Sunday evening I went out with some friends to a bar.
I opened the first 9 that caught my eyes
Me: Hey, so you're just standing at the bar idly?
HB9: No...
Me: If you get me a whiskey, I'll give you a Coke. You know...to break the ice properly .
HB9: This is the worst line I've ever heard!!
Me: (Smiling) That's fine, I'm not the "Hey you're cute" kinda guy
HB9 leaves without a word.

I must admit this never happened to me before. I thought my bodylanguage was ok and didn't say anything shoking. What would you have replied if you were in my place?

I also have to mention that my opener worked on other 3 sets that night and also I got a # from a solid 10. The curious thing about that one is we roleplayed a bit on texts and she just said:
HB10: That's funny , but I'M ACTUALLY THE WOLF! That was my name before I got married .

Should I just ignore the last part?? I didn't see any ring or something to suggest she was married! I could ask her, but it just seems awkward to do that. Why would she give out her # if she was married?! Some women told me before they were engaged and stuff, but in the end I found out they were lying.

That's not the worst line ever - but it's not wonderful.

That said, she had the bitch shield on full. I mean, when you get blown out that fast it's actually refreshing... you don't have to waste any more time on a lost cause...

I prefer it in a way, despite the fact it's awful.

Kill the canned routines and lines and you shouldn't run into this stuff (as much).

Charles. No need to be kind here lol.

That is one of the worst lines ive ever herd and was far too abrupt.
Asking a girl to get you a drink in the 2nd sentence is pretty ballsy and no wonder she bombed you out.
If a girl asked me for a drink in a second sentence i would bomb her out no questions.

Next time be a bit more subtle and a bit more under the radar. In my opinion anyways.
Also im not the biggest fan of that opener... 'hey so your standing at the bar idly'
Come on give her something better than that go off of this would have been better... 'Hey i dont come here often any drink you reccomend?' this way your asking an opinion on a drink and you can talk to her about it and ask why its good buy it taste it then tell her how horrible it is and her taste buds must be shot.

just my opinion anyways...

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You said, "Standing at the bar idly..."

Any guy who says, "Idly" is not going to pick up a chick; especially, with a 10.

Sure, it may work sometimes; however, I'll tell you why it didn't.

She didn't know what the word "idly" meant, so she took it as an insult.

Of course, I'm assuming you were dressed extremely well and that wasn't the reason she left you...

With a hot girl, I usually open up with something like "Girl, aren't I the hottest guy in here?"

I GIVE them attitude and regardless of what she says, I play hard to get.

I mean what kind of guy says, "Aren't I sooooo hot?" in a serious way?

Exactly, my point.

When she said "That's the worst pick-up line ever", she was TESTINGyou. If you know anything
about test, you know women do them unconsciously, to test a guy's strenght in himself.

If you act out and become hostile, you lose.

If you submit (which happened in your case), you lose out again.

When you said, "That's fine, I'm not a you're cute kind of guy..." you failed the test, because
you didn't answer her main question behind the test, and that is "Are you strong enough to
handle me?"

Get it?

Think about what could you said to show her that you're a strong man and not chased away easily?

For example, you could have said, " I'm glad you like it..." and then smile and wink at her, showing her that you are completely unafected by her response.

And all in all, it was just one girl, so just move on.

But keep the lesson - when women say stuff like that, they are testing you to see are you
strong enough to handle them. Don't buckle when that happens. Stay strong.

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Not going to lie - i dont think this was a test atall i just think it was a terrible line to use.
As charles said getting blown out that quickly if refreshing because you dnt have to waste your time.
You cant get every single girl you approach fact and every single girl isnt going to be in the mind set of this guy wants me im going to test him. It genuinely was a bad line to use and as the previous dude says the girl probably didnt even know what 'idly' ment. Point being some girls are just in bitchy moods could have been her TOM nothing to do with if your a strong guy. You were strong enough to approach and open and initially thats an advantage on your behalf as you came across confident etc so there is no need for her to 'test' you here.

Just one of those things dude onto the next one.

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The OP said it worked some other hotter girls too so let's not get behind the psychology of the words.

Guys, let's not forget, any opener works when you are In state and giving off a good vibe.

Also, some girls don't like you. So it's a just a simple rejection. If I made a thread for every opener (that 'worked" for me in the past) that didn't work on every girl that rejects me then I would have no time for women.

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PEBBLE is right. You should be focusing more on the "number from a solid 10", which is great, rather than trying to figure out what this approach didn't "work" with this particular girl. You were being congruent, using your personality to screen, but this particular person didn't like it. Of course you have to learn and correct mistakes, for best results over time, but with so much randomness and different people from different backgrounds behaving certain ways and wanting different things, sometimes you just have to let it go.

Side Note: Based on the situation, I'm going to assume the "married HB10" was previously married, but currently single. You should have the same assumption - if you keep up the man-to-woman flirty vibe and/or try to plan catching up soon, and she says she can't because she's married, then you'll know for sure either way.

In other words, create a whirlwind of fun from generating good state from within - which sucks people in the more momentum and emotional freedom you gain - that becomes "numb" to rejection - fundamentally the fact this bothered you, is probably the problem. Not the perceived rejection itself.

One of the problems with people in pick-up is the "batting average frame", trying to get everyone to like you (or expecting everyone will if you have "perfect/ideal" game). Owen from RSD made a video about this (and I believe it's still one of the best and more poignant FreeTour clips he's put out). So yeah, don't be one of those people. Because you run the risk of getting too far into your head, putting too much pressure on yourself, and it counters what you're actually trying to achieve in the long run.

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Well yeah that's not the best line but all in all it doesn't matter. You can't have them all anyway. You have the number of another hottie, and you should really ignore the marriage BS because that's some major shit test right there. There is absolutely no reason for her to tell you this except for seeing how it will affect you.

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Stop acting so desperate and over analysing everything. Your chat up line was baaaaad so don't use it again. As for the dude SeductiveWolf who said she probably didn't know what 'idly' meant, quit being such a patronising, little prick and have a bit of respect for women. They're not as dumb as you'd like them to be hence she walked away and had every right to after hearing that rubbish coming out his mouth.

Your chat up line is also pathetic man. Aren't I Mr Wonderful. Cringe. Get a clue.

Welcome to the real world !

Not every girl will want to talk, even if you have the best line in the world.
If your intentions were good and you were being positive and cool, she was probably just not interested, her own issues.

You say it doesnt happen often so that means you shouldnt care, brush it off and move on.
If it happens all the time I would analyze it but that was just a chick with a stick up her ass, it happens.

And as for the married chick, lol, id ask if shes really married befor wasting any more of my time.

A true man of value has more shit to do than play stupid games.

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That's why I hate routines. Lines are so obvious. If it's spotted as a line, 99% of the time it's going to be viewed as bad.

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He said it worked 3 out of 4 times. If it works for you keep using it. 3 out of 4 is pretty decent.

I never said to change what works for you. I do know that 9 out of 10 times that stats are wrong.

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I don't think it's necessarily that, maybe more that "standing around idly" sounds like something only your Dad would say, and not in a good "who's your daddy" kind of way

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