Hey guys! I just asked this girl out a few days ago and the answer she gave me was that she did like me but she just wasn't ready for a relationship. She then said that maybe in the future we could date and that until then we can still be friends.

This girl was giving me so many ioi's and I was honestly shocked when she rejected me. I'm not crying over it or anything. I just really want to know where it was that I went wrong.

My question is... What do I do now?

Should I take an all or nothing stance and just completely break off all contact from her? I've made it very clear that I don't want to be her friend. She knows that I like her. What should I do if I still want her to like me?

What are your guys beliefs on handling this part of the game?

You should have said that you're talking about a couple drinks - not a relationship.

She may have just been letting you down easy, but you could have pushed it a little further.

I'll remember this for future references. Thanks a lot for replying. Would you mind clarifying on that last part?

He's right. Your talking about getting drinks. If your interested. It's not over yet.

Get her out for something, and than all bets are off. Talk to her emotional side not her rational side. Stimulate her, be attractive and escalate. It doesn't matter so much that she's not ready. She'll be often be ready when she "falls" head over heels for some sexy guy. You can be that guy.

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I feel like its important that I also note that I'm in high school. This girl is a freshman and even though she rejected me I find it hard to believe that this is what she really wanted.

When I'm around her we don't behave as if we are friends. We behave as if we're a couple. I'll hold her hand, run my hand through her hair, give her long hugs... Even though we aren't officially together I feel like she definitely likes me.

In ANY other situation I would say that it was just that the girl didn't like me and was trying to be nice. However, I believe that her rejection has a lot to do with her parents not approving of her dating at her age.

It is definitely a unique situation that I've never really gone through before. The question that gets me most is whether she rejected me because she doesn't like me or whether she rejected me because of her parents. I'm willing to bet the latter because she has been showing me IOI's since day one and doesn't treat me like a friend.

Not really sure where to go from here. Does anyone have any advice they could give? What does it mean when a girl rejects you but her body language, actions, and voice tone are COMPLETELY incongruent with her rejection?

It was nice to know that just because a girl rejects you doesn't almost mean that its over.

Dude you sound very mature for your age and I am surprised you built up the courage to ask her out. Most kids don't have balls like you.


What got me good results in highschool was kino. You need to build up escalation in a playful progressive way. Don't creep them, you need to start very slowly. Start like you accudently brushed her hand, then wait like a minute and brush her hand again. Don't look at your hand while doing it. Don't look at her either. If you do it correctly take like 10-15 minutes by the time you are done your hand should be on top of hers.

Look at her breathing. As soon as you see that she is getting excited and wants more, boom you take your hand away like if you were interrupted by something.


You need to create doubt. She needs to doubt if you like her or not. Don't tell her you like her treat her cold but at the same time give her just enough kino to think that maybe you do like her.


Also about her parents, when a girl really likes you she won't give a fuck about her parents. She will move a mountain for you if she has too.

Ha, I had the same problem when I was in highschool. I was way too mature and way too serious. Try not to be like that. It's hard for me because thats just how I am, and highschool is shitty compared to college.

Anyway, act a bit distant or like nothing happened. Pick one and stick with it. If you're scarce she may try to chase you, or you can take a page out of Mystery's book and invite her for something, get her into your bed room some how and kino. That's what I did with my ex. Even though we were "together" she was shy. I'm stil suprised that she let me play with her tits and pussy! It was gradual though.

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Hey man thanks a lot for the praise in asking her out. I don't deserve that much admiration however because I was still shaking during the process and the girl noticed. She didn't say that she minded or anything but it still bothered me because it shows that I'm still not completely unattached to the outcome. My inner game still needs a lot of work in regards to things that generally have to do with nervousness.

I really like what you said about when a girl really likes you she won't give a fuck about her parents. This makes SO much sense to me. I'll definitely keep it in mind from now on.
I try to not take things to seriously unless I'm in a situation where it's really appropriate. I have to speak to someones emotions in order to gain their liking not their logic. The only reason why I hesitate from inviting her to my bedroom is because she is still young and I don't want her to think that I have the wrong intentions. I'm 16 and she's 14.

Is this an AFC way of looking at things? Don't get me wrong I'm all for kino and helping her experience something new but she is still young and I don't want to try to rush her into anything if that makes any sense.

I do try to pretend like nothing has happened. It was strange though because the day AFTER she rejected me all of a sudden it was like kino got MUCH more intense. All of the IOI's are definitely there but I'm just not quite sure what it is thats stopping her. Like I said, she treats me as if I'm her boyfriend but I don't think that she wants to put a label on things.

It's a confusing situation to me really.

Hey man thanks a lot for the praise in asking her out. I don't deserve that much admiration however because I was still shaking during the process and the girl noticed. She didn't say that she minded or anything but it still bothered me because it shows that I'm still not completely unattached to the outcome. My inner game still needs a lot of work in regards to things that generally have to do with nervousness.

I really like what you said about when a girl really likes you she won't give a fuck about her parents. This makes SO much sense to me. I'll definitely keep it in mind from now on.
I try to not take things to seriously unless I'm in a situation where it's really appropriate. I have to speak to someones emotions in order to gain their liking not their logic. The only reason why I hesitate from inviting her to my bedroom is because she is still young and I don't want her to think that I have the wrong intentions. I'm 16 and she's 14.

Is this an AFC way of looking at things? Don't get me wrong I'm all for kino and helping her experience something new but she is still young and I don't want to try to rush her into anything if that makes any sense.

I do try to pretend like nothing has happened. It was strange though because the day AFTER she rejected me all of a sudden it was like kino got MUCH more intense. All of the IOI's are definitely there but I'm just not quite sure what it is thats stopping her. Like I said, she treats me as if I'm her boyfriend but I don't think that she wants to put a label on things.

It's a confusing situation to me really.