Hey guys, I used this forum once a while back but I wasn't terrible active or internally ready for Pus but now I'm back and truly ready to improve my life.

My back story is a bit intensive. Alright so I've never been terribly great with women. Once I became old enough to like them they've been pushing me away. At first it was because while I was going through puberty I was alienated out as an ugly kid. I ended up getting acne really bad. Well instead of doing what most kids did and retreat into my shell I started making fun of myself in an attempt to diffuse the teasing. Eventually enough of the people telling me I was ugly and worthless I started to believe them. It was partly my fault since I would make a joke of it, which made people laugh, so they would keep verbally attacking me cycle continued. Sine I portrayed this low standard of self worth (no one wants to date the clown or jester) woman felt comfortable telling me I was ugly and worthless. They had no problem hanging arround me because I made them laugh and did things for them but they never needed to do more than that because I was already giving them what they needed.

This started the friend zone cycle. Eventually I grew tired of pretending to have friends when the people I called friends just kept me arround for entertainment. I decided to become something better so I enlisted in the United States Marine Corps. I became a better person, I gained confidence and self worth and most importantly discipline. I thought I was on top of the world, untill right at the end of my combat training I broke oth of my feet. I ended up gaining an extra 5 months of training and recovery period. For almost a whole year I was unable to see a single female outside of the old ladies who served chow. While I was on recovery, me and the other Marines were constantly berrated by our superiors who claimed we were all faking our injuries and were thieves to the government and corps. We were made to do menial and degrading tasks from 0530 to 2200 every night. That period of my life was dark and still has effect on my self esteem.

Anyway I finally made it past training and into the Marine corps. I had a few high moments, missed a few deployments for various reasons. It was about this moment I realized how terrible I was with woman. I tried dating military women, female Marines. Even those with reputations for sleeping with everyone turned me down. I even got open confession from several that had admitted to sleeping with many of the Marines in the barracks.

Now I'm out of the Marine Corps and I'm 22 years old. I'm still a virgin and have only kissed one girl in my life. I've been reading pua and I feel like I'm making progress. I'm in college now, attending the university of Arizona. It's new territory for me and I'm not used to having so many beautiful women all in one place. I've been approaching women left and right but I think I need some help.

So if anyone lives in Tucson and has this PUA thing down and wants to help a vet out, I could really use some help changing this last weak part of my life.

Thanks for reading my giant text wall guys. I look forward to improving my game with you all!

A MARINE! Thank you for your service and struggle. The fact is, most of us do not have the balls to do what you did, enlist. I attempted to be a Marine, health reasons made the Core tell me no. It was crushing at the time.

Female soldiers in any context can have a bad reputation. The truth is a lot of guys, like you, try to sleep with them, they get the pick of most guys their. This is not the real world. The real world? You are a freggin' MARINE. You went through hell and back. You were insulted, battered, and injured. A woman can do NOTHING to hurt you. You are a Confident, accomplished man. You deserve success in life.

I would start being social and friendly. I have worked with Marines before, and various military men. Your dedication and determination will make you AMAZING with women.

Start by being social. Say hello to everyone. Due to the Core you have AMAZING Body Language and Voice Tone if you are not afraid to use it.

The hard part is becoming social and getting flirty. So practice. Treat PUA like Boot Camp. You had to run MILES a day. Open SETS a day. Get comfortable talking to strangers and be relentless. Never skip a day. We both know you can do it.

If you have any specifics, poke around here. Plenty of us have free Blogs and Websites, and the forum is FILLED with incredible advice.

I wish you the best of luck. You DESERVE it.

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Hey man thanks for your feedback and overwhelming support. It's always motivating to hear it, even after I've left the service. Your right about having more confidence and body language. I notice I approach women and start conversations with everyone way more then most people on campus. Most people seem like zombies walking from class to class with Thier heads down or music in Thier ears, afraid of human interaction. I make eye contact with everyone, most look away or our afraid to look back (other males at least) woman seem to have a bit of a spark in Thier eyes once they connect.

I feel like I'm doing a lot better with meeting other people and opening sets in day game. I've been practicing in the long stretches between classes, just walking arround the campus and talking to girls I like. I've got a few numbers, more rejections than numbers but at least I'm trying, it feels good actually. I think I'll be able to turn this whole virgin thing arround someday soon and correct this weakness I have. I'm used to rejection anyway so at least I'm not scared of it. It's hard to be scared of anything in the real world, nothing feels nearly as intimidating as it once did. Although I still have no idea when or how to escalate physically. I'm always afraid a women is going to freak out if I try to kiss her or anything like that. I dunno why but I have this irrational fear that women will cry sexual harassment or assault or something which is silly I know but somehow always pops in my head when I think about trying.

I don't remember if I mentioned it in my original post or not but I've been performing stand up comedy at open Mic nights once a week. It's helped me out a ton.

Anyway thanks again for your response. Semper fi!

And you are practicing humor at an Open Mic?

Jesus....

Open Mic will teach you to handle tension, humor, and rejection. It's an amazing learning tool.

For touch, start out social, stuff you would do with your grandmother. When you open, and she engages, a hand on the arm while still talking opens the physical pathway of communication.

In college I would suggest checking out and befriending Frat guys. Not all frats are the same. Some suck. Some have hazing and treat men and women horrible. But some are better, and they all throw parties. You befriend the guys, they will help you get laid.

For them its purely a Value swap. You are social, bring girls in, they reciprocate. Be social, befriend frat guys, Open girls and invite them. The guys will wing for you if they have a girl. They will introduce you to girls at the party.

You do not need to even join the Frat. Just be friends with some of the guys.

Heck, pitching in for a keg is often enough Value to make them want you to party with them.

But you need to Open them and be friendly first.

This will Open you options for women quite a bit.

Something I did was have my own headphones on, and when I went up to girls with head phones I would very deliberately pull mine off after we made eye contact. That often would get them to do the same. Easy Rapport off of what are you listening to.

You have it in you and are marching down the right path. As you know, it is easier than we make it out to be.

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Ya your right, the comedy stuff really helps I've been extremely more open to talking to strangers and now when a girl throws up a notch shield and ignores me or whatever I just laugh at them because honestly being a bitch just looks fucking rediculous.

The frat thing is tricky. I'm not sure where to find them haha. I'm thinking if I just go up to them at Thier stand and explain I don't got the funds or time to pledge to Thier shit but still think they're fucking awesome ext... It might work? I dunno but I think I'll try that tomorrow

Find the guys in the frat or find out when they are throwing a party and just pop in and say hello, be social. If one of the guys are in a class with you, be friend them.

Going to the booth is okay, let them know you are a Marine and don't know if you are ready to pledge to another organization and see what they have to say. Be friendly to them. Whats the worst that can happen?

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