Okay, I got this waitresses number at a grill party and basically found out that she's the same age as me... sounds good, right?

I texted her phone two days later and she responded immediately and i felt well received. We've been texting all day and it seems nice, like we've both been friendly, but not overly friendly. I got her facebook page and now have it (not too photogenic, but she's much better in person ) and I'm not sure where to go right now... I'm the one who sent the last message, but that was yesterday... Do I continue today, risking looking desperate because of the double messages, or do I continue on facebook? I'm at a stand-still... any advice?

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First off congratulations on the # close! It sounds like you havee been able to build rapport through text messaging judging the fact she gave you access to another facet of her life "facebook."

It sounds like since you spend "all day" texting each other being friendly you have already broken the "non-needy" frame rule. Her not responding has you like the cat on the end of the string hoping it moves again, when she messages you back. I think the best thing you can do at this point is wait, and when you start messaging again, don't do it as often. Give delays between the messages. Keep control of the string, in Mystery's Cat String Theory Metaphor.

GOOD LUCK!!!

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Totally agree. It's not enough to just act non-needy though, you have to genuinely BE non-needy. This means you can't let one girl or one number be so important that you worry a lot when she doesn't text you back right away. This one girl and I were playing the text game and I waited a solid week for her to text me back. Of course it's not easy to refrain from texting sometimes but what I've found that has helped me is getting out there and meeting more people, which is what you should be doing anyway! So get out there, meet a few of the 3 billion girls in the world, take your mind off this girl, and when she texts you back (which she probably will eventually if you are patient) then you can be non-needy because you will have options haha.

And yes, very true about the waiting before responding to her texts. You see how you feel when she takes her sweet time? Well thats the game you gotta play with her. I've waited up to two or three days before texting a girl back, it makes them think that you have more important things to do (which you should) than sit around all day and text them. Now, of course you can and should reply to some texts immediately, especially if you have a good thread going. But every once in a while wait a while before responding. It's cat-string theory, push and pull. Thats what you want.

leave unanswered questions and loops in your texts. That'll keep her replying back.

Mirror the time she takes to text you back on her. If she takes 10 minutes. Wait 10 minutes to respond. That works like a charm. As soon as I get a text I think, if she took 20 minutes, I'm thinking cool Ive got time, I've got 20 minutes to think of a response. If you take longer then its like you're not quick enough or shit like that. So just mirror.

Otherwise, if she doesn't answer your text. No big deal. Wait a day or two and call her up. But open with a neg. I met your twin and I cant stay and chat for long. And call on like a wedneday or a Tuesday. Especially not a friday or a saturday.