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Firstly, it's not like I do this all the time. I'm saying try to open pretty indirect, curious, and switch to direct when you feel its time has come. If you open with "hi, you look bored" and the girls starts IOIing like hell, then transition to something more to the point. If she takes longer, so do you. If she never appears seriously interested then you stay at pleasant chit chat. Going in indirect is for your own good. Then you have no pressure, can get a read of the interaction, and reassess. If a girl is just standing like a dope, drrrr, and you are confident of your read, then go in fast and hard, by all means, but this was for advice for a guy who hasn't gotten to that point.
I get where you're coming from. I guess my issue is that a lot of people say that there is a time for indirect and a time for direct. I almost think that some don't really understand what direct actually is. Like they expect a man to walk up to a woman and say, "Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I want to fuck you." You can be at the coffee shop like you were, express attraction as long as you're charming. If you don't know how to be charming, you need indirect. I do disagree that going indirect is for your own good unless you know your intentions will not be acceptable for the woman. There is nothing like watching a woman's eyes light up when you tell her that you find her attractive and then just having a conversation with her. I love that.
But like I said before, go with what you're comfortable with. Most of the people that I know that have changed their approach style to direct have not gone back to indirect.