Hi guys

Been in relationship for over 2,5 year. Living together in apartment for last two years. Relationship was like a crazy roller coaster(saying bad things about each other, her crying, me getting pissed off, breaking up and getting together next day etc but every time we end up putting things together). Around 3-4weeks ago we had massive argument, and what I mean by massive is beyond everything. Story end up between that we broke up and I was sleeping in the living room for a week (still leaving together that time) We started to prepare ourselves for finding places to live while we decided to give our flat back to the agency. One day I got back from work and we started conversation (normal tone of voice) about flat and all the paper work, when I brought the confirmation of us breaking up, I said something in line of :"
Me:Just want to confirm that we are going in our own ways"
She: "what you mean?"
Me: Wanted to know to be really clear.

Than we talk about all the bits and bobs forgetting about it(I clearly stated that I really dont want to but if this is what she wants Im cool wit that etc, and she said: that we should think this over cos lots of shit has happened.
So after few days that we clear the air we got to the point of living together (renting a room for both of us rather than flat again) or moving separately where she said that: she is not really sure if we should cos it doesnt make any diference while she is always alone at home( I work evenings she during the day, and I work every weekend cos this is the time when I make my money) she is faling asleep alone without me, cant do anything on weekend while Im at work so basically the re is no diference.
Me: If we gonna move out separately its not gonna work out, that Im sure Ive been there before. But if you need this let me know and I will follow with that decision.

After 10 days while I was at work this is what she text me after she re initiate conversation about moving places:
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Me: We dont have to talk about it just tex me if you wanna live together or separetly, ther is no point to wait and talk because we will end up homless.
She: Im still not sure either way. I think we should live apart and see how it goes, I want us to get back to how we were when we were happy.

I didnt reply till midnight (busy at work)
Me: OK
She: How much do you love me?

I reply with some stupid things and she asked me if the answer for that question is No then. I ignore that text.
6 days ago she texted me again if I love her where i answer maybe(I think I fuck this thing up here)
2 days ago when we were texting very briefly she and up with her last text
She: PS I love you.

Now she moved out already and Im moving within next two days and was wondering where this is going. She is is 8 or 9 type girl and a teacher so it looks that she has her shit together.
Now Im sitting at home and wonder if I should make myself more scarce while we are appart, play a bit of a game cos I know that there is someone who is interested in her and YES I dont loose her and wnat her back to start leaving together again and be happy.

To end up this story you can believe or not I was planing to make propose on 25th of December which is within two weeks!

I can't even tell what you want to happen here...

Because if you want to keep her it seems like it's easy. You just call her up or meet up and tell her that. She sounds like she's in but she's unsure if you are in... So she doesn't want to put it all out there if you're going to reject it.

Now - with that said, you two sound like you have some communication issues.

Every relationship has issues. People break up and get back together. It happens.

I think Im coming from place now where Im scared that she leaves me cos we dont live together anymore...:/

It also got me thinking now that do you think that her moving out is any sort of test or she just going after having more space, hmmm?

Dude...

Forget WHY she is doing shit. She's doing it...

Figure out what you WANT... And then let us know - we can't help you unless you can tell us what you want.

Forget proposing or you two living together. Come up with a way to solve your issues together, if they can be solved. That should be the priority right now.

What I want is to re spark the massive attraction which she was in at the begging of our relationship. And what I wanna ask how to do it properly?

Great. You should always write what you want in your posts, for future reference... It was really not clear.

You may need to give her some time to miss you... Then you hit her up with the "hey lets meet for a drink" message... and you tell her you haven't been happy these past few weeks, and that you miss her.

Don't propose to her. That isn't the way to spark attraction.

You gotta figure shit out first. And to touch on my previous comment: I think you two have some communication issues and texting isn't helping you... Don't text your arguments and serious questions like 'confirming' that you two are done... you need to have these talks face to face.

It almost feels like you guys are playing a game of chicken, and neither of you will just be the first to say you're not happy with the whole splitting up thing because you're afraid the other one IS ok with it... but that's just my opinion and I don't know either of you. I'm only going by what you've written here.

You need to be adults and communicate. At 2.5 yrs into a relationship you should be pros at this by now.

That's the thing. It may sounds crazy but we are together with that difference that only instead of living together we live separately, so I do t think thAt I can go silence for couple of weeks.

I do not understand what you just wrote.

Ohhh.
Earlier you mention that I should give her some space, and than tell her that I wasn't happy for last few weeks.
I took this as to go no contact with her for few weeks, which wouldn't be an option can are h Italy we are together.

Secondly would like to ask if I will be the first who say that I missed her, wouldn't I come across needy etc?

As Charles said you guys are poor communicators. Also, you gotta stop the break up and make up thing at the source. Even if the honeymoon stuff comes back, that isn't going to stop the arguments. You don't mind the disfunction, obviously as you were going to propose to a chick you fight with. If this girl has her shit in order as you say, eventually she'll leave the disfunction regardless of how happy you 2 may be for a few weeks and then go back fighting. Sit down communicate, figure out what causes the fights. You are trying to save a broken down car that still wouldn't run properly when you get it back. You're looking for a bandage for a broken leg.

Well you're in a relationship with her. Drop the pickup/PUA stuff. Seriously.

You aren't gaming her anymore.

It's not needy to tell her what you want. You're willing to lose her because you don't want to be the first to say you missed her? That's silly for a person you've been with for years.

I told you to give her some time to miss you -- and I think you guys may actually need that... I don't mean ignore her or freeze her out... What I mean is that I do not believe (based on what you wrote here) that you're ready to have that "I missed you" talk after only a day or two... you need to give it a bit of time... The alternative to that is COMMUNICATION (which I also mentioned).

Talk it out. Tell her you think this whole thing is ridiculous and that both of you want to be with each other, and that you should just figure it out. Make her sit there and talk until you decide what to do - definitively.

Texted me twice what time Im working but nothing will change in my schedule till Feb. God I miss her.

Shit. Just popped into my head that last week before she disappear from flat and moved out she asked me if I will go to her sister(where there all family will be) for Christmas. I don't know if the offer is still on the table because of the current circumstances between us but one way or another I don't feel now that I should be going right now from the other hand if I will say that Im not going she may see my behaviour as rude?

Oohhh shit. I know what happened! She's not talking or texting or getting any other way In Touch with me-she simply had me t me!