I have a problem where I find that some girls actually act scared of me. The best example would be in my workplace. Generally I am well known at work, I dont have any enemies, I keep myself to myself usually, and generally get on with everyone.

Now of course I am friends with some female co-workers and have no problem with them. My problem is is that around 4 or 5 girls in my workplace have never spoken to me, or even made eye contact with me. If I walk past them in a corridor they will look straight at the ground, look awkward and sometimes even walk as close to the wall as possible. Ive even tried to say hi to some of them but I get no response except an uncomfortable expression. and also i must mention that I have worked around some of these girls for a number of years. They have been around when ive been laughing and joking with other people so they should be able to see I'm not a threat.

It has also happened outside of work aswell, when I walk past girls on the street. I dont say hi to random strangers but sometimes i'll try and give a smile.

Ive read someother stuff on the web where men have had the same problem and generally the solution to their problems are clear. But I am generally a normal guy, I dress normally, I do my best to have a friendly, natural smile. I do not stare at girls, i'll just try and make regular natural eye-contact.

Could it just be that i'm ugly? I know as a rule women generally find ugly men naturally creepy, but i never thought i was that unnattractive. If anyone could shed some light I would be so grateful as it is absolutely destroying my confidence and self-esteem.

thank you
Ill try and include a link to a pic of me so u can judge for yourselves.
https://twitter.com/Benjy_NMG/status/49 ... 44/photo/1

You look like a big and powerful guy. You also look like someone who could kick anybody's ass.

You need to offset the intimidation factor from your looks with plenty of smiles and friendliness if you're concerned about girls acting "scared" of you.

Don't fool yourself into thinking that it's because you're "ugly." That's bullshit.

I am new to work as I've been working for around a year now since graduating from university.

When I first entered the workplace environment, I used to scare everyone away. I started doubting myself at first but then again I'd think how I had one of the largest social circles at university, I used to go out with the best looking chicks, I used to have the most decent public relations at all the clubs I've managed to get into. Something was missing and I was sure of that. Then I noticed that I wasn't really fitting in. I used to go around greeting everyone, but not developing any deep conversations, not getting to know people BETTER. I started opening conversations with my co-workers, deep conversations. I started telling them about my life, opening up and thus encouraging them to open up too.

Today, I know around 90% of my co-workers really well, they even offer to make me coffee themselves and drink it with them when I first walk into the workplace. The other 10% just greet me normally and never go beyond that, but I know that it's not my problem anymore, it's theirs. They might be more of introverts but I don't want to go into too much detail regarding these issues.

Try to get into more meaningful conversations with them instead of greeting them and asking them how their day is.

I beleive me and you share(d) a similar problem. Just to give you an idea of my constitution; i'm 6'6", roughly about 320-310 depending on the time of year and yes the intimidation factor is an ongoing problem for me.

My suggestion to you is be sure to give off good body language.

If you are going to be a man that is good with different women than you must learn how to speak fluent body language as you would english or spanish; communication with your body is very important with women, because it shows if you are being congruent.

What i do is i maintain a strong posture and be sure to walk like I AM big with no shame, BUT I am also sure to smile, talk with my hands and to not be afraid of exposing my body (primitive sign that you are not a threat). If you don't smile much, at least keep your face relaxed, having a tense face will make you come across as angry, which is not want you want.

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Aw man dude that's not your problem it's theirs.

It's his problem because he wants to seem approachable, and he doesn't feel he is.

A couple things... Walking confidently and tall can look a number of ways. Some walk like they are leading an army. Bigger or tougher people don't do well with this. You won't look like someone who is easy to talk to. Losser, relaxed, dont worry about posture so much as looking relaxed and "happy-go-lucky". Look like walking is fun. Stop and look at random shit. Kick pebbles, look like you are having a cool time going from a to b. Don't march, stroll. If you face what I think you do, your body language might have gotten too strong just because you put effort into it. Maybe try to hold yourself 10% more AFC?

Also, I don't know how you dress. Try dressing a bit nicer. Generally, you can't over dress and a nice shirt and a smile will go farther than a heavy metal t-shirt and a smile.

Hey guys, check this out. One of the girls I've had this problem with just messaged me on Facebook out of the blue.
She said:
If things are gonna stop being awkward/weird between us at work I think we need to actually start talking to each other aha :')


Now that's an IOI right? Come on it's gotta be.

Funny, now I wanna know how this plays out.

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I agree.

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UPDATE:
Yeh, so you know when I said earlier that this chick messaged me on Facebook out the blue and that had to be a strong IOI? Well, NOPE!
I have no idea what her end game was but I don't think there is any attraction whatsoever. Either that or she is the most aloof girl I've ever talked to. Obviously as it was online I couldn't rely on non-verbal iois but I fished around pretty hard (without being too obvious) and I got zilch. I suck. Going to bed.