How do you distinguish between other guys being respectless towards you because you actually did something wrong or you are doing everything right and they see you as real competition they try to get rid of?

I don't really know why you would care about what GUYS think about you. As long as you show confidence in yourself, girls will like you. Period. Unless of course you come to a bar dressed as a rodeo clown or something similarly stupid.

Because I am not as enlightened as you claim to be and I am bothered by other guys being respectless or aggressive towards me. I always think I can learn from other people.

Let's be clear here. I'm by no means "enlightened" nor do I claim to be. However you can't mess with facts(at least when it comes to my life): every single girl that I've shown confidence towards responded with a lot of IOI's(me messing those up is another story). As for the other guys being disrespectful, it depends. If it does actually bother you, think: is the girl worth putting up with that? Also if you ignore them the first couple of times and they keep being disrespectful, it's more often than not a competitive reflex. Usually people get bored when they are ignored, especially men.

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The only thing you can do in these cases is to become unaffected. The more they discriminate you and you remain calm, the more you'll get on their nerves and the more you'll make them look stupid in public. When someone tries to offend you, with words of course, just continue talking as if you didn't hear them, or just speak to another person as if the person who offended you didn't even matter. Don't do it out of despair of escaping because you'll look frightened, do it because you don't give a fuck about what they are saying.

If they keep speaking and offending, just shoot a line at them that would lower their value and continue speaking to other people and don't listen to them. When you're picking up girls, you'll usually face a lot of these guys who try to fade you out. As I said, be unresponsive and shoot a line if they keep going for a long time. I usually shake their hand and introduce myself and continue talking with the chick. I know this sounds/looks dumb, but watch the guy burn after you've held your patience. This is also a plus because the girls you're speaking with will start perceiving you as the guy who doesn't have time for other people's bullshit, which is really attractive.

I personally see responding back with offensive words and trying to do the same will lower your value big-time, let's not mention the drama that will be involved. It'll look like you're exposing your flaws.

@Xoved Good advice but not the question. Re: your reply, though: Which line do you shoot?

The question is how to distinguish between feedback and jealousy of other guys. You assume always jealousy.


@all Do you think that there is a correlation between not working out and presuming good intentions in other people. Is assuming good intentions just another way of seeking approval?

Well for example, lastnight I was a t a party, came late and quickly became the "AMOG" of the party within the hour, flirting on one of the dudes girlfriends speaking in russian to her right in front of him, he knew something was up. SO the moment he would see her alone he would attempt to come get her with him as to avoid me doing anything with her. Lets just say he was a major chode and it was very clear that he was intimidated by my presence. He took his gf and left early and he was mad at her and apparantly said that I was a douchebag. The girls told me that, it became silent, I smiled and said "tell him that really hurt my feelings" and continued playing Beer pong. Problem solved.

All in all, I think it's very clear that whenever a dude is hostile towards you they see you ask competition in some sort of way.

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