Disclaimer: I'm a woman, so if you disregard female posts by default, I'd be thankful if you skip this.

I was a lonely girl in my childhood. My parents were awesome and loving, I spent half of my time on my father's shoulders, and half in my mother's hugs. I had two pairs of grandparents who adored me. But I needed more. A child like me could not be happy without other children around. My maternal instinct was already developed, and I wanted a baby to "take care of". I pleaded and begged for a little baby brother. I was seven when my brother was born, and he was a dream come true. I sang to him, made up games and plush tiger theater for him, loved him to bits, and, 18 years later, my feelings are as strong as ever. I share my blood with him, and I spill my blood for him.

I shielded him from parental wrath and I am still the one he runs to if shit goes down. So, I was the first one to receive the honor of meeting his first flame.

She was tall, thin, pretty face, huge cherry eyes, and a warm smile. She was friendly, but respectful towards me. She even excused herself when her phone rang (I'm sorry, my stupid mom won't stop till I pick it up).

I invited her home (my husband was out of town) to have some nice woman to woman chat with her. I asked her if she could help me buy some stuff, because I wasn't prepared for guests. She carried half the bags, and she even paid the bills:

- Hello, miss!... Is this all?... Anything else?... That would be 30.26... Thank you very much, have a nice day, bye!

We even went to the local pharmacy to pick up some throat medicine for me. She chatted cheerfully, ever so polite, and even ordered my pills for me:

- Hello, miss! How may I help?
- One Tyrcin.
- Yes, of course! Is that all?... That would be 7.85. Thank you, here's your change. Have a pleasant evening, bye!

She carried the stuff to my apartment, when we chatted idly for a while. After we finished, she expressed her gratitude for my invitation, kissed me on both cheeks, gave me a bye and ran to the bus.

later that evening, my brother called:
- What do you think?
- Dump her.

He did.

But maybe she doesn't she make his willy feel go woo woo woo

There is more to a relationship dynamic than a shopping spree with the big sister.

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This sounds psychotic.

Why did you tell him to dump her then? It doesnt make any sense... Do you just want to create drama even at the expense of you brother and his relationship??? WTF

Possible feminist.

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LOL don't tell me she liked you...

No but seriously. Did she like you, or did you just hate how fake she was acting?

You are jealous and i'm willing to bet you're a feminist.

Vent your sexual frustration elsewhere. Its not your brother's fault you cant get a stiff dick inside you.

Poor guy. And that poor girl.

The story reeks of mental instability; most likely, derangement. Poor guy.

Since the OP is not asking for advice or insights, there's my honest opinion.

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I am not psychotic, and you all are missing the point. Men are very quick to dismiss subtle red flags, blinded by sex.

I wrote this story to point you towards a very, very glaring red flag, which most men (like you) dismiss. It's called hypocrisy and is a sign of a manipulative person.

She kissed my ass all the way until our separation. She knew I was her BF's sister, and I have huge influence on him. One wrong word and she'd be roast.

This is why I wasn't swayed by how she treated me. I observed how she treated others. How she treats people who she considered below her, those she had no gain to be polite to.

There is a reason I posted a facsimile of her conversations with staff. More of monologues, actually.

She came to a store, took what she wanted, and dumped it on the moving trail without a word. She never answered the friendly greetings from the staff. She never said "Thank you", or "Have a nice day".

Small thing? It just wasn't her day? PMS? Then why did she treat me like a maharaja?

She was polite to me and me only.

I'm writing this, because I know lots and lots of men ignore this red flag. And if someone who cared told you she's bad news, well, you see the responses I got from ya.

The way she treats staff is the way she will treat YOU one day. No exceptions.

P.S. Oh, and casually referring to a member of her family as "stupid" doesn't help, either.

P.P.S. My brother is alive and kicking. He doesn't have a GF now. His ex confronted him at college and announced to the world what a bitchy whore slut sister he has. At the top of her lungs. Unfortunately, I didn't have the honour of receiving the praise personally; but my brother told me it was a sight to behold. We had a little chat, and he took my advice to get a bit of experience before he agrees to commit again.

Alright... so ...

You want someone that would be polite with strangers and wouldn't care less to be disrespectful to you or the rest of his family. Right?

Your thinking is a paradox..
You feel the need of that type of girl in your life because you want to be that... but that type of girl would had loved the type of girl that your brother brought home because she would had been easy to manipulate and a perfect follower... The girl you described usually is an alpha with followers and your brother brought you a follower not an alpha female.

By rejecting this girl you only proved that you are just like her and you don't like who you are. You feel inferior in your image. You want to be able to be charming and a bit more selfish and people love you the way you are.
All your life you were a people's pleaser and you are craving to be the opposite. You don't feel loved. This is why you were expecting that she would insult you in some way. You expect from people not to see your value unless you put forward some effort.

The little "red flags" you describe are all the little points that you pay attention to, the points that you put effort so people around you notice you and think how nice you are ( again the people's pleasing persona). You missed your parents approval or love at some point. A girl that is 7 years old and has strong motherly instincts is a girl that is not living her age.. somehow the parental environment is toxic because it is taking away the chance of having a proper childhood. This is why you are too close with your brother and you are acting like a bad mother-in-law with a strong oedipus syndrome. Your brother has the same issues because he has let this type of connection between you. Again your parents don't sound as perfect as you presented them to us on your OP.

You get the sense of entitlement when your brother's gfs call you bitch. You are like a kid that if she doesn't get the praising that she needs she gets the attention from the anger of other people. And every gf that is leaving is making you feel more secure.

What surprises me is that you are a married woman. The love of your husband supposed to be enough but I guess you must be having a very boring marriage... one of those marriages that there is emotional distance between the couple and they almost never argue... One of those type of marriages.

I really hope one day you get what you want to feel complete and start feeling again.
Reading your post made me feel sad about your situation..
Do you want to know what I got out of this post? How to handle a person that has the same personality like you.
What would I point to a man as a red flag from your story? YOUR attitude and how to protect himself from that.

Can someone translate the post above from pseudopoppsychobabble to normal English?
I have a CAE from Cambridge, but honestly, I got totally lost here.

In your first post, you left out vital information about her being a bitch. You only focused on her being really nice and polite. So of course we assumed that you were the one being the bitch.

Your 2nd post is a rambling mess. You clearly have a few screws loose. Get help asap.

Heh, at least my ass is tight. Can't say the same about yours, considering the amount of diarrhea coming from ya.

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That's quite some language coming from a "classy" lady that got a degree from Cambridge lol

I don't know if you think we're psychics in here, since you neglected to mention that little detail about her mistreating other people. You really are crazy.