Alright that is what I will do. I need to fill up the other part and if she is unwilling to work with that ill find someone else to fill that gap. I did try to work on it with her, I am doing nothing wrong in my eyes. once she wants to start getting back to it ill just stop cheating.

Obviously you need to bridge the gap until you decide your forward plan.

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yeah thats really nice. if she doesnt fit your needs then break up. dont walk around cheating. and besides that its stupid you will probably be one of those starting to accuse her for cheating because of what you did.


everyone doesnt suit everyone. if you cant fix it by talking or by doing something else then break up.

So we had a really good talk last night. She had gone to the doctor and she was given a few things medication to help cure her problem and to go the hip therapy. She was also given some numbing lube so she can engage in sex without it hurting so the sex part I think is going to be fixed. Now because we have not had sex we have been unable to grow the feelings for each other.

So I know how I feel about her, that I want to be with her and take care of her. She does not know how she feels about me though. She does not know 100% she wants to be with me and she does not know if she should end it. She is on the fence at the moment. She does not want to break up but she is not sure if it is the right chooses to stay with me. Which I feel the same way, but I was just going to the flow. I don’t know 100% I want to be with her I am also on the fence. I am just going with the flow though, because on day I will know (if I want to be with her or not) until then I happy with just enjoying the ride.

Now a lot of it has to do with we live together. It is much harder for us to show affection since we have to go home to each other and we really don’t get our own space. So the feeling of excitement is really not there since it’s not a choose to see each other.

I was thinking it might be time to spend some time apart to see if we still have that excitement and wanting them around. Do you think this is a solid plan or should I just end it break up and just be roommate with her?

I am able to go stay a week with a friend.

While this "SEEMS" like solid moral advice, It's complete bullshit.

If there is one defining feature that separates men and women it can be summed up in one word… loyalty. Why? Because women have none.

If you think your girl wouldn't ever cheat, your completely deluded.






Three rules for cheating
1. It's not cheating if you are not married.
2. It's not cheating if her name has two adjacent vowels.
3. It's not cheating if she is from different area code.

The best time to look for a job is when you already have one. Apply the same theory to looking for a girlfriend.

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All good, it is true "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."

Every time you leave she should be wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.
Let her wonder.

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All I know is that something about this situation ain't right.

She has a medical issue that all of a sudden makes sex painful? Have you been to the doctor with her or are you just assuming this is true? It's just odd as fuck that right when she starts playing games with this "I don't know if you're the one" shit, she also, pure coincidence, can't have sex anymore? And handjobs just aren't her thing?

It sounds like you've just wrapped a chain around your leg that's connected to a big ball of issues.

I'd say look for other arrangements, find other girls, and tell her when she figures out what she wants to hit you up. Allow no bullshit.

Honestly, if I had to put money on it I'd say she's either talking to or seeing another guy or something like that.

I still think it's just best to dump her than cheating. The guy already don't get pussy anyway.

Don't understand what cheating is good for here. Better to get a girl that gives her what he wants. Plus hiding cheating is effort which can be put into doing better things.

I gotta say, I'm confused and you're giving contradicting points

You say


Which is how you really feel? Do you want to be with her and take care of her, or are you on the fence?

You say she started to get distant and less sex, but it sounds like that was before and separate to the physical problem.

You say you are around each other 24/7, but you go to work, don't text her then, and come home and do your own thing. Is it that you 2 spend too much time together, or you 2 are strangers in the same house?

Also, what is the she puts herself in situations where she could be unfaithful thing about?

Tbh, I feel like you're looking for reasons and giving her excuses. Relationships sometimes end. People get together and realize they don't really see themselves being with the person forever. It has nothing to do with you as a person. She knows her feelings about sex and living together, so if she says she doesn't know how she feels about you, it most likely is not because of these things. I don't think that penis in vag with numbing cream is going to make her change her mind. I disagree and kinda agree with heywood here, that you should cheat. I think you should look elsewhere but not to make her wonder. I think whatever you do should be for your happiness, not to change her mind to be crazy for you for a while then go through doubting again.

All relationships aren't meant to last forever, and you too are young and went married couple style. You could be an amazing guy but where is this heading? Can she see herself with you forever with no other opportunities...because that's the choice she has to make everyday. The reason people move in together when older is because by then they typically know what they want. She's young and doesn't. You too. She could be amazing but have you too been through life enough to know what you want forever? Because the next step is marriage and all that. She's being realistic and at her age these feelings are going to go as long as she is with you or anyone.

In college, we had a saying "Never wife a freshman." And that was because even though you could be a senior or junior and fuck a freshman, you take her seriously as a gf, and mid year she will realize what she is missing out on and dump you.

Edit: Agree with breeds. If she wanted the intimacy and affection, she'd still be affectionate, sex or no sex.

so even if your theory would be correct, that every woman will cheat. does that make it right if you do it?. and is this a correct way to go with other things in life?. you might do something to me so im gonna do it first to you?

No kidding. Hmm...you might kill me so I should just shoot you in the head first.

If it's so confusing or bothersome, just dump her before getting with someone else. No need to put all the effort into cheating and trying to hide it. Cheating, on some level, can make you seem weak too. Be strong and move on.

I don’t know any more she could be and she could not be talking to someone else. I don’t see where she would have the time to.

I know I am contradicting myself on a lot of things. The reason for me to stay away for a few days is not to try to make her fall madly in love with me. It’s more to get my own head straight. I spend so much time with her when I make decisions it’s me and her not myself just for myself. I think taking a week out of the situation will allow me to clear my head. Decide what I really want, I just hope whatever I figure out she feels the same way. Cause if I come back ready to move on, and she wants to continue that would not be good and if I don’t want to move on and she does that would not be good either.

I did learn on thing through all this take the steps one at a time. Don’t go from seeing each other, to boyfriend and girlfriend to, Let’s move in together.

The right steps are dating, relationship, Saying I love you and meaning it, talk about getting married, ten moving in together.

Cause once you move in together you basically are married. Just without the papers and the ring.

Well gentlemen, I applaud the higher ground certainly.

My point is that men tend to have a stronger moral compass in these situations.

We think differently than women. Logically, Analytically. This man has taken the time to visualize, articulate, and solve both complex and uncomplicated problems and concepts to ask advice, and make decisions that are sensible for him and based on available information that he has provided.

he is the one putting forth the effort here, not her.

His reward? Blue balls, and a handful of his own dry dick.

What is the reward if he takes my advice? A wet dick, and a 50/50 chance she will chase him once again, when she learns she is NOT the only option.

I did not say every woman will cheat, I implied they would cheat given the right set of emotional circumstance.

Do what YOU need to do for YOU!!

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but you said "woman have no loyalty".not some woman. and it is proven that men cheat twice as often as woman.

Chados, I get what Heywood is saying. It may sound extreme and general, but he is right. If a girl is pulling away, or showing less affection, 99% of the time there's another guy. Either she's thinking about someone else or messing with someone else. He is saying don't fool yourself that another guy is in the picture. Guys like to find reasons when a girl pulls away such as she's busy or she's stressed or whatever, but the truth is, unless she's a shut in going through a mental breakdown, she is starting to talk to or mess with someone else or at least is preparing herself emotionally for moving on to the next guy.