First time poster but have been working on my game alot this year and with great results. I used to be really bad about picking one target and forgetting everything else around me which KILLED me. So, I'm back to that issue again right now. I've had several k/closes and f/closes, even a couple fb's since I "opened" the field up so to speak. I just can't seem to get this girl out of my mind though. I was introduced to her by a mutual friend which is rare. We hit it off but now she has flaked twice and I've also had to cancel on her once. I think it is heading down the friend zone which I don't want, but I can't help myself and keep talking to her. Guess I have a two pronged question here but only one applies to this board.

How do you get over getting "stuck" on one girl? Constantly wanting to text her even though you have plenty others.

In this situation, she is the elusive one so you want to chase her down as she is not being "compliant." If you end up sexing her, maybe those feelings will go away; if they don't maybe you want something more with this girl. Keep pursuing and don't let it slide into the friend zone. Don't let a focus on this girl stall you out of the game if you don't end up meeting up with her though.

Simple; don't contact her, at all. Just be strong.

Every time you want to text her, text another girl. Spend as much time with other girls as possible:

- Girls like you more when they know you've got options (but don't rub it in her face)

- It'd be a little rude to text her infront of another girl, and ruin your chances

- To keep the sexual polarity, you need her to be doing 70%-80% of the pursuing, in my experience anyway.

- If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting (rejected, flaked on, walked all over) so change your approach! If she cancels twice you shouldn't ever call her again. If she calls you, set a definite date and don't contact her until you're on the date. If she wont agree to it, just get off the phone (or whatever) by politely telling her that you're busy.

It's not easy, but it's the best way.

She probably knows you're more into her than she is into you (insta-turnoff) so you're sort of a safety net/backup plan at the moment. Fix this by being a challenge, and get her used to having to work for you and chase you. A guy who values himself, won't keep chasing a woman who flakes twice. If you don't value yourself, she'll never value you.

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From the information provided, I'm assuming you still don't know her THAT well, so breaking contact won't do any good. Breaking contact is only to be used on girls you are in a relationship with or a girl that likes you a lot. If she's flaking out, then there's a reason. The reason doesn't have to be you. There's a lot of several reasons out of your control. Just let it calm a bit, a week or two and then re-initiate. If she's still flaking, I'd suggest you move on with it, there's nothing good for you out there and there's a lot of other girls who'd make you feel happier than she does.

Talk to more girls.

Only text to set up a date. Texting just to chat puts you in the friend zone.

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No Contact isn't just a tool for bringing girls back. I think he should go into No Contact; it'd help him stop chasing her, definitely.

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.