Hey!
It seems like I do something wrong when i comes to women, i have never had a girlfriend or anything like that, and i am 18 years old. When i'm out partying og clubbing, i have no problem with hooking up with hot girls. But that is only when i've had a few beers. When I try to initate a few days after the party, they either dont respond, or they are very cold.
so i have a few questions:

what do i keep doing wrong?

How do i get girls when i am sober (at school and so on)?

tips on confidence?

I want to become the guy that girls like and want to be with

Thanks!

Most girls that know the night just feel an attraction for you that mommento for some reason feel attracted for you, this attraction disappears the next day, it is normal that happens to you, try to meet girls by day, do not be shy, you have to learn to deal well with rejection, if that is your fear;)

Start with contacting them much sooner after the party. Don't wait a few days.

While you're standing there with her, tell her she's cool and you should get her number... put it in your phone right there... then text her and say "now you have my number"...

An hour after you leave the party, text her something funny.

You need to stay 'current' in their minds. A few days after a party when people were drinking may as well be a few months.

Yeah, one of my fears are rejection, i do not have confidence enough to approach girls by my self by day. I have met alot of girls this summer, but none of them seems interested or anything like that. I am not that shy if i am introduced to the girl by a friend

Sometimes i contact them the day after the party, don't seem to work.

You feel more confident after drinking a few bears because alcohol lowers your inhibitions.

However, you are absolutely right about wanting to find a way to attract women while sober.

If you keep relying on something external like alcohol to help you meet girls, you eventually become completely reliant on it. And it makes you worse and worse when it comes to doing all that stuff while sober. In other words, it worsens your baseline ability.

You can achieve this same state of confidence while sober by taking advantage of social momentum.

60 Years of Challenge talks more about Social Momentum and Microavoidance in his material, but here's the jist of it:

Try to act on your small impulses as much as possible. For example, if you get a sudden impulse to give a dollar to a homeless person, do it without hesitation. If you get a sudden impulse to compliment a stranger while walking past them, do it without hesitation. If you get a sudden impulse to high-five somebody, do it without hesitation.

The more you act on your smaller impulses, the easier it will become to do "bigger" things like talking to a hot girl.

Practice social momentum enough and you'll never need liquid courage to pick up girls ever again.

Thanks man! I will check it out! I've worked a bit on confidence this summer, but i am far away from the level i want to be on, i want to be able to talk to anyone, and be the one everyone want to talk with
With alcohol i become extremely confident, would be awesome to be at that level sober too