Hello dear friends,

A brief history, introvert and shy person my whole life (until the past year) mainly due to low self esteem. Late bloomer and only became a man in my early 20s (I'm 30 now). Married my first serious girlfriend, woke up 6 months into the marriage and dropped her when I realized I wasn't happy and she wasn't making me happy... (we barely had sex, fought constantly and she was emotional/financial/physical abusive). When that was over, I decided to focus on myself for the first time in my life, and I did.

At that point, I re-read The Game, Mystery Method and lots of online blogs. I hung out with a few older single guys (early 40s) that were successful and naturally living a great PUA lifestyle. I began to understand women and the differences between 7s, 8s, 9s and 10s. I had a few missteps, even had a girlfriend for a short while in between doing my PUA thing, and made many life changing realizations.

I started slow, the only place I had to start was online dating websites (POF to be exact) and went out for drinks with a couple cute girls. Nothing happened, not even a kiss close (in retrospect I could have), but it was a good start to having me speak to woman again and gain my confidence back. I was surprised to see their response and I gained my self confidence back. I changed my look, I became more sophisticated in my look, my clothes, well groomed facial hair, new haircut, etc., my cologne, the works.

Since POF didn't really seem to work and friends were talking about Tinder, I downloaded the app and that's when the real magic happened. I should find the time to post all of my findings and techniques for Tinder. But long story short, I successfully closed the first girl I met on the first date and since then over the course of 4 months I fully closed 7 girls out of 14. Even had healthy FWB with a few. Granted they were all 7s and 8s but it felt great, my confidence boosted, my game perfected and I am now moving on to 9s and hopefully 10s (totally different game btw if you are new to this).

The side effects of PUA so far on me? For the better or for the worse, I don't really trust women very much and I think that a "large majority" are attention-seeking worth-nothings that are completely lost between wanting to secure a guy to have kids and validating their self worth. It doesn't apply to everyone, and maybe it's a cultural thing from where I'm from, but in general I realized that girls are illogical and crazy lol. If you're new, you'll read that everywhere.

The by-product of PUA so far on me? I am so happy single. Relationships seem like black holes that would drain my time and energy unnecessarily when I am at a peak time in my life career-wise and I own a side-business too. I still hope to find someone different, independent, smart, beautiful to me, down to earth, one day but that's just what's left of the sensitive good guy in me (he's here to stay). But there's time until that happens, since it's unlikely to happen anytime soon due to the likelihood anyway.

So here it is, I hope to help others here find themselves, gain a little self-confidence, provide advice the best I could even though I don't know everything. But I have made mistakes, I even may have made one just tonight, but you win and you lose, you learn and you grow.

Be happy, be your best friend, put yourself first, be a good person, and do a lot of ladies until you realize what's really important and find true happiness. Well at least that's the plan. Otherwise, just have fun you crazy bastards.

ezlay

I had the same realization a few years ago after some relationships. I still hold that view.

It seems like my new goal is to be an RFC.... rich, fit and confident With what I have learned so far, gaming would become second nature.