Decided to make a few changes, work out more, stay off most social media and not responding to bs texts from a girl that has friend zoned me. Mostly making myself scarce as possible. My question is this, is it a good sign or bad sign if she texts me: "Are you still alive?"

Still just trying to validate herself.

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She is feeling ignored. That was the plan, right?

Yup, I would imagine kowtowing to her every text and request isn't gonna work.

What do you mean by still trying to validate herself?

You are interested in getting with this girl, right? If it's a relationship you want, then you're dumb to think that ignoring the girl will work. Unless you've been doing the pick-up thing so long that you don't even know how to behave in a normal relationship. If you think you're "friendzoned" then it's because of 1 of 2 possible reasons.

1. She currently can't see what is so amazing about you
2. There is actually nothing so amazing about you that she'd want to date you.

If you remain her friend and you are a great person, she will see it in the end and there is a possibility that she will fall in love with you over time. But by ignoring her, obviously you are killing any chances of her seeing what a great person you are.

Of course the fact that you're ignoring the girl, already tells me you're not a great person at all

Dude you are doing the right thing. Make yourself as scarce as possible until she starts missing you and appreciating your presence more... You have to be ready to cut contact as well. For me I would rather not see her at all, then see her and be friendzoned even though I want to be more than friends with her.

And please ignore young lady's advice, you cannot get more mainstream advice than that. I think she just watches too many chick-flicks and romantic comedies...

Good luck bro!

Ummm... No.

This is so wrong!
He is doing the right thing now!
You are not thinking of the guys feelings! If they have a chance to end up together it is healthier for the guy to go away and come back. After which the girl will have to learn about him again. Change perspective. No longer think about him as a friend. That is when he can make himself more boyfriend material. If that doesn't workout then it means their 10 years of friendship would have not lead to a relationship. And in those 10 years she would have had a "pillow" to cry on without thinking about the "pillows" feelings.

ptiger91, just keep being indifferent. Do not reply with more than "yeah, been busy". Bring that mystery about you, make her wonder what are you doing, are you seeing a new girl?

this is a horrible idea... why would you want him to go through that pain? Lol.

you're doing the right thing dude... if you wait years hoping one day she'll date you it'll destroy you

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OP said he actually wants to work his way out of the friendzone, which is not easy. Well if he wants this girl to actually love him, then the only option is to wait. This is the relationship section, not pickup.

Every girl is different. If she's a stupid girl, then she will go back to him even after he ignores her. But if she's smart, then ignoring her is probably a terrible move that will result in her hating him forever. I have clearly identified myself as a "young lady", so if OP wants to ignore my advice, he can easily do that. Only he knows what kind of girl she is - a stupid one or a smart one.

Stupid or smart it doesn't matter, the point is you are not thinking about OPs feelings here.
It is much healthier for HIM to take a break if he wishes to try and get out of the friend zone. If the girl is smart and she knows what is going on she will not be an idiot and judge him on the feelings that he has for her. She will understand and if it still doesn't work at least OP can then live knowing that he could never be with her and move on to other girls. This is a healthier relationship for BOTH of them, it is a more honest approach.

I can tell you now that everyone who has ended up in the 'friend zone' PUT THEMSELVES THERE!

In my personal experience the reasons for someone ending up in the friend zone are that the girl did initially have attraction. BUT the guy has not ever made a move past that stage.

So she has just stuck him in there because she can't be bothered to fuck around waiting when other options are available.

If thinks that he is not interested, sexually, but likes him enough to reap the benefits of free dinners and car repairs, sure he can tag along. But the panties will remain locked.

If you were friends for a few months and then suddenly you liked her more than a friend, then just make a move and stop being a pussy. Because you can't resent her for putting you in the friend zone! How the fuck was she supposed to know what you were thinking?! YOU HAVE TO SHOW HER!

Getting out of the 'friend zone' is a lot simpler than you think, your choice is the only thing holding you in limbo here.

In order to get out of the 'friend zone' stop being her friend.

Become less available, show only sexual interest.

Girls don't punish a man who aggressively tries to bed her as long as she is attracted.

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Totally bad advice.

Sell the benefits of your hard, throbbing cock instead and give her enough time to think about your cock pounding her pussy. That's the most moral thing to do.

You're in good hands with Heywood.

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After a few weeks of ignoring lunch/dinner invitations, I finally agreed to meet for happy hour drinks or lunch on Friday. She wants to come over and cook instead.

Good sign or bad sign?