| I'm 21. I first discovered the community last summer. My life has already changed because of it, and I'd like to thank every PUA out there - because we all stand on the shoulders of giants. None of us would be anywhere if it weren't for the knowledge and insights of those who got into the game before us.
At the time, I was in the middle of a bad breakup from an LTR - in fact the only girl I've ever loved (cheesy? maybe... but I have to be honest with myself). I was in such a depression, but ironically it was the source of a motivation to gain success with women like never before. About a week before I discovered PUA, I saw a stunning Korean HB 9 in a coffee shop one night. I approached her and struck up some genuine conversation, but without being the "nice guy". I don't know if it was fool's mate or sheer luck but I f-closed her that night.
Over the course of the rest of the summer I discovered PUA and started gaining knowledge... I saw some of Mystery's show and was intrigued, and I began to have a new outlook, or so I thought. I landed some dates with 2 girls, one of which I found so boring, the other of which I decided to keep as a friend because due to a job change I wouldnt be in her area frequently anymore.
Then around September, stumbling my way through some PUA I learned from this forum, I met an HB 8 and she became my gf for a while. But something was still wrong... I was still seeing my ex sort-of and in that whole "maybe we'll get back together phase". I was so fucked up, and as a result, my game was fucked up. I broke up with her at the end of October.
I then started dating another HB 8 in November, but she was so busy with her job and I think she was stringing me along a little... and I knew I had fallen into some AFC ways. My confidence was still off... and I knew it was because I wasnt really over my original ex. This new HB 8 flaked out, and I knew I had to change something.
In December through early January I hit a low point. I was beginning to sarge regularly running day game, even got some # closes and some Day 2's but never went any further and never got past K-closes. I also still had way too much AA. I knew I needed to fundamentally change my outlook and everything about me. I had the desire to do whatever it took to become a PUA, but I had 2 big problems: my personal life was fucked up because of feelings over my ex, and worst of all I wasnt trying to build a skill set: all of my sarges hinged on getting closes and landing dates.
So I went back to the drawing board. I read and re-read The Game, Ross Jeffries, Mystery Method, Juggler Method... I watched every PUA video I could find, and absorbed as much knowledge as I could. I started to mentor another guy who's still a virgin at 18, because I knew through helping him into PUA I could gain insights into my own game - exactly how Style did it when he taught workshops with Mystery while still learning himself.
But even more importantly, I finally let go of my past. I stopped being depressed - the single biggest thing holding my game back. I began to take interest in my life and being content in it - I began to take pleasure in the game as an activity in itself - I let go of all desire for victory in sarges. I used to be obsessed with using PUA to land a new gf, and then that's it, I'd be done. No more - I couldnt care less if I have a gf for now. I would much rather have the ability to sarge and close anywhere - on the subway, on campus, at the mall, a club, a supermarket - THAT is the most important thing to me.
I am on the edge of success... I will graduate from college soon and I already have a kick-ass job guaranteed. By the end of this year, I will be moved out into my own apartment, most likely rooming with an old friend who is a natural who has also gotten into PUA and is an all around great friend and great wing. If I can master the game in the next few months, that will be the ideal time for me to have those skill sets.
Over the past month I have begun to see tangible results - I have opened sets I never would have thought I could. I have crashed and burned too. But that's good.. I am very close to smashing my AA to the point where it barely affects me at all. I have begun to fundamentally improve all aspects of my life, not just PUA. Today marks a new chapter in my life toward becoming a PUA. From here on out - it's all upward. I'm even starting the Stylelife challenge this week - I'm not anything close to a newb or a total AFC, but I want to break myself down, humble myself, and achieve true mastery. I don't just want to be in the zone when I'm sarging. I want to be able to smash AA and approach a girl anywhere, anytime, even if I'm not out specifically to sarge.
This week marks my full devotion into PUA - I will be putting it into practice, and this Friday I already have planned the sarge of all sarges with my wing - and I will provide a FR for that.
This is a long intro, but I don't care. I needed to write this to encapsulate my journey thus far, and where my journey is taking me now.
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