Hey guys,

So this is my situation, there is this bot girl I ran into a couple of times (once in a grocery store and another in starbucks) and she was with her friend who looked a little bitchy so I never approached!
now I didn't run into her for the past week except in a bar last weekend but I was in a rush and noticed she was alone! (she used to work at that bar)

I was on tinder the other day and she was on it so I know for a fact that she is single! Now here is where it gets a little complicated, I will start a new job about an hour from where I am and will be gone for 7 days for training. I know the girl's name and her facebook and we have a mutual friend ( the bar owner where she worked at while she was attending school), I know the bar owner through my ex-gf who knows his fiance and he coached me for a bodybuilding competition before.

The only way I see it right now is sending her a message on facebook, but I don't wanna be this loser just like those guys creeping on girls all the time! I don't know if it's acceptable or not but it's just that I'm not in my usual game so I'm confused about my approach!

Would love your advice guys ! Thank you

What up!

I've always wondered that same thing. Like you said, you don't want to be that guy creeping on her Facebook. That's held me back form saying what's up before and nothing became of it.

but this girl sounds like she's someone you run into on a regular basis. If so, I'd try to do it in person and just walk up and introduce yourself.

If you're not likely to see her again, I think it's totally cool to send a quick message just as long as it's straight up like "hey, you came up on my feed and I swear I saw you at ______. Am I right or am I being that creepy guy on Facebook hitting up all the cute girls right now?"

If you don't do anything, obviously shit's not going down.

but I find that regardless of whether its online or in person, being straight up and making light of the situation is always powerful. Just own the fact that you're attracted to her. It's a good thing.

Hope this helped. Helped me haha

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Yeah that's the only problem buddy!
I mean I can go to the bar where she is at but I honestly don't want to be the guy she met at a "bar" you know ? and I used to see her more often whenever me and my ex would go out and I noticed guys trying to make moves at her but her "Shield" is on big time haha

I thought of sending her a direct message and be like " Hey I saw you tagged in "x" 's picture and I swear I ran into you in wegman's a week ago! I'm out of town for a week but let's hang out when I'm back this is my number xxx-xxx"

x being the bar owner!

Yeah but the only thing that keeps spinning in my head is " you will be that loser creep" haha ! and I don't wanna go away and don't do anything about it! She looks like a keeper!

Honestly I'm sure there is a lot to this story. all I have to go off of is two posts so I really have no clue what your flavor is when it comes to game. Everyone's is deferent.

What I do know is that communicating openly and owning the fact that you're attracted to her and would like to see if she is a cool person too, is always a good thing. Wouldn't go waving my dick around in the name of being honest either. Obviously rapport is important before she she's my johnson.

I know its dangerous saying its "always a good thing", since only Sith deal in absolutes.

But even if you fall flat on your face, as long as you were being real in your approach you shouldn't give a flying fuck if someone rejects you. I don't care if its a 10 or your dad. If someone rejects you for you, it's good you got that on the table.

Now you won't waste your time being someone you're not to make someone else happy.

And if she digs you being a man and owning the fact that you are attracted pretty girls, then you are in my man. In a big way.

Again, don't be overly aggressive, but telling a pretty girl she's pretty isn't bad.

Maybe this was a little ranty and got off topic but regardless of the situation, it's better to try and fall on your ass as yourself, than miss your shot or get in as someone else.

Takes a bold man, to attract a Foxy woman

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I appreciate the insight man! I tend to always steer away from telling girls they are pretty, beautiful and all regular compliments they know ! It's different when a girl is my gf, but I usually just be myself and tease them by making fun of something they do, and it always works out well for me! I've been told by my previous gfs that what attracted them the most is my confidence and being straight forward.

I honestly would ask the bar owner to introduce me but that will cause drama with my ex because we just broke up recently so I wouldn't mention anything now.

I totally agree with you and I just needed advice because I have never sent a girl a message on facebook before so it's outside of my comfort zone I guess and I just wanted to know how it goes from the pros!

anytime man! I just barely got on this forum, but it's been cool sharing some stuff i've learned. Not saying in any way that I have all the answers because I'm learning something new about relationships all the time. It's part of why I'm here.

But it's cool talking to other guys trying to get their shit together with women.

Makes me think...

anyway good luck man, and if you're still on here when you make your move, let me know how it went.

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Will keep you posted man!

LOSE THAT THOUGHT and think the exact opposite: Think to yourself, "of course I am irresistible and she will love my attention, why wouldn't she I have a shit ton to offer."
I detect early stage one-itus.

You want this girl to swoon and get wet for you just from your presence near her? Approach a bunch of girls next week. Then approach her. Forget Facebooking her, just approach her IRL.