NEW HERE NEED HELP! This is a long read but entertaining and I need the advice.

This has been the craziest relationship I have ever been in, and I should just let this crazy girl go, but I want to really come out on top and figure this out. I'm really into the mind so to mind master myself and this would be awesome.

Basically have been with this girl off and on for almost 2 years now. We broke up for about 4 months in these 2 years and got back together 6 months ago.

Her parents dont approve of me because of my job (don't worry about that.) She broke up with me the first time because of it, then begged for me back and said she doesn't care what her parents think, and will stay with me no matter what. A month later she breaks up with me because she said she can't lie to her parents anymore and she would lose her school, car etc etc (she's 21). Only to find out that when we first broke up she was secretly talking to another guy, used her parents as an excuse to break up. When things didn't work out with the new guy she came crawling back, until he wanted her back, then she used the parent card again.

4 Months went by where she dated this new guy, and I saw her out one night while they were in a fight. She ended up coming home and having sex with me, and he found out about it and ended it with her. She then came crawling back again to me saying she made a mistake and misses me. I took her back and about a month in read through her phone seeing she was texting her other ex still saying she loves him and wants to be with him. When I found this out I didn't confront her instead I just ended it with her. I no contacted her and just let her go crawling to him, I felt better off. About a month went by and she contacted me again saying she misses me etc etc. I decided just to have sex with her for a bit, but then she wanted to be my gf again. She said again she learned so much from the past and she was messed up before and if I could just try one more time with her.

I decided to give her a chance. She said this time no matter what her parents say she is going to be with me, she loves me more than anything, and had to date this other guy to realize how much she loves me. She is really good at telling me what I want to hear.

6 Months later together we go through so many fights because she is very insecure and jealous. If I say HI to a girl when we are out she flips and causes a huge scene, her excuse to me as she is bipolar.

I go away for 5 days, and when I come back she is being so weird. She says we need to have a talk. She tells me that she can't lie to her dad anymore about us and she needs to end it for now until we are ready to be together some time in future. (now what goes through my mind is the pattern before, she says she can't lie to her parents every time as a cop out when there is another guy she is interested in) So after she says this to me I say OK. (I really know its another guy again). When I say OK she is in shock and decides she can't let me go, that it will be too hard and wants to have a week together still to figure it out.

A week goes by while we are together and I actually get access to her cell phone. I see she has been texting a guy and while I was away they went out to lunch. He is flirty with her, and she told him that she is a complicated situation with me. He says really flirtatious things and she flirts right back. When I find this out I confront her about it. She says he is just a friend (i dont tell her how I found out). I can't believe I can't say hi to a girl and she can go out with a dude? wtf...

Anyways she says she will stop talking to him. A few days go by and he starts to text her again, and she is honest saying she is going out to dinner w/ me etc but that its still complicated. A few days go by and they start chatting again. She tells her friends she needs to end it with me. I find this out and break up with her before she can do it, and she is devistated. I say the reason is because I can't have her lying to her parents anymore. If she really does love me she will tell them she will date who she wants to date.

So we are broken up but then she still wants to hang out with me, we still hang out, still go out to dinner, still have sex. I see she is still texting this dude and plans a date with him on SUNDAY. Meanwhile she is obsessed if I'm going to have sex with other girls. She says that she is just going to focus on herself and not date anyone, until I get a different job and her parents approve of me, but if I want sex to just call her, and we will just have sex with each other. She says she wants me to keep having sex with just her and get my shit together, and her to get her shit together, but she is secretly talking to this guy still.

Thursday she wants to come over but I found out about the date with the guy coming up sunday, so I got pissed and went out and ditched her. She lost it, and showed up at the club i was at in her work clothes trying to drag me out, I said leave me alone i dont want anything to do with you, I hope you have fun on your date. She denies the date and said can we just talk and I said no, her friends grab her and take her out of there and she is crying. I get super drunk and text her that she can come to my house and get her stuff or I'm throwing it away. She comes over we have sex, in the morning we have sex again. Friday she comes over we have sex and hang out and she keeps saying she loves me and wants to spend halloween with me and be part of my birthday etc etc.

Saturday comes and she comes over and has sex with me, but then wants to sleep over.

HERE IS WHERE THE DRAMA REALLY COMES IN

It was early and my buddy wanted to go out, so I said I will go. SHe lost her shit because I had sex with her and was going to go out a few hours later. She said I don't care about her, I never loved her, how could I do this to her. I replied with we are not together, we could be together if she either kept lying to her parents, or told them she is going to see who she wants. She has a huge fit and starts slamming her head on my door, crying, smashing the flowers I got her almost a week ago, throwing her keys, breaking her keychain, cracked her cell phone screen. Says she hates me, never wants to see me again. I said I'm not going to be anyones back up, and that I do love her and care about her, but it seems like she isn't the one for me, and im not the one for her, because If we were right for each other we would be together.

She then says FINE I will stay with you, I will lie to them I don't want to lose you. I said I don't believe her. She says that she actually came over to tell me that tonight. (This girl is a huge liar and it was a lie because she was still setting up her date for sunday before she came over)

I said that I really dont belive her and she is just emotional and she would change her mind in a few days. At that time my buddy arrived so I went out to meet him, she starts to fake a panic attack and says how can I walk away from her, and I keep walking, while she starts to down talk me saying I'm not a man and a piece of shit. I then get mad and said HAVE FUN ON UR DATE TOMORROW!

She gets up and runs and grabs me and says NO NO PLEASE DONT LEAVE PLEASE DONT DO THIS. I shrug her off and leave. She starts crying texting me saying that someone is calling 911 because she is having a panic attack. Then she tells me someone calmed her down, and she can't believe I left her and says she hopes I have a great life without her.

I never reply.
Today I found out that she is out w/ the other guy real late meeting up with him at 12am. She also blocked me on instagram, and facebook, and deleted my number.

I should probably just move on, but honestly she was the best sex I've ever had, and she is so hot even though she is a horrible person. It is so hard to let it go. There is some kind of attatchment I can't break with her.

I don't know if I want her back because she will def do it again...

I guess I want to have her on the string, wanting me and craving me all the time, and to have the power.

What can I do, and what is going to happen next?

Sorry for the long read, but its eating me up, and I can't eat at all because of this stress.

For your own mental health, cut your losses and move on. There are plenty of women that are beautiful AND good in bed and will not cause you all this drama.
You must have really low confidence and faith in yourself if you believe that this is the best you can get. Do you place yourself such a low value to keep a person like this in your life?
Anyway... if you still want her as a FB .. you just don't need to do anything to bring her back.
She will come back as soon as she gets bored of the other guy. If you go back to your post you will see that she has a certain pattern in her attitude. She was already a FB all the way but you wanted to see her as a gf.
If you can stop your feelings for her and become more laid back, she will come, she will go and she will always stay in your life just for the sex.
The problems will arise the day you decide to settle down with someone and want a serious relationship. You won't be able to get rid of her and there is a high possibility that she might destroy a good future relationship.
She might make the new woman jealous because she would be persistant, she might seduce you and make you cheat etc There is lots of drama to come.
I say keep her for sex only if you never plan to settle down with anyone in the future. The more you keep her the more difficult you are going to be able to get rid of her.

Drop her. She'll try to come back. Reject it. Find more emotionally healthy women to hang out with.

Honestly I think she is probably suffering from bordeline personality disorder. There is a good website shrink4men...read some of their articles and decide what you wan't to do.

I used to date a BPD girl for like six months and would never do it again...Better to stay away...BPDs need professional help.

Let's have a look, shall we... I don't know if you're seeing any kind of pattern, and recognizing how much you contradict yourself.

You are not in control. Your need for sex rules your life, and so this girl is able to rule you. She has you on a string, not the other way round. She may be crazy, but there is a method to her madness, and the method is working.

I find this particularly interesting: You should find it interesting, too, and maybe start to use your brain a little bit.
She is not suffering from a disorder. She is trying to do something and OP is the clueless one. OP actually sounds more mentally unstable than the girlfriend.
Read the OP again. She already dropped him.

Shit dude - if you can't see that she's not good for you then a few random folks you don't know on this forum aren't going to be able to convince you.

Who needs that shit? Seriously...

If you want her back, history would suggest all you have to do is wait...

Ay que rico!!!!!!!!!!!!

This story reminds me of my first ex wife. God dammit!!! I even thought it was me writing it 12 years ago.

I only read about half because its too fucking long, and when you started mentioning that you are On and off, parents, clubs, and shady jobs you cant even mention I didn't need to read it all because I know exactly what is going to happen.

Listen to me. This shit is never going to end, And if it does end its either because one of you is dead, in prison, or has a restraining order.

let me guess you guys fight, break up, Get drunk or fucked up, go to the same club, bump into each other by mistake, then end up in your house fucking the shit out of each other, And start the process all over comes Monday.


You guys are addicted to each other. Its like a drug, Thats why I am saying that this shit is never going to end.

No matter how many times someone tells you to dump her, that this is toxic, you are still going to do what ever you want.

So my advice is to just sit back and watch the show, Dont stress yourself out because no matter what happens just remember that this drama is never going to end by her or your choice.

I know I shouldn't be with her. She is a compulsive liar and she has lied to her friends and right to my face multiple times. She is a master manipulator making me feel bad or wrong all the time then thinks she can get away with doing horrible shit.

Yes I must have issues to keep going back with her.

I put our sex so high on the pedestal. It isn't normal sex for me it is like a drug with her that I am so addicted to. I had sex with a lot of girls when we were broken up and it was never the same. I have high confidence that I know being apart is better for me, and I will find another, easily. But I'm having withdrawals from her.

She lies her way out of everything and makes everyone feel bad for her while she is the evil one. I even caught her guilt tripping a friend by ditching them and blaming it on her sick grandpa and making her friend feel horrible, meanwhile she was at my house.

I want her to get her karma, from what I heard she is always like this, playing victim, ruining men, and jumping to the next one because of her awesome sex and hot looks.

I want her to crave me and want me just so I can be the one guy who turns her down and teaches her she can't do this shit to people.

Non of my friends liked her they all pretended to for me and tell me she's a psycho and horrible person but I keep getting back with her because of the addiction to her.
How can I put her in her place.

Dude... Grow up.

Haha your right dude I just feel so betrayed it isn't a good feeling. To have someone tell you they love you and make you feel bad about it, to find out there is really another guy she wants to go have sex with, the she turns it around like I'm the bad guy and she hates me. It is a horrible feel but your right I should just let it go and realize I'm better off, she will get what's coming to her when her looks fade.

Step 1: Listen to this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9AWH0C_cDSk and this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHUCIs-aJzo

Step 2: Ditch her

Step 3: hangout with some friends

Step 4: Grab a beer and watch some football

Step 5: Think about all the new vagina you're going to meet

Step 6: Go out when you're over it.

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Easy: by not putting her in her place. By not responding to her back and forth. By not caring enough to put her in her place. By not caring to sleep with her... by not caring who she's with.
And if you want to be even more revengeful... turn down her advances for sex. Find a good girl and stay with that girl. This will be a good revenge. Ignore her.
When she'll see you happy with someone that is not bitchy to you. She will see that she lost you and feel stupid for her back and forth. She can't have this type of happiness and she won't be able to have you.
It will hurt. And the best part is that you will be happy and away from drama. That's the best revenge.
There is no prize in her game. It is just plain sex.
To cut off the addiction you need time apart. Time will heal all the pain. And also keep being busy.

I love this thread lol.

This chick and your quest for revenged are literally going to consume you. You know damn well that deep down inside you will never act your revenged upon her.

Her addiction for each other is too strong for any one of you to leave.

All you are going to succeed is to hurt each other in ways very few people will ever be able to comprehend or understand.

Bro read this please!!! You have no idea the amount of pain and suffering that awaits you if you keep this shit up.


You might as well treat each other nice because none of you is leaving the other any time soon. You guys are dependent on each other. It is the worst addiction you can ever phathom.

Well I saw her at the gym today and she ignored me, the new guy was there and they were flirting and I guess they are hanging out again tonight.

She told her friend it was the best sex of her life and I am road kill to her now for leaving her, so I guess she has moved on easily and wasn't that addicted to me after all. I'm just gonna let it go and move on, obviously her big show of all her emotions for caring about me was just an act. Also she told me that night before I left her tha I was the best sex of her life and she can't stop fucking me. I dunno I guess case closed.