This is tricky because she is never direct, so I have no chance to turn her down. My only option is to take the IOI and turn it into a date. What I could do is to flake it, would that be a good idea?

For example, she comes into my path, says hello, bla bla bla. I take that as an IOI and smoothly arrange to meet up for something casual (or not). When the day comes, I flake out and cancel plans. I am not sure that is better than just meeting up and then seducing her, nagging, demonstrate little interest, perhaps kiss her, but leave her with the sensation I am not giving a shit about her (which I already have done last time).

What do you guys think? Again, she's very alpha, a bit narcisistic, but has lots of insecurities and needs a lot of validation (which usually comes from her fans - shes a sub celeb).

You know how the saying goes "ppl want what they can't have" I believe that it should be rephrased to "ppl want what they THINK they can't have". There is. Reason why this girl is calling you and it may be just for sex. If that's the case then be honest with yourself and her... Is this something you can handle emotionally? If yes then the deal doesn't seem too bad, do it. But if not, tell her that! Pretending to be/do something for the sake of the game will blow up to a full blown war. Girls can play the game with their eyes closed and hands tied behind their back. I mentioned earlier that she is calling you for a reason, that reason may be that she likes the way you treat her, taking that away is risky for you. That's why it's important to be honest about what you really want and more importantly what you can handle emotionally with this girl. If you tell her that you like her too much to be gfs with benefits, she will respect your decision as well as your strength and uncompermising self confidence. I guarantee if you can do that, and don't go back on your decision, ThAts really important, you will be irresistible to her. Girls don't want a pushover, a rug, they want strong, self confident partner. One who is not afraid to stand up for themselves and not be walked all over, there is a very fine line here of being that person and being an asshole. Girls like assholes. Women love men. And even tho that line may be thin, there is a huge difference btwn a pushover and a guy who treats his woman with respect.

Finally got out of the friend zone last night. After blewing her off a couple times in the last couple weeks, which undoubtly raised her interest, we arranged to meet up in her place. It was less than 10 seconds from the moment she opened the door to us naked in the bedroom. Really intense and long love making. Spent the rest of the day together around town. Awesome!

To this, I strongly credit these very simple behaviors I addoped after getting the "let's be friends" talk:

- Always made clear to her that I would not be just friends with her.
- Sometimes I would hit on her playfully, to then make myself distant and not reply to her texts.
- Got on with my life, improving myself in every possible way I could.