and end up looking like a loser chaser
2. I can try to have sex with some other girl to gain some more value. The risk here is that she thinks I am too much of a player
3. I can wait for the dancing classes and then play some routines, especially kino, there
4. I can ask her to do something for me if she wants me to go dancing (I like this idea)
5. I can drop out from the dancing
Remember that I am playing a chess game here. I don't think in terms of this 1 girl, but in terms of what I can learn from this. I am also having loads of fun over analyzing this and playing this, so I would really appreciate some thoughts from you guys.
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