Went out to a party with my buddy in the city. Approaching the place I was super nervous, I never went to a 'real' party before. I have what I believe to be social anxiety so approaching the place and the bouncers and the music going 'boom boom boom' really scared me a bit. But when I walked through that door and had the music coursing through my veins my attitude totally changed...

Maybe it's because I love music and dancing but immediately I was head bobbing and totally relaxed. (BTW I'm on crunches SPAM, so this wasn't so easy dancing!). Well me and my buddy made our way to the back outside where it was less crowded and less bumper to bumper. Buncha girls, first thing I did was start grinding on some. I even had a funny moment where I see my buddy with some people, someone says something about dancing so I come up and go "I can't dance, I'm a bit disabled" (Jokingly). Girl jumps in front of me, I grab the reins and start grooving

Later on I see a cute girl, I make a little conversation.. but nothing too amazing "Where you live, when did you arrive". But then I pull a trick I saw from Youtube-Pickups "Hey, do me a favor, put your number in my phone". "Sure". Wow that was awesome of me. BTW, I was not on any drugs at the time (Yet), this was purely myself.

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I surprised myself at how social I was. I've been trying to get myself to go out to do daygame for months and months but always put it off or if I do go out, I go "Fuck it I'll hit on people next time". I have hopes that this great confidence wasn't JUST because I had my buddy around.

My regrets are: Not approaching anyone else that night, seeing what I did I could have EASILY got 5 more numbers. Coulda, shoulda even K-closed some. I ran into a dude early on talking about having a Makeout record for the night, I followed him a little to learn but lost him when I went to the bathroom. I think I have a new issue of 'one hit and quit'. This is especially an issue when you're trying to avoid Oneitis. THOUGH, girls or no girls I had a great time and talked my ass off like I've never done before

Feel good about the one number.

Always praise the fruits of your labor. Whenever you think of your regrets, think of the solution next time and completely disregard the problem. There is no problem if you tunnel vision on the solution.

The way of this thinking goes as follows:
You have a place to get to. There is only one direct road to that place. Your thoughts are that you will go directly, uninterrupted. But now there is a road block and you have to detour. No big deal, there is no sense focusing on the road block. Just take the detour. The detour, due to the road block, IS the direct route.

Take the direct route, whatever it is. Go out and get one number. Get five numbers. Get zero numbers. The important part is that you try for whatever controllable goal you have in mind. You have zero control of others. You can manipulate and get numbers all you want from girls that may like or dislike you. What you want is quality. What you want is control over yourself and your goals. Some are long term and some are short term but the important factor is to keep your goals within the realm of your personal control, and to feel good about them.

A realistic goal is to find out if such girl is interesting enough, and if she is, find if she is willing to give you her number. You can control that. In any matter of outcome, you have completed your task and should feel good about it.

It is important for us all to praise and be grateful for our own efforts. Repetition is the mother of skill. With enough diligence, we will manifest the fruits our labor.

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Congratulations on having the balls to go and get it done. Though you may have only gotten one number its better than no numbers. Couple months from now you'll be the life of the party and have so many girls that you have no idea what to do with all of them. Again congratulations and keep on growing!

One is better than none...

And with the approaches where you got none, you learned what NOT to do.

Now take that knowledge and apply it to future approaches.

It's how we all learned.

Shittt. She hasn't replied. I got her number late Saturday night but didn't text her till yesterday night at like 10 PM (Tuesday). Did I wait too long? I should mention I also called her at like 4:30 AM after the party Idk why, I realized she obviously wasn't gonna answer

My text was something along the lines of: Hey! Didn't forget about me already did ya? That cool dude with the blahblah

EDIT: I think I should have sent her a 'confirmation' text after she dialed in her number the night too.

I didn't choose to wait a long time to text her either (I don't do that 3 day bullshit), the Sunday after I didn't get to sleep for some stupid reasons so I slept hard into Monday.

Bump

Honestly dude, I was told to never say anything like ''Hey, do you remember me''? ''Dont forget about me''. etc. because if you did good you should have left a lasting impression as my buddy said. Also, I was told to have the attitude of ''I'm important enough to be remembered so why ask, just assume''. If it was me I would have said '' Hey, its so and so from blah blah blah. How are you?'' or something similar. The situation would dictate my reply but I will always assume I am remembered. If I am not, that's my fault for not leaving a lasting impression. Good job on getting her number though. 1 number or 10, as long as you learn and make progress you are doing good IMO.

Yes you waited too long. She likely forgot who you even were... (figure a few other guys may have gotten her number that night too)...

And yeah, always send the playful confirmation text: "Hey, it's the guy who was hitting on you just now... Now you have my number too!"

I ALWAYS forget that one heh

You don't have an issue of "one number and quit" because it only happened one time. Congrats on the number though. Get out there have more fun and talk to more girls - they are lonely and bored - they need excitement and they are counting on you.