While I was together with my ex I met a girl and it was love at first sight for lack of a better term. It was just so obvious to both of us and to everyone else. I can't remember ever experiencing this before. But we were both in relationships and I was living in another country so we didn't do anything about it.

A year ago I broke up with my ex and moved out of her place and the country. It turned out that the other girl also had broken up with her boyfriend. We met for drinks within the first week I was back, but this was before I started learning PUA stuff. I think I did some thigns right but I also did a lot of stupid shit. I was in a fucked up place and felt the need to share all the fucked up things that my ex did to me when she hadn't even asked. I didn't get a kiss. She told me she was going to India for 6 months, but we agreed to meet one more time before she left. In the end she didn't have time, or at least that's what she said. She said we could talk again when we were at the same place at the same time. After 7 months I wrote her asking if we were, but she wasn't back yet so I told her to let me know when she was back.

She actually ended up staying in India for a year, but I know from her Facebook that she's coming back in a week.

How should I play this? I have already told her to contact me so I will definitely not contact her at all to begin with, but maybe I should give myself a timeframe? And if we meet again should I apologize for telling her all the stuff about my ex without her asking? Should I explain to her that I was in a fucked up place because of it and didn't know how to act? Or should I just keep it light and use my new-fond PUA powers to regain any attraction I may have lost?

Yes I have onitis. I don't care, I want a real relationship with her.

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What would James Bond do?

there are times to stand your ground on waiting for a call, and times not to.

A girl you have little connection with, haven't seen in a year, and dumped emotional baggage on is not one of those times. Your going to have to get on her radar, and you probably aren't even a blip right now.

Will's right...

And don't talk about your last conversation unless she brings it up. Talk about yourself a little DHV and get her talking to you/texting you/messaging you etc. She's going to be busy getting things wrapped up there and moving back here. So an occasional 'how's the packing going? Are you going to miss India? Looking forward to getting home? (All emotional). When you message her for the meeting use a pretext that you want to her all about India and her trip. You wish you could go somewhere for a year. That must have taken alot of courage. What did you learn etc? And ask to see pictures (Highly emotional)

So you're telling me she's been living in India for a year and all you want to talk about when she gets back is why you said such stuff to her a year ago? I reckon she doesn't give a shit about the topic and that will just make you look like a pussy.

Ignore the topic, tell her you missed her and would like to go for coffee/anything to catch up for an hour or two. If she's still into you, you'll know by then. But by all means don't ever strike the subject you're planning to open up.

Okay, but I'm not following Cool Hand Luke's advice of asking her about packing and all that. I think it will make me look needy, like I've been counting down the days for a year.

It would be cool if she contacted me first, but yeah maybe I do need to get on her radar. But I feel I should give her a little time after she gets back.

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What would James Bond do?

Keep it light for the LOVE OF GOD. Do not drop a dump truck full of emotions on her ass haha

and it's true you're probably not on her radar so you need to take some action to connect with her instead of waiting for it to happen... or it'll just pass you by.

Keep the convo light with the stuff you learned.

and the oneitus thing should alarm you. If you have tunnel vision for this girl you're gonna end up shooting yourself in the foot. You're gonna fall in the trap of playing it safe and when you play it safe you'll do counter intuitive things that will kill the attraction.

Talk to her but keep your options open. Value yourself more. There's no reason this girl should be a priority to you when we're not even sure yet if you're an option for her.

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