As the school year approaches I find that I now have more opportunities to spread my wings in the game. For those of you who don't know, I'm 19, in college in the states, and just looking around the scene for a good time. I am not uncomfortable around women at all, I just SUCK at closing. That is why I have joined the forum. Just to get some guidance there, so hopefully I get some help. But, here it goes;

Last weekend:

Went to a casual get together that turned into something a bit larger than I expected. Maybe around 30 in the house. HBs everywhere. I open a huge mixed set just fine and begin the negging the process on two potential HBs (HB7 and HB9). Eventually isolate myself with those two. Hoping my wing comes in to pick up the one I didn't want. He is nowhere to be found. I tell the ladies "I'll be right back, I have important matters to deal with" (figured it demonstrated some higher value and portrayed an enigmatic nature) and I went searching for my wing. He had bailed, guess he wasn't having as much luck as me or something. I reenter the two set and continue negging and eventually choose one. Isolated her. Sitting on a couch and talking, she's literally begging me to tell her this funny story I had but I kept teasing her with it. To my misfortune, a drunken idiot rushes over and begins distracting us (this is where my wing would have been helpful for defense). Others overheard the commotion and ran over to see what all the noise was about, so no more isolation. I left the set. Entered another, but completely lost motivation because a friend of mine who was at the party said he wanted the girl I was going after so I let him go for it. Went home empty handed. Not even a number close. But it was a good start to the year, because I entered more sets successfully than I had in a while (probably around 5).

Last night:

Text girl in my phone who I had met a year or two ago, HB7. She was back in town. Invite her over to "help decorate my room" at 9pm...I mean c'mon, we all know what that means. She came over, we talked decorating for a bit, then sat on my bed and just talked. Unfortunately, hadn't gotten internet set up in my new house yet, so Netflix was not an option, making transition into physicality more difficult for me, since the Netflix play is normally my go to. This night ended the same. No type of close...

Once again, I SUCK at closing. Advice on transitions to more physical behavior would be appreciated. Thanks fellow PUAs, and I look forward to letting you all know how the year plays out.

~LD

1) You shouldn't have excused yourself from the set if it was going well. You also shouldn't be negging a 7 if she's not being a bitch to you. Just stop negging.

2) If she showed up at your place at 9 pm to 'decorate your room' then her intention was to decorate your room with nudity. That seems like she offered you her ass on a silver platter and you just sat there on your hands.

Read into situations logically. You know what girl #2 was there for. It wasn't netflix.

KINO. KISS. CLOSE.

Starts with kino - I suspect that's what you're not doing and why it never gets any further... Just start touching... It's tough the first few times - but you'll get over it.

Count to 3 and just do it.

Negs should only be used to bring a girl down if she is a peg or 2 above herself for example a HB9 who wont give you the light of day. Dont just neg people for the sake of negging and the lower you go down the ranks the lesser it should be needed ultimately you will just insult people.

Secondly... Charles is right a girl coming to decorate at 9pm at night is most certainly her offering it on a plate. Best idea there would have been to eff her right in the pussy and stop bitching out.

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