so this chick (HBperfect10 older than me 28-30) came to an event at my club(social/business/event, not night club) and asked me to take her number. There seemed to be gennuine interest based on the conversation and that she tried to get close to me(I was working so no go). I know she thinks that I go out with alot of chicks because she mentioned it. I try to stay away from formally asking chicks out in the begining because they get off on the power of it but it also poses problems when a girl thinks you're a huge player. I'm trying not to fuck this up with bad texting game. I was trying to flirt with her but am getting little to work with.I also think my text messages are bullshit,aren't flirtatious enough, and aren't leading anywhere. Should I just formally say "hey when would you be available to have a drink?" or is it better to say "hey I'm going here tonight. come join me for conversation and a drink"

Me: hey, it was nice talking to you earlier at Blank, in fron before you left-my name
Her: good morning blank

me:Hey hope you're feeling the holiday spirit an aren't a grinch like me jk
me: Im going to some cool parties later this wee, come join
her grinch? why?
her: cool parties? im down
Me Im in a turkey coma...
me Happy thanksgiving! (I was really drunk otherwise would have not texted this)
Her no turkey here
here haha I'm cooking now
me: whhhhat no turkey....why? whats replacing it?
me passed out
her beef tenderloin

me: come to blank awesome party

me: brrrr who let the cold in?...

You are right. Your flirting sucks donkey dick. I couldn't even tell if you were flirting or not. It was that bad.

You also need to stay away from the drinking...this will fuck your game up also making you look foolish such as you described within the texts although I don't think saying Happy Thanksgiving was such a flaw...don't know why you did.

There's no flirting...period. Anyway she's a turkey hater, might want to stay away from this one haha

I can flirt the panties off any girl in different situations, but unless they value it as some crossing in hostile territory you can say quite a lot without her doing anything. I couldn't even understand the Grinch shit you were trying on her haha Like wtf man?

You need to practice on flirting...I have lots and lots of tricks with that which will BOOST your game tremendously, but I wont post them all here because they are "a secretive formula" and it is easier to explain given a situation. PM me for that if you like the advice I'm giving right now.

Those 2 last texts concerning a party and then about the cold. I'm figuring the second one was that she was giving you the cold shoulder and blowing you off...I understood that, but you don't want to act like you're taking these things to heart, it didn't sound like it was in a joking manner unless it was cold at the place? I don't know, but maybe she took it like I took it.

And were these in the same conversation, the same day? I'm a little confused when those texts were given seeing as there was a space, but I'd just wait it out unless something else transpires. Also what you said about asking the question in text...I'd go something like with "You should hang out with me some time" so yes I'd go with something like the second one about joining you. Saying the word "should" helps the matter because it's not a question, it's an invitation and reassuring her that this is something she SHOULD be doing and if not she's missing out big time...no taking that risk for rejection since you are just advising her.

Just make sure to have her attention and within the first few texts set something up, don't procrastinate or she'll get busy and wander off!

I hope all goes well and my advice helped, if it did you can always PM me and that goes for anyone who requires help in any situation. Good luck!

well the lack of a response could also be attributed to the fact that I invited her out at 1am...

and the last text I sent her saturday was at 7pm.... I was trying to lead it into something else... the messages were sent a day apart, so it might be making me look desperate


At this point, I'm wondering should I just tell her to come join me for a drink or wait to see if i get a response from a text that may be misinterpreted..