So me and this girl were on and off for about 2 years but recently i decided to bite the bullet and give her a chance. We've been dating for about a month now but it seems as if shes always trying to Pick out small flaws that i do. She says things like I dont care about her feelings because im totally nonchalant about a bunch of things, or some times she over thinks things that i say and it causes a argument.

Recently tonight she invited me to come out with her and her friends but I had made plans to go practice with my friends and then she comes out of no where with the " Im always sacraficing myself for you and you never do anything for me" but yet when she ask me to go to her parents house and hangout with them or go out to dinner with her or any thing else im usually down but when i have something to do that doesnt correspond with what her plans are it turns into a argument. Shes like she doesnt like to argue but shes always making a big deal out of things, and i dont know what to do. I like this girl and shes a really good girl but she seems to pick out the smallest things and makes a big deal out of it. Community help please.

You kids are young, correct?

I feel like you may be leaving part of this story out (like how she's always sacrificing herself for you... whatever that means)...

She needs to chill the fuck out and accept you have a life apart from her...

And you need to realize that a little bit of communication would have prevented any problem here... Proactively tell her you're busy on Wednesday with friends... then she won't plan shit.

Also - if you don't like her nagging at you, tell her it's not working for you and find someone else. She's not the only girl in the world.

I'm currently dealing with a similar situation with a 19 year old chinese girl. She is constantly saying "you don't care about me" "you're always too busy" "I'm not important to you" etc. The way to deal with it is to turn it around on her and make her feel like she's being unreasonable. So say she texts you at 10pm saying "Wanna come over?" and you've already planned to go out drinking with the guys, make her feel guilty for leaving it too late... eg. "I could've come over if you'd let me know sooner. I'm out with the guys tonight. I'll call you tomorrow XX". Then either ignore any subsequent texts/calls or turn your phone off. Tell her she needs to discuss things with you in advance before she makes plans.

This girl is trying to control you, she treats relationships like a battle for control. She is testing your boundaries. You need to be clear that you won't be ordered around like a little lapdog. You need to view your relationship like a father would treat a daughter. She should be asking your permission before she makes plans. Act like her Daddy and she will fall in line. Be prepared to walk away if she has a spoilt teen brat tantrum.