I was recently in detroit for an event for the weekend and there was a girl who was part of the staff that I hit it off with. We talked for a good couple hours through saturday and sunday and I definitely felt chemistry between us. On the final day right before she had to go another part of town for her job, I got her number (she was even like she said she coudln't give it to me coz she was at work but still found a way to give it to me anyways).

And throughout talking to her/getting to know her, I was getting a lot of positive signals.

-She felt comfortable enough around me to open up about herself
- She did stuff like playfully punch me in the shoulder, leaning into each other's personal space to whisper stuff that shouldn't have been being said at work (like talking about drugs)
- A lot of eye contact, and like I said before a lot of chemistry and there seemed genuine interest.

Here's how the text convo goes ( i hate texting, prefer face to face conversation so was trying to set up meeting her after work but maybe didn't go about the best way of doing it

Sunday
Me 3:49PM Hey its Br3ezy
Her 7:49PM Whuddup
Me 8:33PM When do you get off work?
Her 8:34PM Half hr
Me 9:00PM Gonna come to the bar?
Her 9:08PM Which one?
Me 9:10PM *bar name*
*no response*
Me 9:31PM really enjoyed your company at the event and just wanted to 1 more time before i leave tomorrow

Tried calling her at 11ish, didn't pick up or anything (it rang the full amount before going to voicemail

Monday
Then next day, she msg's me

Her 7:19AM Have a safe trip back!
me 7:24am working today?

*driving back home*
her 9:57am yep
me 10:02am why so busy?
her 10:21AM i always am

Me 12:46PM GL with ur life (paraphrasing what it said there), if you ever find yourself **state i live in*** send me a message too
her 1:56PM I definitely will


And I just left it at that because my chance had passed (only had sunday night available before i left).

I am really annoyed because she managed to leave an impression on my unconscious so I can't seem to shake her and I keep wondering if theres something I did wrong or should have done sooner so that I could seal the deal.

I feel like I should have tried to text her faster instead of waiting so long in between to maybe try to setup some kind of dinner date that night or just something so I could see her outside of work and then kiss her, or even get her to a secluded spot where she was working and kiss her WHILE she was working but away from her boss so she woudln't get in trouble

And her text responses didn't make a lot of sense either (this is why i hate texting and prefer talking face to face). I might have been getting desperate when I texted her that i really enjoyed her company and wanted to see her 1 more time and she doesn't respond to any of that but then in the morning (and really early too) she says have a safe trip back (she definitly read what i sent and saw the call, but i wonder why she didn't say anything about it like how she felt about it). I am confused where might stand and how she actually felt about me (if she was probably blowing me off or just genuinely wasn't able to meet me that night (or didn't feel strongly enough about me to move her schedule around to meet me but she had to work really early in the morning (since she was up at 7) so idk


I think if I had been in town for a couple more days, I could have easily set something up with her when she wasn't working and then continue from there, but since I was only available that night, I was running low on time without accounting for that factor.


TL:DR I was trying to get a cross country friends with benefits casual thing going (too long distance for a relationship imo) and somewhere it went wrong and I can't stop thinking about her either (need to meet another girl fast but school doesn't start for another week)! What went wrong here?

Some people aren't texters.

The girl I'm with right now - you'd swear she was perpetually pissed at me. 3 word replies to questions I asked 4 hours ago, almost always... that's just how she is though. She doesn't text much.

With that said - I think she didn't have quite as much interest as you think she did (she wasn't disinterested, but her connection with you wasn't as strong as your connection with her).

Are you going to be back in Detroit anytime soon? You could always keep in friendly touch with her and shoot her a note a week or two before going back. Tell her you'll be in town and would love to catch up for a drink.

Apart from that, yeah, it'd be an LTR thing anyway.

What do you think i should have done about the interest/disinterest (why do you think that happened)? I think i should have escalated faster maybe and just act faster instead of taking my time

If she wasn't feeling it with you - then there's not much you could have done.

But if you think that you could have done more, you probably could have. Kino is huge... Really. It's so subtle and so back-of-your-mind when you're trying to remember everything you should be doing and how to keep things moving well, but you need it.

I'd suggest there may not have been enough of that - if anything... (but you don't really detail that much).

Exactly.

You seriously do not think you were the #1 and only she showed passive interest at this event do you?
$10 says her contact list is as extensive as her Detroit phone book.

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ya i think i was too busy building comfort to do kino, will start it sooner next time and try to escalate in general faster

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She doesn't like texting so stop bothering her with text messages. Just use it for meeting up and confirming plans for the next day. If you come across a girl that likes messaging back and forth then by all means go ahead and do it but clearly this woman isn't like that but prefers physical and verbal communication.