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I see nobody's replied yet.
Well your girlfriend sounds quite intriguing, but I'm guessing you don't need any advice seeing as you're a genius, and you pride yourself on being a manipulator! I hope you know what you're doing, though.
This girl displays two types of behaviors that do not usually go together. On the one hand she shows a level of boldness which even I don't possess. She
approaches you first and
initiates conversations. And yet, on the other hand, she shows a huge level of
vulnerability by acting insecure/afraid ("I feel like you don't wanna be with meee

")
It would be interesting if you posted some more details about you and your girlfriend, and I'd love to know what you
eventually figure out about this mysterious girl's intentions and how she handles you in the end. I just have this feeling she'll handle you, and not the other way around.
Thanks a lot for your reply

and yes, I'd love to give out more details. Well, first of all - she's the one who actually approached me and talked to me, and asked me out although I didn't seem to give my attention to her before but she noticed me. I've actually seen quite few girls giving me the look/signal but I wasn't really able to approach them since I started reading all the stuff on these forums. She tries to make me jealous by talking about other guys with me but I don't seem to care which doesn't make her feel good and I'm planning to make her jealous now. Also, I've tried few other things discussed on these forums, such as; just manning up and telling her to stop talking about boring stuff, I usually go like "so boring" and she stops talking. Basically, I just tell her to entertain me and I've seen her try her best to do so. I'm not really sure how to handle her, but I'm trying. Also, she wants to get sexual soon - she's been giving me signals lately and I should probably go for it. Once again, thanks for showing interest. <3
Well, this is supposed to be a serious relationship, but both of you are playing games. I really don't know what to say when I see high school pettiness in adult couples. Good luck with that, but I'm sure you know how it's going to end.
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The behaviors aren't contradictory or 'rare' by any stretch of the imagination. A lot of anxious attachment type people act this way. They can put up a bold front when the attachment is nil or weak, but once the hooks are in they become fearful of losing the person and will react through a very insecure lens, often times pushing their partner away. Not saying definitively that this girl is insecurely attached, but the behaviors are very common.
You would be right if this girl were actually insecure. Look at it carefully, she knows how attractive she is, that is why she behaves in certain ways. To put myself in her shoes, I would have OP as just one of several projects. Just as I approached the OP, I would also approach a couple other guys because I'm hot and it's easy to get them. Each guy has a different personality and will entertain me differently. So while with the OP, I act dumb and babyish because it's what he likes, and I am very patient because it's just a role I'm playing. Then when I'm with the other guys, I alter my persona accordingly. You can disagree with my opinion, but not every girl who appears to be dumb and insecure actually is...