Do you guys ask girls if they have boyfriends before you start hitting on them? Because I certainly never do and I flirt a lot with a girl at work, I'm very physical with her and she loves it. She responds very well to my advances, eye contact is heavy at all times between us even when we're working and when she sees me from far she will lock eyes as she walks to her destination. She calls me a flirt and she laughs at any stupid thing I do or say. We tease, play, talk and its never on some friend shit. Its always either sexual or about her or me and her together. Anyways short story is the girl obviously likes me and she knows I like her back.

However she never mentioned having a boyfriend but I did found out via social media that she has been seeing someone for 6 months now. Thanks to that same source I was able to find out that they get into little fights a bit (they're the same age so its probably due to immaturity, oh and I'm quite older than both of them) and might of split up for a little while during those 6 months. Now I know I'm gonna be seen as an unethical asshole for this but I'm gonna make a move on her. My goal however is not to make them split up, I'm just playing my role as the man who spices up her life with a little fling or two, give her that hot physical love she needs and she can go back to her emotional lover (the boyfriend) as soon as I'm done... BUT I have a little question on how I should proceed....

Thing is, I only see her once or twice a week and its always at work. We've only been working together recently and its only now that we also end our shifts at the same time. I dont maintain contact with her outside of work, its very rare I do. Last time I texted her was about two weeks ago, she replied back to me but I'm so busy that I only saw her message 4 days later and didnt even bother to reply lol. I had a chance last saturday to do something with her, because she mentioned about wanting to go to a festival in the city but that her friends didn't want to go with her. She mentioned that festival TWICE to me and I did feel like telling her that I was going and she should tag along but truth is I couldn't go. She asked me what my plans were and I told her the truth: I was going to spend my whole night preparing my 3000 word paper + research I had to do for the week. Being the awesome guy I am in her eyes she said "I really doubt thats what ur gonna do" but unfortunately it was the truth. (My future is important for me is what I told her). In return I asked her what she was gonna do now that she wasn't going to the festival and thats when she said "I might go and pick up my.. friends boyfriend" which in my opinion was her trying not to bait out that she was going to pick up her boyfriend from somewhere lol.

Her NOT mentioning having a boyfriend is a good thing right (for fear of me backing off if she mentions him)? BTW, should I maintain contact with her outside of work? I will only see her next saturday now, should I text her in the middle of the week or something just to keep in touch? Truth is I never text girls unless its to get a date or something. I despise any communication that is not in person because in person she is submissive to me where as in text she can decide to play it cool and take hours to answer.

I am fully aware and accept the consequences of making her cheat on her boyfriend with me, I would also love to hear the stories of fellow jerks like myself who have participated in such activities.

Nope, don't ask her. You're feeding her a potential excuse why she shouldn't be going out with you/fucking you.

All she has to do is reply 'yes' and you've been shut down.

It's like saying "You don't want to go out with me, do you?"

I didn't read your post dude but I'll respond to the subject.

And my answer is no; I do not mention or bring up whether or not a girl has a boyfriend. I've had women tell me that sometimes they date boring beta males because they get lonely. They don't actually plan on being with the guy; but he's really all they have at the moment because their aren't any decent guys approaching them.

50% of boyfriends are placeholders I think and I would say 50% of women who say they have boyfriends don't actually have them.

If a woman is married, she's off limits, because there is a lot of additional issues that come with divorce, not just emotion. But if a girl just has a "boyfriend" that means nothing to me.. That some new 20th century shit anyway. The alpha males get to pick first.

Hope I answered your question.

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Yeah I agree my post is too long.

I never asked her and don't plan on asking. She never told me and probably never will. Ill make it short, I found out via twitter that she has been seeing someone for 6 months but they seem to get into little split ups every now and then. I only see her at work, I'm a pretty busy guy, but at work we flirt like hell. Our flirting is very physical (lots of touching and grabbing), teasing and lots of conversations that involve only the two of us on a romantic/sexual level. She laughs at every stupid thing I say. In other words: she wants me. I have to make a move and that's it. We are working together next Saturday so I'll wait till I see her then to make a move and seal the deal.

But should I remain in contact with her during the week? Like, say, text her mid week like tomorrow for instance and then cut off all contact again till Saturday? I don't text her often, last time I texted her was two and a half weeks ago. How should I play this one out?

ok this is right up my ally

The way to do this is to make sure she DOES NOT FOR ANY REASON FEEL JUDGED, this goes for EVERY girl. She should be able to tell you about the guys shes fucked, or fucking, and her crazy experiences. she should be able to be her unfiltered self. And the way to do this is to lead by example.

if she hasnt mentioned her bf and has been hinting to hangout...what do you think the type of relationship she wants?

yea keep contact so she doesnt think you have a vagina and make a move ASAP, have a clear plan and time. and make it happen.

good luck

i will inevitably see her saturday at work. ill make my move at the end of our shift by isolating her somewhere outside work.

how should i go about keeping contact with her? my initial idea of texting her tomorrow for a short but hot texting convo doesnt please me as much cause i dont like texting for no reason. i usually text to set something up, but i cant text her for that. reason is i cant meet up with her anyday before our shift on saturday, so might aswell do all my gaming in person.

Ping texts

Short but sweet just to stay in her kind, I send funny memes or pics, or a joke

You: funny text
Her: haha blahblah
You: what ever

Done

I'm sure you can make time this week for her this week to come over, a little head hasn't killed anyone




Do this on Thursday or Friday

You're telling me to send the text on either thursday or friday? I was thinking about sending it today, midweek, just to make sure I'm back on her mind.

Yes I can always make time for her before saturday but whats the point? Chances are she might be with her boyfriend after school on her free time. I have her all to myself at work on Saturday (or maybe Sunday, I might have to cancel my Saturday shift). I can play it better in person to make her go out with me after our shift is done.

Stop assuming stuff and find out if you want, but if you don't make a move she might not be interested anymore

ill text her in a bit ill set something up for friday

I'm glad to announce that I found out something very important: my text game needs a lot of improvement. We went back and forth just a little bit but she ended up not answering my last text, never even got the chance to tell her we were going out lol. However I was able to identify my mistakes will know for next time.

Thanks for your feedback guys.

Don't ask me if I have a boyfriend.

It gives me a very easy way to shut down your pick up moves. I may have been open to continuing the exchange, but now you got me thinking about the guy I'm kind of dating, and if I say no I don't have a boyfriend then it's like giving you a green light and I won't be able to reject you later without hurting your feelings.

Almost every attractive woman has a boyfriend of some sort. But she'll abandon him for the guy she really wants. I would assume she's available unless she has a ring on her finger signaling engaged or married.

Don't do it you could ruin that guys life. We all got into this for a reason and it wasn't make somebody else's life miserable. Take a more seductive approach be patient. Let her leave him when she's ready. Meanwhile, stay friends with her keep doing everything y'all doing already, then when she's ready she'll come to you.