Hey guys, so there is a new girl that I have worked with for the last few months who is our receptionist. She's adorable! Right off the bat we seemed to have an interest in one another, she is 19 and I am 27. I ran through some routines and had her hooked basically within a week. She found me on facebook, Instagram and got my number as well and started messaging me (showing initial interest).

After talking back and fourth for a few months now she has made it clear she wants me. The only obstacle is we are currently both in LTRs. She has told me she "feels stuck" in her current relationship and she finds me irresistible.... Also things like she gets horny when she's drunk... I make her really horny and whatnot. She also sends me kissy faces and messages me if she doesn't hear from me in only a few hours.

The problem is as soon as I take initiative and try to get her to hangout she doesn't respond... She also acts weird about it. The other day she texted me and said " I could get into a lot of trouble with you.... Lots and lots, you are so damn hot" So I told her we should have some drinks and watch a movie at my place. She never responded and now it's been a week... Even if I text and say "Hey..." She doesn't respond.

I need advice I am very very confused as to why things escalated so quickly and now as soon as I take initiative she backs off and doesn't respond.. It's just strange.

You were just a bit of fun and nothing she was prepared to consciously get involved with. Instead of stringing her along and letting what would have happen happen you pushed for it thus pushing her away.

You should have been the one putting the breaks on it. You should have told her "I feel odd about this, I have a girlfriend" but kept it open ended. You should have strung her along... instead she got all the validation from you she could have wanted. You're older, her senior and more successful in work so obviously she was tempted by you and wanted to know she could have you... you basically told her she could.

Just drop it. She hasn't messaged you in a week and has ignored your messages since then. Don't message her at all and when you see her at work just act normal and cool about it. Give her a big smile, ask how her weekend was and then say goodbye. She'll be confused, feel like she never really had you and then start seeking you out for validation. When she does this just play it cool, be a bit flirty and don't push to meet up. Joke about her coming over but don't be serious about. Let her be serious about spending the night with you.

That's exactly what I needed to hear!! Thank you for your post and I agree, I gave in too easy... I should have slowed down. Any way of saving it if I don't see her for a while? She's still liking my posts on Facebook and commenting on instagram stuff. She just hasn't respond via text (I've only texted once since that day) Any possible game I can run? Or just back off?

Do exactly what I said: Don't message her and act completely normal. Shoot the shit with her when you see her in person and act totally cool about everything.

She's 19 years old man lol she's still a little girl.

These young girls LOVE attention and that's all she's interested in with you. She saw you trying to make a move (good job. But you should have done it WAY earlier.) and now she's gonna back off.

Give her a week or two and she'll be back for more attention. Don't let yourself get caught up in her game though man. Some of these young chicks are INCREDIBLE hustlers.

Make it VERY clear to her that if she's not DTF she needs to GTFO.

You are right! She has me all confused. And yeah if she comes back for more attention that's exactly what i'll do. For now I just want the ball back in my court and whatever happens, happens.

There's a certain way you can play these younger chicks bro. Everyone else is saying back off, or give her an ultimatum. Um, that may work in some instances with older girls, but with the young ones you can actually come on even stronger.

I used to hit on girls that were 8-10 years younger than me who I worked with. I'd be like "Wow Stacy, you are actually really pretty, it's too bad I have a girlfriend or I'd definitely ask you out." Or make yourself the forbidden fruit. Tell her that it's too bad you are so much older than her and that she'd never be able to seriously date a guy as old as you. They will eat that up, it drives them crazy.

To guys, the real young barely legal girls are their fantasy. But to girls, getting the older guy to fawn over them is THEIR fantasy. You have to play into their desires and make her crave that fantasy, then pull it just out of reach.

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