Hi! So. This girlfriend of mine, we are together for about 5 months now. And we are both 19. She's a HB7. The only difference between us that she is on college, and I'm still in high school, because I failed my classes. Now. The problem:

Our relationship is really great, I love her, she loves me. But, she cares a little bit too much about my education, she asks tons of questions considering where will I continue my education, how good are my grades, and so on. Today for example, she made a whole plan/schedule for both of us, so she can know when can we meet because we both are very busy. She even copied tons of material for my school and gave it to me, so I can have the best chances at the finals, she even considered to teach me, lecture me on some subjects.

The thing is, I'm not stupid, I'm really not, I just do everything but school, I'm mostly into business, I had luck in past few years and I have met some people in the film industry and so on, so on my priority school was not that high on the list. However, since I ever gave her a small clue that I would like to study Economy, and that I'm considering colleague, she became incredibly happy, I mean, to illustrate, from 0 to 10 happy. And she wants to help me. Is she a control freak? Is she just a very good person? Is this good or bad in long term? It's obviously good, but, will I lose "myself" in the process in being with her? Will I lose my independence if I accept her offer? Thanks for reading. Cheers.

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She may be a little controlling but what is clear to me is that you have yet to prove to her that you are a "man on his path".

If you were absolutely 100% into your business or whatever you do and owned it she wouldnt care so much...because you care so much.

She is clearly concerned about your lack of education AKA "lack of direction". Prove you are on your path and she should calm down.

Duke

She doesn't sound controlling. She sounds like an innocent girl that cares about her boyfriend.
Don't freak out like most men in your age do.
The difference between a controlling girl and a girl that supports you is that the controlling girl will TELL you what to do and then expects you that you do it. The supportive girlfriend, listens to what you want to do and supports you to do it.
Your girlfriend is trying to support you doing what you want ( and she is happy about your decisions) and she is trying to work on the relationship making sure that you can do both things at once ( relationship & dreams). She sees your relationship as something that could last in years. That's why she is asking you those questions. She wants to know if your future dreams match and she is trying to dream about how you two would be. She is assessing the relationship.
Don't get fooled by her interest and think that she will try to consume you. She doesn't sound like the kind of girl that will try to do everything for you so you would be dependant. If she was then you would had been over pampered. This girl doesn't do that.
If you freak out and want more space you'll only end up with a b@tch that is not that interested in you and is manipulative or control freak.
Unfortunately you are too young and you found such a good girl. She came too early in your life. If you can hang in there and you act mature you can be a very lucky man.
You need to communicate with her and tell her that you are young and you want to get the experience on how handling all those things on your own so you will grow up to be a responsible man and that will be good for your future together. And also tell her that the more she is putting effort the less you learn about responsibility. Tell her that you appreciate all the things she is doing for you but you would want to take more initiative or else you won't be able in the future to be a strong individual that will can be next to a quality girl like her ( a little bit of compliment won't harm you at this point).
She will smile and give you space. Trust me.
Then be yourself....

I agree with this but just have one little rebuttal. the OP said

", she made a whole plan/schedule for both of us, so she can know when can we meet because we both are very busy. She even copied tons of material for my school and gave it to me, so I can have the best chances at the finals, she even considered to teach me, lecture me on some subjects."

This seems controlling to me.... She is actively trying to make him get good grades/do what SHE want him to do...

Not really.
She is only trying to be an efficient gf.
And also I don't agree that she is controlling because she copied material to help him get good marks. He was the one that chose this path.
I wish I had someone while I was a student to have copied for me materials so I can get better marks. Are you kidding me? That's the type of "control" I would had loved! even if it was coming from a female friend.. Having someone explain to me what is going on with classes that I didn't understand? i would be over the moon!!
I was begging to get that type of help and no one was not bothered because they were too busy with their lives.

It's a good thing as you already know. I think your concern is that it could become overbearing and eventually wear on you.

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First of all your whole speech about not being stupid is unnecessary; you failed your high school classes and that's all people need to form their own opinion!

The girlfriend just wants you to make something of yourself. The only problem with this is, because she likes you, she wants you to be better than you are. She wants to change you into the ambitious and intelligent guy that would match her own ambition and intelligence. The girl is a keeper because she actually cares to put effort into your lazy behind. She is optimistic about your future while you are suspicious, which is unfortunate for her.

My policy is, you can't change people. If I meet you and you are a slacker at school, I will leave you the same way and under no circumstances will I try to change you. This is because I believe the man is the leader in the relationship, so I shouldn't be the one telling you to get up and improve yourself, you should be setting a good example for me. Your girlfriend actually cares enough to waste her time and energy showing you how the hell to study and pass your exams, way to repay her with suspicion.

You suck. You deserve to meet only cynical realists like me for the rest of your life, not optimistic dreamers like your girlfriend. Since a kind girlfriend isn't enough to motivate you, a cynical one will be more than enough!
You are right. An idiot like this does not deserve a helpful and caring girlfriend. He needs someone who will tell him exactly what he is. Of course, then, he will complain that the girlfriend is too critical and doesn't help him.