Hi everybody, I'm a 20 years old guy from Italy.

I have a problem I want to share, because it is just too weird...

Last Friday I met this girl in a club (we had mutual friends, but we were not introduced by anyone). As soon as she saw me she started staring at me; I noticed that, and talking with some of the mutual friends who where at a house party that took place 2 hours earlier (I was not at that party) I discovered that she was a bit tipsy but she wasn't into anyone before me (did not kiss anyone at the party). I started sarging her and she was clearly enjoying it. Then, I decided to spend 5 minutes with my friends, and saw her rejecting 2/3 guys telling them she was "taken", then came to me and started kissing me without saying a word.
We spend the whole night kissing and stuff like that, until the club closed. I wanted to fuck her (obviously I did not clearly tell her that), and it seemed to me that she wanted to fuck me too, but she had to go home because her parents wanted her to get back to her house (she is 18 and it was 5am).
We walked 5 minutes out the club holding hands, and then she gave me her number suggesting that we needed to stay in touch (she seemed perfectly sober)
The day after I texted her (around 3-4pm) but she didn't respond until 22pm, telling me (after some texts) that she was going to spend the night alone watching movies...and then she asked me "where are you?". I told her I was in some bars in the city (Milan). She told me if I was near "Arco" (a district in Milan) but I was not, so (I regret doing that) I told her I wasn't, asking her "why?" (with a smiley face). She didn't respond until the day after telling me that "Arco" is near her house.
Since that day we have been exchanging 2/3 texts a day because she takes forever to respond (5/6 hours) (we had a quick 15/20 texts conversation only once), and her texts are kinda cold.

I tried to stop the conversation, and I didn't text her for 2 days, but things seem like are staying the same.

Why is she acting like this?
Why she suggested me to go to her house but then didn't respond to my text?
Should I stop texting her for like a week?

I'm confused and I'm afraid I fucked up

Thanks

P.S. I will not call her by any chance, since here in Italy, if you call a girl you just met (or you don't really know) you are considered weird

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DUCA: Titolo nobiliare che nella gerarchia araldica segue quello di principe
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DUKE: A duke can either be a monarch ruling over a duchy or a member of the nobility, historically of highest rank below the monarch

Hi Duca,

Welcome -

I deleted your other thread for you. For future reference, you can delete your own posts and threads by clicking on the X at the bottom-right of your posts. You can't delete old posts, though, so act quickly when you accidentally double-post!

On your question:

She wants to sleep with you... Booty call. You weren't near Acro so she didn't bother (probably found someone else!) ---- If you want to hook up with her you need to hit her up while you're near her some night... Or wait for the next invite, and go.

If her texts are cold, get sexual with them.

She's talking to you for sex. So start talking about sex.

Thanks man

But she seems so cold...I can't understand what kind of game she is playing...

First night: kiss, holding hands and s**t (no 2nd base though)
Second night: didn't see her but she told me if I was near her house (she did not directly tell me to go there though) and then stopped texting as I answered to her message (maybe she changed idea during the night?)
Days after: writes cold messages (she never texts me first), texts back after half a day

I stopped texting her after a brief conversation yesterday at 7pm (the message she sent did not contain any question though) and wrote her this morning this text: "OK, so there was either a Grizzly Bear in my mirror this morning, or I just really look like HELL when I wake up! Ahahahah"

Now here is 5.30pm (I wrote her 8/9 hours ago) and she hasn't responded yet

If, as you say, she is trying to have sex, then she is not doing it in the right way...

Since she always responds (even if her texts are always boring and cold) should I think she is still interested? (otherwise would not ever text me back?)

Chances are:
1) she is playing a game with me, trying to make me crazy
or
2) she is not interested anymore and is still texting me back to be polite (she never responded quickly though, so either she does not like to send a lot of texts, or she has never been really attracted to me...but then why the kisses!?!?)

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DUCA: Titolo nobiliare che nella gerarchia araldica segue quello di principe
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DUKE: A duke can either be a monarch ruling over a duchy or a member of the nobility, historically of highest rank below the monarch

Ok, it's 2am here in Italy, and I texted her at 7am so I'm pretty sure that for the first time she will not respond to a text (other texts were cold and took forever to her to text back anyway)

So I came up with two "tactics"
1) Not texting her for 5/6 days
2) Text her tomorrow (friday) telling her that I am close to her house (in a funny way of course, and not mentioning sex or stuff like that...just to find out how she behaves) (she lives near clubs/bars so being close to her house sounds legitimate)...I know this tactic may sound random, but I came up with this remembering the booty call I fucked up on saturday last weekend. Could work but also not, depending if she feels like going out (she has finals next week) or if her parents are home or not.
I wanted to use this tactic on saturday (in order not to write her for two days) but unfortunately I will be in town only on friday night

What do you guys think...better #1 or #2?

P.S. I'm so tired I did not even read what I wrote, so please do not pay attention to my grammar

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DUCA: Titolo nobiliare che nella gerarchia araldica segue quello di principe
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DUKE: A duke can either be a monarch ruling over a duchy or a member of the nobility, historically of highest rank below the monarch

Definitely number 2. You tried to freeze her out before and it didn't work so why try again. It's a shame you can't just call her, that would have been my advice.

Let us know how it goes brother!

Why do you think she acts like this?

Friday night--->acts like I was the best guy on earth kissing, holding hands and stuff like that
Saturday night--->tells me she's home alone and asks if I'm near her house but than does not text back anymore
Other days--->acts cold and takes forever to respond
Yesterday--->does not even text back

I'm soooo confused

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DUCA: Titolo nobiliare che nella gerarchia araldica segue quello di principe
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DUKE: A duke can either be a monarch ruling over a duchy or a member of the nobility, historically of highest rank below the monarch

I think she will flake on you, if you wanted to meet her.

Sounds like she got real life issues and not going all-in like you. Give it some time, if you ask me.

Freeze out will indeed work, unless she got stuff going on(school, work, etc.)and that should not worry you. But it is still better to calm down and relax and see what time brings(you should actually go hit on other girls).

Good luck.

Does it actually matter WHY she acts like this?

She could be bat shit crazy for all you know... and here's a forum full of guys all trying to figure out potential reasons why she could be acting that way...

We don't know her.

For what it's worth, I told you why I thought she was behaving that way, and you bald-faced ignored it (she wants you for sex and you're sending boring, benign messages instead).

She just texted me (didn't send her any messages since yesterday morning) asking me what I'm doing tonight!

I texted her this

Me: "hola mamacita...margaritas friday night on the pier? Do you have something in your mind?"

She: "Idk yet "

Me: "1M dollars question....beer or cocktails?

She: "Cocktaillllsss"

NOW I'M PLANNING TO TEXT HER SAYING

"Then we are gonna grab some cocktails on the pier!" (with some sort of smiley face or stuff like that)

What do you guys think?

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DUCA: Titolo nobiliare che nella gerarchia araldica segue quello di principe
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DUKE: A duke can either be a monarch ruling over a duchy or a member of the nobility, historically of highest rank below the monarch

Ok that's what I texted her:

Me: "Then we will have some cocktails on the pier after dinner....you better not be late or you will pay the first round!"

She: "Oooomg I'm always late!!"

Me: "You better not be late this time then "

Now I'm waiting for her response

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DUCA: Titolo nobiliare che nella gerarchia araldica segue quello di principe
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DUKE: A duke can either be a monarch ruling over a duchy or a member of the nobility, historically of highest rank below the monarch

Me: "You better not be late this time then " sounded a little bit needy, just sayin.

Let us know how it goes.

The lads are right, we don't know this girl. Infact maybe oneday you'll be in a position to ask her. If you know what I mean haha.

She acts like this because she is a female human being.

Women are led by their emotions, not logic.

On Friday night, she was FEELING into you so she made out with you.
On Saturday night, she was FEELING bored so she sort of tried to invite you over.
On days she is cold, she is FEELING cold.

Like Charles said, the reasons are immaterial. Get her FEELING into you again and go from there.