Well, I met this girl like a year ago. We didnt talk too much but one night we met at gig then went out and had a nice time.

After 2 weeks of that thing, I had casual sex with an ex. I dont like her, I dont even plan getting something serious with this ex although im pretty sure she wants to get together again.

After a couple of weeks later, I met the girl from the gig again, this time we were at my house and we had sex. It was really random.

But I have to say, Im pretty interested in this girl. I really like her company, I enjoy talking with her and I feel like shes a very interesting person. I would even say that sex isnt that great unlike the ex I mentioned, but I really like her being around me.

So we had sex a couple of times more, and during these days Ive received messages from this ex, telling me if I wanna meet her again. At first I was planning to have sex with her again, but to be honest... I dont feel like it anymore. I would even say Im starting to like the other girl. So I just ignored this ex.

I talked to the girl, I told her the truth like "You know Ive been out of a 8 year relationship, Im not in the best state to start a relationship at the moment. I like you but I have to be honest with you and I cant offer anything else right now"

She looked upset, then she asked me if i was dating someone else. I told her the truth and said I had sex with this ex. She said "ok".

Now, Im getting messages from this ex so Im planning meeting her and tell her "well lets just be friends and keep things like that". I told this to the girl i like, and she was like "cant you tell her that just by Facebook?, why do you have to see her?" I replied "because I dont think thats appropiate"

She sounded really uspet at the phone and told me "I gotta think a while, lets talk tomorrow, bye" .

Im starting to see this girl as potential gf, i just dont want to fuck things up cause as I stated Ive been out of a really long relationship and I dont think its smart to jump into another relationship that fast.

I told her "I want to be honest with you since the start, even if we dont know where were going. I just want to be this to be crystal clear honest"

Any advice?

Well she can't fault your honesty.

If you delivered all of this with a cool head, and were unapologetic about it, it may have been a tough pill for her to swallow, but at least you laid it out for her.

If you actually feel like you may want this girl as a serious girlfriend, you may want to start trimming out the ex... And make sure new girl knows.

look man you're not a relationship with the new girl so there's absolutely no need to tell her about the ex whatsoever. you need to be more mysterious and less transparent until you've been in a relationship with her for several months. this new girl could be fucking other guys too and you'd have no clue. women are better at covering that shit up because they don't want to be seen as sluts. men on the other hand are socially rewarded for fucking lots of hot women.

now what you did do is increase your value to the new girl. because she knows that you have other girls trying to bang you. so you're still in a good spot. but what you cannot do is go telling this new girl that you are considering making her your girlfriend. she needs to be saying that to you first.

so if you want this to work, phase out the ex, keep hanging with the new girl and don't bring up the ex anymore. if the new girl asks you about the ex, tell her you're not with her anymore. you do need to be honest about that since you already said you banged the ex.

but don't say stuff like i want to be completely honest and crystal clear with you. that's not helping you out. just talk about light, fun stuff with her until she's actually your girlfriend and has been for several months.

also if the sex isn't good i'd seriously think before longterming this girl. trust me, once you get used to her other girls will start looking really really inviting if the sex is bad.

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I think you are pretty fine here. You were upfront and honest. She will understand.

Meet your ex, keep it short and factual and move on to the next girl.

There is nothing bad with being honest. In fact I would encourage it because as soon as you start playing around ironically you will get girls that play around.

You're a smart man.

Keep it real, always listen to your gut, and any girl you deal with will have nothing but respect for you. A woman can only leave when she catches you in a lie. It gives her an excuse. It allows her to feel like you're an asshole for lying. While being honest, KIND, and upfront about everything a woman will be there for as long as you need her.

Just keep doing what you're doing man.

Although I personally feel like you could tell the ex those things through the phone. But if you've already made up your mind to see her follow up with the things you said you were going to do.

You don't need advice bro, just confirmation. You're doing the right thing.

Much Love.

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