Hi,

Hows it going boys? I am very new to this website and the PUA world. Just recently after a nasty break-up I have started going out and meeting women. I have been doing ok, but still need some help when it comes to High-caliber women because i can get nervous. Lets get to the point: I am 24 and I meet a go go dancer at a strip club who is 34(she looks 25).. A few minutes into the convo she tries to impress me by saying she has posed for playboy blah blah makes me look her up. I looked her up on playboy, and I also find out she is recently divorced and has a young kid.... The days after she texts me almost immediately after I text her, so I tell her I will call her. I call her. This is where it got tricky. I think I may have called her at a bad time cuz she was going to pick up her son when she told me she had "a few minutes". On the phone she was very short with answers. I may have also said a little too much like, "why are you being so short", "how often to you get your son" etc etc. at first i actually did want to know when she has her son and what not, and i also wanted to act like I cared. Anyhow the convo was very short maybe few minutes. Then after I texted her and said " thanks for the awkward convo haha" because come on she was being very short with me and making it awkward. She didn't ask me one single question, and she said on the phone "we agreed on being just friends at the club" and that she only wanted to get to know me because she is "new to the city and needs to meet more people" etc etc. LIES. Why give a 24 year old your number to meet people?? Maybe you should meet people your age then! Anyhow I think i still have a chance with this woman and I want to elevate it. Any suggestions on how to text her now, or what to do to make an older mature HOT woman interested in me.

She may genuinely be wanting to use you to meet new people.

Shes 34 not 54 ! Also she has obviously led a pretty clubbers lifestyle being an Ex playbunny and a strippers.
You should use the meet new people as an excuse to get her out 1 on 1.

Hey, fancy going to the bar sometime... think a few of my mates are going on friday but ill find out for sure?

bla bla bla Get her out isolated you and her and escalate ! No doubt she wants something from you though as she is 34 has a kid and hanging around a stippers - this cries looking for a desperate guy with money too me.

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She's a pro, dude.

She's into freebies and has 20 guys buying her dinner every night, drinks every weekend, etc.

That's what she's trying to pull you into.

Do a search on this forum for "stripper" - there are many, many threads that sound like yours.

agreed !

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It's funny how you say "Maybe she should meet people her own age" and then "How do I make her attracted to me".

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RSDTyler

Yes I agree but I don't care If shes a pro, I think this chick wants a young fun guy to show her a good time. Shes coming out of a nasty break up with her husband leaving her...
She probably has low self esteem or she cheated on him and that's why he left, who knows....

I texted her saying what the first buddy said: "Fancy going to the bar this weekend let you know"

The difference between me and suckers is I wont just buy women free shit without seeing some interest first.

Ill let you guys know how it goes!

Haha, so if she shows some interest you'll open up your wallet?

It's fine if you want to go after this girl but you need to get this straight in your head. You shouldn't buy her anything. As soon as you do, you are F'd. Period.

Take her out to do something fun, get her back to your place for a movie and escalate. But do not take her shopping, go out and pay for her cover charges and buy her drinks all night, don't get her gifts. And as soon as she starts asking for any or all of those things you need to be prepared to call it off.

CORRECTION: I don't buy them shit unless they show me shit meaning pussy. I don't put out unless they do.

Well good luck then. Some guys need to learn the stripper lesson on their own

it can be one of the more costly lessons ! they normally pull you in with the pussy and before you know it shes got a tag watch and loboutins out of you !

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I think she just mistakenly thought OP was cool, and thought he goes out to interesting parties and stuff(and wanted invites).

If she wanted to lead him on to drain his money, she wouldn't be telling him to leave her alone and being distant. She'd be flirty and telling him she likes him, but just doesn't know if she can trust men or things like that.

You guys see the word "stripper" and just start writing a script that has zero to do with anything he's said.

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RSDTyler

That's so not true (in my case at least)...

She said to him - in his original post:
To me, that's "come to the club, buy some dances, buy me drinks and then take me out afterwards..."

She's a gogo dancer. He can't buy lap dances from her. Gogo dancers don't do lap dances.

OP never even said "stripper". Someone else used the word and then everyone started writing fan fiction.

I converted "stripper" to "gold digger". And this is not how they behave with their targets.

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Fuck my reply didnt post ! lol

Yeah i know a few 'strippers' and i have to say some of them are lovely some are not .

The reasons im saying he'll learn the hard way are as follows (i could be wrong)

1- Shes hanging around a strip club (guys looking to waste money on a dear hardon go here)
2- Strippers dont just give out there number for invites to parties they know Hundreds of guys.
3- Shes said 'we said we're only friends in the club' this cries out Push push push then she will pull him in to me.

A girl who friendzones that quickly in that environment isnt daft and she set the boundary line, the only way he'll get across the boundary line - shower me with money and then you can see a tit or 2.

I'm not saying shes a stripper - im saying shes a girl whose hanging around these places.

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It's a gogo dancer at a strip club...

Anyway, we can agree to disagree.