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Hey guys, my name is Justin Ngo, I'm a 22 year old Asian- American. I've only recently been discovering places like these and I'm wondering of some people like you guys can help me out!
I'm a recently graduated college student and I've been working at this clinic for sometime now. There's a girl there who's my age (I'm 22 she's 21) and we've known each other for about 3 months.
I saw her at the clinic but didn't talk, and then I saw her at a local club as well but didn't get the chance to speak to her.
The next day I told her I saw her, but she spoke in terse statements and didn't seem too willing to talk.
The day afterwards, I struck up another conversation, and while she seemed nervous, she did ask me if I had a girlfriend, which I told her no. She smiled at this, which I noted with pleasure.
I saw her again at the club and I bought her a drink, but she only stayed to chat 5 minutes afterwards and then left. I don't know if I'm overanalyzing, but I want to win her heart a lot!
I gave her my number and its been 3 days. What can I do to know what she is thinking, and what should I do to know what she wants and communicate what I want to do?
There was some stuff like this subliminalpersuasionbook. c o m /fractionation-seduction-steps/ that I've been reading to understand what she wants and to exert, I suppose, some control, but I don't know if I can really do this? Is that sort of small emotion reading stuff going to help?
Sorry if I missed anything important, this is my first time on the site. Thanks guys.
Hey! So obviously I don't know either of your personality types but if either of you is shy it's going to take a while, so don't worry about that, also if you do want to "win her heart" then that's more of a long-game thing anyway. As for her, I'm assuming she works at the clinic with you? If she does, or you have another place you regularly see her, use that as an opportunity to make regular contact with her. After a few successful conversations (make jokes, talk about things you have in common, find out about her life, family, hobbies etc) ask her out to drinks/dinner/[event you both enjoy such as a movie or concert]. If you aren't interested in trying to get other girls or aren't comfortable doing that then don't let people make you feel bad about that; just do what you want.
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