Is there a way to Approach without approaching? I think that a man walking up to a woman and getting her number looks bad, thirsty, and low for some reason. I always have. It's just NOT my style and I was wondering if there are other ways to get a woman without hunting and letting everyone around you that you're trying to get pussy. It's very embarrassing to me like someone's watching me or listening. Letting people hear me get rejected or even getting the number. How do I get women without walking up to her and looking thirsty? It's just not my style or a good look to me.

Walking up and seeming thirsty would be a problem, and that's a matter for inner game so that you don't make that impression. You are just approaching to say hi. That shouldn't seem thirsty.

As for just walking up... you have it all wrong. Not caring if people see you, not caring if you get rejected, not caring that you saw someone you like and went to talk to them just because you want to... that's the ENTIRE point man. Those are reasons that people who don't approach are pussies and those who do are men. It is precisely your willingness to do that that makes it confident and attractive to girls.

Your other option is to sit like a goof and wait for some random girl to get drunk enough to approach you (where she over comes these same fears you have) and you can get lucky... maybe. It's called being AFC and it's exactly what PUAs are learning not to be like.

Yes there are other ways.
1. Luck
2. Prostitutes
3. Asking others to introduce you to women
4. Become rich and famous
5. Have faith in a higher power to send you pussy

You need to change your style. Who cares if others know that you're trying to get pussy. Women put in a lot of work to look sexy. In essence they want men to want their pussy. You just don't want it enough.

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I think it looks bad maybe even creepy that's my opinion and I'm not wrong. You can throw the acronyms at me that you want. I don't need to approach it's weird to me and that's ok, why idk Idc it doesn't matter to me.. A lot of females have approached me and been in my face and have gotten rejected. What can I actively do to set this environment up? How can I do this without a computer ? I'm not going to approach because that's not me..what else can I do that was my question

Ok fuck it thanks

Seriously man, what you are asking is against nature realistically. Yes, there are guys who get approached and it's usually those pretty motherfuckers or the charmingly obnoxious guys. But those guys even miss out on quality women because they don't approach.

Natures way is that women send you a signal to come over and talk. If you are smart enough to see the signal, you still have to approach. For the guy that don't generally receive those signals, he has to approach the woman and let her know that he's attractive.

If there was a way that would make a woman approach you, pick up wouldn't exist. So if it's more important to you not to approach and wait for women, by all means do it. But you'll end up spending time watching the guy who is uglier than you, has less money than you, not as smart as you walk away with the woman that you've found attractive because he approached her and you didn't.

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Sounds like you're thinking too much... time for a massive-action fuelled paradigm shift! See the below video (just replace "sealing the deal" with "approaching" and the message is basically the same).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4czUvOJbHE

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AA and lazy - combo. Enjoy your wanking.

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Hahahaha,

@OP the only things I can think of that will get you into a more likely state of being approached is:-

Have massive social proof, like you would already need to have everyone interested in you already which would require prep-work and approaches anyway if you don't already have that kind of social status.

Maybe if it were your party or something (house party or hire a venue) that would give you a good head start. Then you would already need to be in a high status set and be owning that set. Like all eyes on you, everything you say has to be fucking hilarious, exaggerated body movements etc. That way girls will see you and wonder what's going on.

All this takes ways more work than just approaching though but if you have the time and effort then maybe you can get there. Tbh I know I'd rather just approach a few sets

You must be one creepy bastard if just saying hi is going to look awful to the whole room. You don't have a "style". Your style would have to be a choice, and since you can't approach because you are chicken shit, it's not a choice. Cool guys still approach because thats what confident, cool people do. When you are good at it, then decide not to, call it a style.

I was so scared when I started approaching that I would be shaking, sweating, and feeling like I wanted to puke. You know why I did it anyway? Because I knew that I was a pussy and needed to grow some fuck'n balls. Try it.

I am a creepy guy… LOL. I'm fairly attractive but I have the curse of making people feel uncomfortable… This is because I am uncomfortable with other people in my presence but since I know this I can work on it… I was in a bad place when I wrote this message but in essence it is still true..

Then focus on the real issues

Instead of asking for advice on how women can do all the work for you..

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That doesn't mean that I want women to approach me.. I don't want them to do all of the work you don't have to fucking get a bitch just by walking up to her like a stocker and telling her that you been watching her for a minute.. You don't have to approach to your girls they don't have the approach you sometimes it can just happen… That's what I was asking not for everyone to tell me that I'm not a man just because I can't equity is the drought

Who told you to approach a girl and tell her you've been watching her?

Walking up to a girl and saying "hey my name is blank and I think you're cute" is NOT stalkerish. At all. You are way too in to your head. If you refuse to approach then there isn't anything that any PUA can do to help you, and if they say otherwise, they're lying to you.

That's exactly it, you make people feel uncomfortable because you are uncomfortable. So you need to get comfortable. They way to do that is simply to... ready for it... approach. It's a simple matter of experience. NOT approaching is actually way, way creepier. Looking and not talking is the total worst, and any girl will tell you that. So one that I use often is that when you look at a girl, she looks back and sees you looking, that is when you approach. "Well, you busted me staring. I figured the polite thing to do would be to say hi." And it is. Basic rule is don't keep talking to people who don't want you to, and DO talk to the ones that do. You don't have to try to fuck them, remember, it is polite to say hello, so don't worry about being creepy doing that.

Talking to random people is uncomfortable to most folks. That is the secret of PUA, to make it normal for YOU so that it seems normal to the girls. If you get jittery and weird, then leave set and try again later on someone else. I didn't talk to people for years, I spent many many months almost totally alone. I understand. It is hard to get used to, but you do get better and much faster and in ways that you have yet to understand. Think, if you look good, then why would someone not want to talk to you?

Strangely, the secret is to creep out more people more often but do so knowing you are working on a greater goal or developing your mindset. Caring about being creepy is creepy. So, fuck it. You have you shit to work out and if someone is in public they are fair game for target practice. Soon, what you will find is that you will approach and it is normal for you and you will get stress reactions, shyness, nervousness from the girls who are shocked that you had the balls to approach like they probably wanted you to. Then you will read that the same way girls read your awkwardness now... then you will get nervous for this new reason, and bounce out of set for that. Then your problem will be staying in set longer... then longer... understand?

This shit is hard and traumatic for people with fears like ours. That's why it is awesome. Remember what you are doing and that the goal is to rewire your brain. You seem smart. Take your confidence from that, trust the process and if you are going to creep out chicks then do it with a purpose. You are trying to better your life, your mindset, and make your self more enjoyable for other people. No shit, just by approaching girls you will see changes in how you interact with people generally, how you see yourself, how you walk and talk, and how others see you. Imagine that people are born more or less the same. Some have life experience which makes them confident and outgoing. Others are like us. So, we need to cram that experience in later and quicker, but with our personal development goal in mind it works better. In no time you will hear people you thought were confident and social say and do things that you see and laugh to yourself "wow... total AFC".