Hello guys!


This has been a new issue I have been having lately and I would like to ask for your opinions on how to solve it...


After taking the number and the girl seem pretty interested and mostly she ask to keep in touch or offer to take my number and I setup the date with her a day or two before the date she starts backing up and create an excuse to flake or to give a hope of reschedule later which I don't know if she is gonna stick to or make up anoher excuse not to show up ...


two recent examples .. : one at the mall who works after taking the number she was the one who pretty much pushing to meet up later and things like that but after we separate and started chitchatting about date ( I told her I want to take her out on a date ..) she is ok with it and a date or two before the date she was like " Oh I have a life and can't go out with anyone till I get rid of it .. " .. " I told her : ok, no worries. good luck " she replied " I will let you know when I have my life back .. lol " ..

I hate this shit so I told her "If I am available by then .. best of luck " ...

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the second is a girl from a dating app .. she was the one who was super excited to give me her number and meet me and everything was amazing! a day before meeting she didnt reply to my text then next day I asked her about if she wants me to pick her up or meet up where we suppoes to meet up ? .. and she said that she is having some issue and she doesn't think she will make a good first impression so she thinks we should postpone till things calm down.


I was cool with that and I just told her to relax and hopefully she will manage to solve her issue soon.. she replied oh thanks for understanding your are so sweet! I appreciate you.. so how was your day been? .. I replied and made a joke and told her if it makes her feel better to share her problem id listen then suggested maybe next week we can meet up then she was like i'll solve don't worry .. and she was happy with that and mentioned something about the full moon ..

so, i'm confused not sure if its only those two girls? or my approach has an issue make them do that? ...

I mean with honesty, the first girl I feel like its over but not for the second one so I might give the second a chance but not the first ...

any thoughts ? or feedback ? or solution to this ..

I will only comment on the girl you met in RL. You need a larger sample size of 2 to analyze results in any event, but generally you want to form a very close connection with the girl when you meet her, you want to leave her wanting more and for her mind to be working on you. Sounds like you did that with the mall girl, but again it's just one girl.

Yeah! I know my man .. everything was great she was the one who wanted to keep in touch and wanted to chill out with me and meet me later and find me on Facebook and flicker and there a huge thing we have in common which is our passion for photography and cooking .. so she was like yeah I would go on a date with ok sure but i'm not ready for a relationship yet so no formal dates like a movie or a restaurant .. and I agreed on that .. and more to the story ..

I know she is one girl and careless really but want to know how well i'm doing with going direct like asking them out right there rather than playing text games .. basically using the text as a method of just logical things related to the date ...

as for the online one she is cool and I think id try following up with her because I felt connected with her via text and more we literally were playing a games that we get us to kino right away like holding hands and being more sexual than usual ...

for the RL one she seem interested but she is 20 and just got out of high school despite the ambitions she has and everything great about her I feel like she is still having the games mind set .. so I'm not sure i'll leave it days to decide on that ...

see I just want to know as I said what i'm doing in direct game because I'm getting bored of text games and shit lol.

It is a very good method. You can step this method up even further by arranging the date in person for that night or the night after. As with anything, test to get the results that work best for you. Increase your sample size.

Oh yeah! thats what I did with the mall girl but she was like lets aim for Thursday but i'm not sure because i'm bad at planing things on the spot .. well, i'll keep testing this method and see which is better for me direct or in-direct

I don't know of it's seasonal but I've had to girls, both of whom I was fairly intimate with just cut me out cold turkey. I think some girls just do not respond well to the speed things escalate and just shut down entirely.

Small sample size is definitely a factor though.