So minus my other personal issues, my GF of 1 and a half years broke up with me today...
She's beautiful and told me it is because of a series of incidents that made her feel like nothing to me. Also because I was doings drugs behind her back.
I've never in my crazy life fallen for a girl but this girl was really the one...
I pretty much begged for her back but she keeps saying that she wants it but it's not good for us and she doesn't feel the same anymore... I unfollowed her off Instagram and tried to get her to stop texting me... She was offended I did that and kept texting me how she didn't feel certain about the whole situation and told me how she wanted to hold me.... I told her to keep it 100% and if she wanted to break up with me to go full out and not contact me...
I told her goodnight and I went out with my friend that's a girl who got totally hammered n just ran off and my best friend who's not so much the best... I went home crying and feel like I just need to off myself. I miss her so much and wish shed just forgive me... Also should I delete my Facebook account and just avoid her at all costs? She gets like 100 likes on Facebook n I don't get really get. any (oh... How I wish Facebook did not determine my greatness).... What must I do to get over my first love who is 70% sure of keeping us broken off?

I'm no expert here but i think most other
replies will come down to this ...fuck other women!

I had a friend who was in the same boat as you.... he was devasted because he grilfriend broke up after 2y and started dating her co-worker

so we planned a trip to prague
long story short: got drunk, really drunk on the first night. Second night we went to a stripbar and he decided to pay some more to make some sweet love with the striper. He banged out his poison and felt great afterwards.

I'm not saying you should go out and pay for sex, i'm just indicating that my friend found a way to feel better again..even if it's by doing something other people resent.

just my 2 cents here

Hi OP - sorry to hear about the breakup, but c'mon. It's just a girl. They make new ones every day.

I get maybe you loved her and that she was special... But here's the harsh truth: She was not special.

It's also only been a day. Give it a week of no contact... see what happens.

I can't even advise you on how to go about this until YOU decide how you want to handle this. Are you going to get her back? (Why, if so? Sounds like an uphill battle to me, for a girl who doesn't want you anymore).

If you want to get over her, there's a lot of good material on this forum about HOW to get over an ex. Please search for it OP.

I'll give you a Coles notes version:

1) Delete all traces. Remove her number, instagram, FB, twitter... everything
2) Stay busy - FRIENDS are key. Hit them up, go drinking and have fun.
3) Flirt with everything that moves. Join Tinder immediately and start dating.

Are you going to find a replacement relationship on Tinder? Not likely... (but why would you want another relationship right away anyway?) But what an ego boost it is to see 200 matches and hot girls actually eager to go out with you... and the better news there is: You literally CAN go out with them.

This is all true. Realize that you are going through withdrawal and as perfect for you may have thought she was, she is feeling different. I have been amazed at how when I have kept busy after a break up, found other women etc, how many times I get a message in a fee weeks, months, etc. and when I do, I have usually moved on completely, to the point of laughing at myself for how I was. It is very hard in the initial stages, closest thing I can think of is quitting smoking. But breaking up can be a powerful force that can bring you to the next level of life: Harness it.

These posts should be stickied as examples of when a guy is in a relationship, gets treated like shit, in all honesty probably got cheated on multiple times and ignored tons of advice to walk away. I'm sorry for your loss, but you already asked for this, I'm hoping at least other guys in your situation can walk away and take advice instead of wasting everyone's time at their own detriment.

Now, I recommend NOT fucking 10 other women right now. You have personal issues that you need to work on and another girl is not what you need right now. Whatever the problems are in your life that got you to stay with this girl, have you on drugs and have you thinking about killing yourself, fix those.

Guys... I'm just so lost and lonely and I see that she's been doing something with this guy behind my back... She said it was just photography or something for banana republic.
It's 5 am now I can't sleep, I can't eat, I'm failing my classes, and although I can get a lay at any moment I just can't look at another woman... I just don't feel the same and I feel like she's having a blast without me!
But thanks for the support guys... I just need to find my direction, and treat it like a learning lesson... But I was always a player and when I wanted to settle after going to jail, I chose to wife her and made all these plans and marry her... It just sucks.

Behind your back? You're both single right?

Do you still do drugs?

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I knwo it feesl extreme. But this is jsut something everyone goes through when your young and inexperienced. You figure life and relationships out as you go along and how to deal with your own emotions. It will get easier and then not painful at all but amazing and worthwhile.

Read some eastern philosophy to help deal. Stop doing drugs reach for happiness and contentment internally not externally.

Was facing exact same situation with my ex 2 years ago, she dumped me and left me with nothing more than broken heart.. I basically ignored her for 2 months and she started texting me again and eventually she came over my place and we had great sex.. Suggesting just to ignore her and go fuck others meanwhile, they often come back.

I totally feel your pain, been there, trust me! Go have some fun, flirt with other girls just don't think about her , trust me, she's just one out of 100 future girls you will be "loving"

@PEBBLE
no... When we were dating and i haven't done any drugs since...

So here's what I did... I found out that I was just making assumptions about that photographer guy and she had never even made contact with him since he asked her (from what I know)...
I realize that we both need space to grow but we are still in love... It was just bad timing as we are both still young...
My friends tell me to find different girls and forget about her, but I do not seem to be attracted to any others sexually and in any other ways.
So I proposed to her that we just have sex and we can love each other but there will be no nagging and we are free to explore and grow which ever way that may be...
And tomorrow we are meeting up to fuck and see if we can do this...

I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts on my situation...

It seems like you've made up your mind, so what will other people's thoughts mean to you?

Just about everyone has told you to move on and fix yourself, but you don't want to do that and argued why you can't do it. So my thoughts are that you don't think about killing yourself when she dumps you again. When she dumps you again, accept the fact that the best thing you can do is get more women. When she dumps you again, focus on the things that will better your life and your future. When she dumps you again, don't write another post on how miserable you are without her.

If you missed the theme of my message, she's going to eventually dump you again. It's always easier to dump someone that you've dumped before. They'll be immune to your emotional state. The best thing for you in the long run is deal with the pain now, learn from it and grow. Once you recover from it, you'll look back at it and you won't even remember why losing her bothered you so much.

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You know... Something inside me tells me to prepare for another one... She told me that she realizes that she wants to be with me in the long term and that we just need a break (about 1 month or more) to get our individuality back, but for some reason I cannot trust her.
I can't help the fact that I love her and i try to believe that we will be together forever but reality tells me to make a solid back up plan and leave this girl...

When she called me and said she realized that she wanted to be with me, work things out and have a break, she told me something out of honesty that I overlooked because of the joy I was feeling that she would take me back... But now I'm quite confused as to what to think about this situation...
She told me that she allowed for a guy friend to come over because he had no other place to stay... I very much like this guy, and although my GF's family was home, I am now quite irritated as she did this to me before with her ex-BF because he needed a place to stay for a little bit, and I told her how I felt about it.
Although she did it while we were broken up and although I know she did not cheat on me... I am quite fucking furious...
I feel like I should play a game with her n break her fucking heart, or just not answer her texts...
I am knew to this "having a break" thing and don't know my limits as to how far I should pretend to care or not care...
All I know is that I did not invite a girl to my home...
Should I bring it up to her or ignore her?