First of all, I'd like to thank Mark Manson for the idea of "Expressing yourself honestly".

We all know that pickup has helped us all, whether we were experienced with girls already or totally new to hooking up, it has in someway put us a step further ahead from the normal guys who know nothing but buying girls drinks and asking them the old casual questions. But what most of the new and average guys don't know is one thing that separates them from the experienced PUAs. Once they develop this feature, they'll see big-time changes in their lives, even miracles. So what is this one thing you might ask. My answer is: TASTE.

So I'm clubbing with some friends and I go to the bar in order to grab a drink, then one girl energetically asks her date for the night "So what do you think of the movie The Dark Knight?". He replies "It's amazing", then the awkward silence falls between them. He tries to recover miserably by asking her "So...Where do you live?". She tells him that she lives with her best friend. The guy thinks he's clever enough, so he asks her "Really? That's great, so you go to college?". And right before any words uttered, Xoved runs in with "It's really rare to find girls who are into such type of movies these days, you're like an angel sent to men from heaven. I mean I know girls who think Christian Bale is hot and all that, but to be intrigued by the movie is what amazes me the most from a girl". The girl tries to think of something to say, she might utter "I mean yeah he's hot and..." or she might say "All the girls out there are missing the fun in...". Whatever she says, I come in heavy with all these crazy expressions. Next thing you know is that I leave her for 5 minutes and she'll be with her date being interviewed by "So what are you hobbies?" "Maybe we can go eat after that?" "We have to see that movie you were talking about, maybe Tuesday?". She's depressed, she begs for me to come back. And when I do, I start caressing her hair like I haven't seen her in ages, I'll give her a hug, then continue my conversation "I just had this drink called a Flaming Lamborghini, I literally had to set the whole bar on fire and ended up burning the straw I was drinking from, come I'll show you what happened, my friends took a video of me drinking it".

Well let me tell you something. I have literally been in such scenarios a dozen times. Not that I intend to steal girls from their guys, but it is for a fact that when I like a girl, I'll go for her. One guy once said (forgot the exact person or the exact quote but it goes like this) "If you can steal my girlfriend while I'm standing next to her, I'll shake your hand and congratulate you". If a girl likes a guy, she won't leave him, these are the basic rules for pickup.

So what am I suggesting? As you can see from the paragraphs above, I've seen thousands of guys losing their girls because they have no taste in life, no taste at all. Every time someone tells you something, ask yourself "How do I feel about that?". If the answer is "I don't care" or "I don't know" then you're doing it wrong. Learn to express YOURSELVES. Learn to express your OWN opinions. If a girl plays some music and asks you about it, don't you ever be that lame guy who says "It's good", tell her how you HONESTLY feel towards the music, what does it make you feel and what is not good about it, say it all. I'm sure she'd feel better hearing you saying "It's really bad, my dick can sing better than that, but I like the flow of rhythm and beat" than someone telling her "It's good".

This doesn't apply to music, it applies to every single topic being talked about daily. Even if a girl says "How are you?", you can go ahead and be all that casual and say "fine, and you?" or you can transfer those positive vibes to her and tell her "Amazing actually, it's mainly because I ran into (person you like) and...". You get the point. Express yourself and elongate your conversations, this is the only way you can keep a conversation going for ages without boring the girl. Be excited when you're saying something exciting. Be sad when you're talking about something that made you sad. Express yourself honestly and do it by elaborating on what and how it made you feel. Everything in life has a taste, it's your job to find it and express yourself towards what it made you feel.


Peace, brothers.

~Xoved

Great post, I agree with it. I have had my own conversations stagnate because I didn't express myself.