what's up!

been away for a while now, in a relationship for about 1.5 years now. I seem to have a very recurring problem:

everytime i get to this stage, the "new" seems to disappear in the relationship. We have been seeing each other about once or twice per week the past year, i tried to keep some distance so she would want more. Dont get me wrong things are still going well and we still have sex everytime, but i just start to notice its harder to keep her interested, things i do for her are being percieved as normal and I notice other men are trying to move in for a steal, which they wouldn't dare half a year ago. It's probably normal, the "in love"-phase fades for all of us.

I've been confronted with this in past relationships and everytime it has proven to be fatal. I tried fighting it and seeing each other more, which led to a frustrated gf and termination. Second time i tried not caring which led to her cheating and once again termination.

Any guides or tips out there on how to go on beyond that "hopelessly in love" - stage?

there are no such thing as a perfect relationship or a relationship that will be the same forever. we tend to want more the more the other person takes a step back. the only thing i can say is to appreciate what you have and let her invest in you just as much. dont always make the move. let her do that too.

This is a very interesting thread, something I have had in mind for a couple of months now.
This forum is full of seduction techniques. Mostly with view on one night stands and short relationships. Oneitis is even a disease.

Actually, I like my one-itis and would like to discuss some techniques that will come AFTER seduction. How do you keep things interesting and playfull? Some routines can be used in a relationship, but not all of them.

An attractive lifestyle becomes important in this part. I have no ideas of small, simple routines for 'fun' during a long-term relationship. Would be a great discussion though!

i think that the best advice is to not change and become a boring person that lives by routine.

try to be the guy you are in the beginning of the relationship. invest equally so that nobody will take you for granted.

Alot of guys lose at this. First, make sure your life is good. Work on your career, have a good solid social circle, try new things and always be improving yourself, whether it be working out, reading, travelling or whatever. PS, good friends don't mean good wings or cool guys. People who have your back and genuinely like spending timw with. Make it so your life is complete before a relationship. Then when you get into a relationship, never focus on keeping her. Focus on whether she is deserving of your company and lifestyle.