Ok so I just started grad school and I met this HB8 that came straight from China. She's not really a FOB though. She's very social, impeccable style and really flirty. Off course I do the routine and everything and just run my normal game. First week we went out she would hold my hand and be extra flirty with me. Second date same thing. Third date we went on lunch and she said that in China girls don't even kiss guys for at least 4 weeks and then as we left the restaurant she asked if I would wait that long for her to kiss me. Well I ended up kissing her and F-closing her about 1hr later. Week two we saw each other maybe twice and hung out. We had sex a couple more times. It was always during the day and never after a drunken night out or anything like that. She's known as the "tease" around campus (haha sure). Now I'm in week three. No texts. I'll randomly text her about something but I will get short responses. I was talking to my friend in the cafeteria and she was in front of him in line and I said hi. She gave me a hug but seemed really uncomfortable. I can't read it. I have no idea what happened, last time I saw her everything was great. Its been a solid 5 days without interaction. I don't know if this is cultural or maybe she is busy? (i'm super busy but I can still send a flirt text here and there). I didn't push it I just gave her space. I've built so much rapport with her and she straight up told me she really was into me and she even said the sex was phenomenal. No idea what happened or is happening. Maybe I'll see her this weekend but I need advice on how to approach this.

More info is needed. Is she always alone on campus or does she hang with a group of female friends?
When you say she is known as "the tease", you mean that the guys call her that among themselves, correct? Or do people openly call her that to her face?
I am highlighting these two quotes for future reference because they are important.

The only thing is I've obviously gotten further with her than anyone else. That's what baffles me.

...you didn't answer the two questions...

It usually varies, sometimes she is alone or with a small group of people (2-3 females). Her Chinese friends told her that she is way too flirty. I actually did see her since my last post. She said she wanted to be friends and I was like that's cool. I just thought that maybe I should consider this a nice little fling and would drop it. Well the next day I was at my friends house and she came over. It was just my friend and her boyfriend and then me and this Chinese girl that I've been talking about (which was probably poor planning on my part, I feel like I should have avoided her) but anyways we all made dinner and the whole night she was all over me, laying on me, flirting and what not. It was a real comfortable setting so I don't know if that had something to do with this. When I was driving her back to campus she was like holding my hand and massaging my neck in the car (she initiated all of this by the way, I was trying to treat her as a normal friend after our conversation the previous night). During the ride back to campus she asked if I wanted to watch a movie, she told me she would shower and then come up to my room. As soon as we reached campus however she suddenly said that she was just going to go to bed. Still really confused....That's why I'm not sure if this is a cultural insecurity of if its something that I did.

I suppose I've never had that happen to me before. I'm having a tough time reconciling the rational of why she would break things off with me and then continue to flirt hardcore. She also seems like she wants to continue but something is stopping her....

This girl is weird. It's either she's bipolar or she's one of those girls who like to do "tests". Probably just a manipulative type; after all, her technique is working. She's got you wondering about her all the time. You wanted it to be a fling, but she's got other plans.

Think about that.

umm.... you said she's a tease. Flirting with you then breaking it off is the definition of a tease so I don't see the mystery here. Also, realistically, the sex wasn't great hence she's not chasing to keep that going.

Ironically enough literally 10min after I made my last post she came over, we had sex, chilled for a bit and she left. Pretty sure the sex is still great. It def seems like she is testing the shit out of me but I'm still getting laid so I guess I can't complain. I'm pretty sure its a cultural thing though. She feels weird having sex with me because she doesn't know me that well. She said she's never had sex with anyone she's known less than 6 months. It took me two weeks with her the first time. I guess we'll see what happens....

Dude, I am sure your game is great and you got something good with this girl, but I'd not be so quick to believe that she is being entirely honest with you about the "You being the first person she's had sex with before 6 months" if you got in her pants after 2 weeks. That kind of sounds like a bit of a way to get you invested in her, and leads to you wondering about her all the time like you are now.

Enjoy the sex, if that's what you want, but be careful, because it's a very thin line to becoming needy, if she's already in your head this much.

That's a great point and it is also the center of my though process. You're absolutely right, I think about her more than I should but do you think this is her motive? Does she wants me to be invested in her? Or is her lack of effort an attempt to keep it casual fun? I would have thought if she was needy, her behavior would be different ie: calling/texting, me asking for favors ect... We only ever get to talk or see each other on weekends ( granted our academic curriculum is intense which gives us little time anyways ) and she's only asked me for one favor and that was to drive her to an interview for and internship (she doesn't have a car) but I don't know if I was the first one she asked. I'm trying to stay one step ahead of her. Lol clearly not working...

Hey Man,

I live already more than one Year in China - Shenzhen and I have bunch of experience with Chinese gals. First point is - all Chinese girls under 25 - is really unstable about what they say, what they do and what they think- even more if they experiencing sex / relationship with foreigners. You should be really clear with her about what you want. it's because of the cultural difference - here in china is normal to hold hands, kissing each other, go to cinema etc long time - anyway this is already mean like a serious relationship But as she can speak english and know about ,,foreigners way of dating" she will probably follow you - till the time she understand your meaning - as you see she go for sex quite easy and fast (same as my experience) The problem is after that they become really messy about what next and they mostly waiting your reaction. You should realise what you want from her and show her your meaning about your relationship quite obvious. If you want to be with her you should start to treat her and take care about her like a princess (no excuses if you busy) She will in 99% follow you. If you don't know how to act and you feel messy about her acting - trust me that she thing the same about You :-X She don't know what to think about your acting...That will lead her to takes the things to her hands...

In other case - Chinese Girls can be sweat to many guys in the same time - they ,,fall in love" to everyone who brings them orgasm...as you mention that she say sex with you was amazing - and now you feel from her she loose interest? It's quite weird - is my experience she fuck with someone else (Im just honest) As my experience Chinese girls are really horny if you give them good sex they have no reason to acting like you describe - If she is really into you...
If not - she just acting - it's quite common - Chinese girls can be ,,absolutely Perfect manipulative Bitches" In the way you never can imagine...Only my advice in this case is - JUST DON'T FALL in LOVE to her too fast ) I know many stories like you describe...Chinese girls are hungry for experience, so give her reason that you are the only experience she want - you will see how she acting. And be more direct with the things you want - if you will see it lead to classic relationship - good for you if you want this. If you will feel weird, or she will just meet you because of sex with you - Im quite sure she have in the same time sex with others and no matter what sweet things she speak to you, or hug you or whatever, she is not into you and just use your penis as she need ) So Be carful mate.

Wish you strong mind!

Look girls want someone to want them, even if they aren't sure exactly what they are looking for. I don't know what this particular girl wants specifically, but this is why freezing them out sometimes helps, or at the very least backing off on communication. If they are really invested in you and you pull back, then they will reach out to get you back invested. It's worked recently with my now gf, and you can find any thread in this section saying the same thing.

Have you seen her or interacted at all since you posted this thread?

Did she just come off the assembly line?

Marioslavus your advice was extremely helpful and accurate so thanks for that. No I haven't "fallen in love with this girl but I'm enjoying chilling with her. No she is not off the assembly line. Shes well educated, from Shanghai and well traveled. She is actually very outgoing compared to the other Chinese girls on this campus. Yeah she's been coming over more often actually and messaging me much more frequently. She def expects the princess SPAM though that's for sure. I'm going to try freezing her out and see how that turns out.