If you think you can't stand rejection from her, don't see her.

Even though she is definitely DTF right now, women are fickle and if you hit her up, she may change her mind. Though she's mostly looking to fuck now, that CAN change fast. After the first time or two, she may float the idea of you two getting back together. Which may or may not be a deliberate attempt to create drama.

Basically, if you're outcome dependent, don't do this.

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Thanks Versalis, I'll take all of that on board

Thought I'd just follow up on this as an appreciation for the advice handed out

I basically didn't act, like suggested I felt I would be quite outcome dependent and didn't want any kind of emotional attachment to her.

Instead of blocking/deleting her, I just merely did nothing.

Anyway, I noticed she deleted me from snap chat, this was a week after her texting me (and another friend in a group message may I add) wishing us a great vacation away. I get back and I was deleted, but I let it go.

A mutual friend then rang me to arrange a gathering, to which I she suggested I may want to contact the original girl in question to invite her, so I was frank and said it probably wasn't a good idea as she had deleted me from snap chat and I hadn't spoken to her. Our mutual friend said it was probably because she was 'going through a rough patch with her boyfriend'.

As long as I haven't forced any issues, which I didn't, I was happy for this to be the end result, I merely just said to our mutual friend "I hope she works it out". I doubt I will ever speak to her again.

Thanks for all the advice guys, did I handle this in an OK manner?

Great job bluey. Amazing job.

You're very self aware, thats going to push you far in life.

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Disengagement is the only solution.

My ex pulled the same thing recently. There are still feelings there on either side and she IS single. Still, it is a challenge of not wanting to fall into old patterns, who does.

The girl has a bf and you're hurting. You can hurt more over a prolonged period of time or make a decision to move on now and experience short term hurt which you'll bounce back from sooner rather than later. Also you're freeing up energy for someone new, right now your emotions are locking you into a holding pattern; a bit of a self imposed prison.

Thanks Eddie, I've got to thank people like yourself for the help, everyday is a learning curve about oneself and I'm getting better

Just a further update guys..

On Friday I received a text (one week after I was deleted) from her saying "Hey sorry about deleting you from snapchat, it was me and my friend messing around"

One week later.. And that excuse

I always had faith in this girl but all I can say is how disappointed I am in her that she's resorted to such poor childish games like this, and she has now well and truly made sure she is out of my life. I can only think she chooses to make contact when her boyfriend is not giving her attention.

I'm going to finish this once and for all by text, to continue is not something which I am emotionally mature enough to handle.. Yet.

My plan is to say "hi ****** I've decided that to continue talking to you would not be in my best interests so I would appreciate it if you would no longer contact me, but I do wish you the best with all you do."

Thoughts on this?

Help much appreciated as always guys, thank you

Don't.

i want you to learn something about women here. Her attempts to contact you will become more and more desperate as the time progresses. This is something important to learn here. Just continue to ignore her.

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the problem becomes this as much as you may disagree with this but in a sense you 2 are still in some sort of relationship, albeit your not in a sexual or dating relationship as you 3 arent sleeping together or dating but you see she is keeping the relationship open by contacting you, as you had oneitis over her she will probably know this and then this game plays like shes stringing you along.
the only way is a complete cut off no texts no email nothing dont even explain.

sadly ive got experience, i dated a girl on off for about 4 years then we broke up she found a new guy within 2 weeks and was with him for 2 years then she broke up with him. one day i see her on the train and she says shes single, then we went our different ways but she gave me her number a week later she said she had an argument with her mother and called me asking to come round in the end we started having sex, this continued for about a year. then one day she says to me i dont think we should sleep together anymore so i was like ok, (she was great at sex) so i didnt really want to give her up but i was like ok. she gave her reasoning that in case she got into a relationship it would confuse things (which means she had already met someone) so i was like ok fine. then again 2 weeks later i got a message saying she wanted me to know she was in a relationship but she still wanted to hang out with me (non sexually) i just said whatever hoping that she would think ok im in a relationship so i dont need to think or contact him. but surprise she did she messaged me on facebook and text but just gave lne word answer but never instigated it she would always contact me. so when i stopped messaging back i got a message saying why are you ignoring me and this that and everything else and how she thought we would hang out and its all my fault and that i spoiled it and how i was jealous. so i was like fine whatever goodbye deleted her from facebook her number everything. unfortunately a month later on my 30th birthday she saw me at a bus stop and goes to me so are you talking to me yet? i basically asked what she would like to talk about then she just walked off. and i havent spoken to her since which was 18 months ago..
if i had just cut her off and thats it i wouldnt have had that problem

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Thanks guys

So in summary, any texts/calls/contact from her then just completely ignore with no explanation? I've had enough of her shit really, I just thought this may come across as me bing AFC as being ignorant could perhaps be seen as immature?

I'll be following your advice regardless to help me learn

This isn't about her or how you look to her (immature) in my opinion. Its about you. And I believe there will be a social lesson in this that it is important for you to learn. I learned it; and everyone else that does okay with women have learned in. Just go for the ride. You being content emotionally won't happen just from you telling her off. Only you can give that to yourself. Let it ride out ..

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Thanks Eddie

I understand and will follow

This has really dragged on, but two weeks no contact and she got back in touch, saying she has broken up with her boyfriend.

A week on we've been chatting and she's dropped the "I'm glad we can be friends" text on me, obviously the comfort blanket over here.

No interest to me what so ever, it's intimate or nothing for me, to which it seems her intentions are the latter. Can I just completely ignore her now?

I don't understand why you responded to her in the first place. I thought we spoke about this. Be a man. Move on with your life like I already instructed.

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