So I met this girl out on a party. We made out and I got her number. (No idea why I couldn't bring her home that night, but I can't do anything about that now.)

I called her with confidence and we talked about the party for around 10 minutes, before I asked if she would like to hang out some day. She said yes, and later we texted and planned the date. The date was OK. We were walking around a bit and had a coffee. Not too romantic though, but we got to know each other a little better. We hugged and talked about seeing each other again.

She texted me right after the date commenting on something we had talked about. A couple of days after, I knew she was going out at the club, and she sent me a text asking if I was going. (Apparently interested in my opinion.) When I met her, there was no attraction at all and she barely spoke to me.

What do I do now? I have no idea why she was totally off from the second we met. Since we kinda left it on a bad note when both being drunk, I'm not sure how she feels about me. I'm not sure if I should contact her, or if I should just wait.

There was clearly a lot of sexual chemistry between the two of you when you first met at the party, but it seems as though you've suppressed something when you met the second and third time.

Were you intentionally trying to make a good impression?

Were you worried about scaring her away if you were too aggressive?

For whatever reason, you use your sexual state and you weren't escalating so the sexual tension fizzled out. That's what happens when you stop moving forward.

Next time you try to seduce a girl, keep moving forward. Never stay in one place too long.

You should have kissed her on the date if you were interested. That's how you convey her you're not interested in being a friend, and you'd like to see her romantically again.

A hug = friend

At the club, you say there was no attraction. Is that because you didn't make any moves, or because she didn't make any moves? Or were the two of you just sitting there waiting for each other to make a move?

You need to take the lead and go for it, in situations like this.

If you're still texting her and friendly you may be able to salvage it, but my view of this is that she's sorta lukewarm on you, and isn't sure if you're into her either...

Thank you for your posts

I think I made a good impression on the date since she seemed interested afterwards.
As she seemed really uninterested from the start the third time we met, I found it hard to build any chemistry at all. I talked to her and tried to make her laugh and have a good time, but there was very little positive response.

Now, should I text her? Should I ask her out again or should I just keep it cool? Should I ask about last time, or just forget about it?

About what Chief and CharlesFinley said... So much this. My guess is that you only had the impression that it was all good during the date (I mean, what is she gonna do? Spill her drink in your face and leave?) but that she probably arrived home all lukewarm being like "damn, what is this guys deal? First, he doesn't take me home after that party and now that I give him a second chance he won't even kiss me? Man, he needs to stop wasting my time!".

If she texted you about the second party, there obviously was some kind of interest. I guess she was all frigid because the ball was in your field (after all, she texted you to meet AGAIN) and it was your turn to win her over and savage the situation.

As in for the next steps... I don't know. Me, personally, would be like "damn, I fucked this up" and move on. Then again, nothing bad has ever resulted of one LAST try so yeah, try texting her. As in for the contents of said text, I will pass the word to one of our more experienced forum members, since I am a bit out of ideas here.

Edit: Actually, you could try with some kind of freeze out via text... Maybe something along the lines of "damn, you were so cold last night at the club... I thought I felt some kind of chemistry between us, but I must have been wrong..." Then again, don't take my word for it (might as well come over as extremely butt-hurt). And ONLY if she was being really cold and unacessible, and it was not just you choking and not making a move.

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