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I have been dating this girl for a couple of months. We have discussed future and what not and can definitely see something between us. I think she is an awesome girl, she understands me, and we click both sexually and on a personal/intellectual level.

We were talking after we had sex and she asked me my "number" (as in girls I've slept with). I told her mine which was 20 and that she had said she slept with 20 guys...and that she only had 1 serious LTR. She's 23 btw, turns 24 next month.

I am 27 years old, I do want marriage and want kids at some point. I'm not exactly wanting it right way because I still have to get a few things in order before I can commit myself to it. But I do want a girl that is potential marriage material. Obviously you can't judge that before you even enter into an LTR, but I don't want to waste my time with someone that isn't going to be marriage material.

So guys, does a girl's sexual past manner? Does a high number turn you off from her? What do you think?

No, it doesn't matter. Did it matter before you knew the number? If she decides she wants to be with you, then be happy with that.

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She sounds honest... That's good.

She does sound honest, I don't have any reason to distrust her.

I don't have an issue with the fact that she has had just as many partners as me, the biggest worry I have is how good of a gf is she going to be when things go bad? My last gf had 12-13 partners before I came along, we lasted 4 years, things started going downhill and I found out she was messaging a couple of ex-fbs behind my back which ultimately killed the relationship.

I just don't want to repeat the same mistake twice.

I think it matters.

Now, I'm not saying to judge anyone, just that someone's past can tell you alot about themselves. I'm against judging for the sake of judging, but prefer to learn more about why people did what they did and how or if they had changed. This time has past because the conversation is gone, but I'd have gone deeper. Why 20 guys and 1 relationship? Her answer could be " well, I just get this rush from sleeping with different guys and I always met a guy when dating another guy and bounced around when things got bad." Or it could be "I made bad decisions in finding a good relationship and 20 guys led me on and humped and dumped me." The first answer signals she could be a cheating risk, the second answer just means she has bad judgment. If she was slutty, find out how she has changed. Likewise, for yourself, you should be able to assess and explain why you've slept with 20 women.

If you wanted a non-slutty girl then why is your "number" so high? Why expect her to uphold a standard of behavior that you have failed to uphold yourself? If she's nice, date her. It's too late for you to judge others' chastity!

Remember, as the leader in the relationship, the man sets the right example. You have set a slutty example, don't expect your girl to be an angel.

You're asking others to decide your values for you. Probably everyone on here would feel slightly differently about it. What's important to you?

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IF YOU'RE ASKING THE QUESTION TO A BUNCH OF RANDOMS ON A PICKUP WEBSITE, THE ANSWER IS LIKELY "NO"

YOU WANT OUR VALIDATION TO SOMETHING YOU ALREADY BELIEVE.

So true.

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