Hey guys here's what's up. One of the girls I'm dating this girl I like her a little better than the rest and I'm hoping to turn it into a relationship. However she's an amature boxer and has her 1st fight coming up. I've been in the fight game my entire life and come from a long line of boxers, so we'd talk when we'd go out she'd tell me how she's worried about her fight and what not I gave her some advice.

I also found myself doing things like taking her out hanging out with her to get her mind off the fight. However as I was doing this I found myself getting emotionally invested in her possibly more than I should as soon as I realized I smartened up.

Her texts are a little dry, but when we talk on the phone things are good indepth convo's she's excitied to talk to me. What not. Now last monday I asked if she wanted to hang out because she iniated the previous date. I got a bit of a weird response

Me: hey you dork I just got back into town how be you and I hang out by the river tonight.

Her: what time

Me: I'm busy until later on so how about 7?

Her: boxing tonight

(The thing is this girl never uses punctuation even when she's asking a question so I didn't know if she was making a statement or asking a question)

Me: you're boxing tonight?

Her: ya

I just left it at that because there really wasn't anything there to repond to now I know if I call her we'll have a good convo thing is I'm trying to work on controling my emotional investment. So I thought maybe now would be a good time to take a step back re evaluate myself focus on some other girls for a few days and let her iniate next contact as away of both training myself to not be emotionally attached as well as setting things straight if you will incase she mistook what I meant as a nice gesture for neediness which I don't think is the case, but you never know.

As always any advice is appreciated thanks!!

One thing I forgot to mention is she's admitedly been in a "horrible shit mood" due to having to cut weight so I also take that into consideration sometimes I make her laugh when she's miserable other times I give her space.

Neediest isn't conveyed in a gesture, neediness is conveyed in an energy/.vibe you give off in the process of a gesture. Female intuition is the ruling factor here; and its very rarely that its mistake. Two people can perform the same exact actions but the interpretation will be different when you factor in the place the action was coming from.

There is neediness here. Its clear.

And just to reiterate; it cannot be hidden; it comes out because it is what influences our very action.

Once she said "ya" - I would of said " Alright cool.. When is it over? I'll come and get you. "

Now for me it would work because of the position i've been communicating to the girl from; but it could come across needy for another depending on how he feels about the girl.

But we've spoke about this I think so... I think you know what to do

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Hahaha you're right I wanted to give it one last crack before I did exactly what you suggested earlier, but as of right now I like this girl, but over the weekend I've realized what you said about attracting women with ease I got 2 more numbers that seem to be going somewhere so at this point I'm willing to totally walk away for the greater good.

Thanks for the advice!

I wrote this to another..

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Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity.

Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level. "

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Being able to walk away is an exremely powerful tool. A girl I like and could also see myself dating flaked on me this weekend as far as I was concerned it was over. As soon as I had that mindset she started blowing up my phone. Once you demonstrate you're able to walk away and not look back the girl involved tries a lot harder to keep that from happening.

The thing I find is right now I have 7 girls I'm dating 4 of which if we stopped talking I wouldn't care 3 I like and 2 I'm somewhat invested in. The funny thing is the 2 I'm invested in aren't the hottest of the 7, but there's something that draws me to them and causes that investment I'm not sure what it is.

The key to any woman being able to successful seduce any man is her ability to reflect his own power back to him. I got my heart broken severely years go; and there girl wasn't even attractive. A 6 at the most. And I was always the one breaking hearts prior to this. With women and 8 or better. Looks have very little to do with it. A man wants a woman that knows how to show him that he has power. This is one of the reasons we like to have sex; because every time the girl moans or groans it is a direct reflection to us that we have some form of power. The power to make her moan in those ways. Now a woman that knows how to "moan" to a guys actions outside of the bedroom need not worry about a man using her just for sex.

This is all going to be in my new book.

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Sound advice that I'm hearing in this thread. I would say the same to not get too attached emotionally. It is sort of a power struggle. If you show neediness then she will know she has you and will lower your value in front of her eyes.

Good that you kept on dating others.

thats pretty amazing that you caught on and smartened up. investing your time for someone other then yourself shows that you care, which is not necessarily a bad thing.

That's awesome! If you could let me know when your book is coming out that would be sweet I'll definitely grab a copy!

The thing is I caught myself having stronger feelings for her than I probably and quick re-evaluated my situation before I fell into the oneitis trap. I've kept up with all my other girls kept seeing them because I made the mistake with my last oneitis of ditching all my other contacts when we broke up I took it hard. With this current girl I've been persistent because she is someone I'm interested in we've had some good times, but now its time to step back and see what she does out while I can do it out of will as opposed to necessity.

The key to any woman being able to successful seduce any man is her ability to reflect his own power back to him. I got my heart broken severely years go; and there girl wasn't even attractive. A 6 at the most. And I was always the one breaking hearts prior to this. With women and 8 or better. Looks have very little to do with it. A man wants a woman that knows how to show him that he has power. This is one of the reasons we like to have sex; because every time the girl moans or groans it is a direct reflection to us that we have some form of power. The power to make her moan in those ways. Now a woman that knows how to "moan" to a guys actions outside of the bedroom need not worry about a man using her just for sex.



I totally get what you mean about the power I just never understood the theory behind it. Years ago I was absolutely destroyed with oneitis so much so that I couldn't eat and lost over 10lbs (there were other things going on, but I won't get into that) one night I was out with a group of girls all 9-10's they 3 of them were runway models ones actually a Bellator cage girl now. I was out with these 4 girls only guy they all wanted me they were competing for me and I was so destroyed with oneitis that I went home (feel free to verbally kick my ass) and the worst part was my oneitis was like you said probably around 6.

Its actually kinda strange I have a sense of relief or freedom whatever you say stepping from stepping back out of will. I've done it before, but with girls I didn't care about doing it with a girl I like and care about is kinda giving me a confidence boost.

Indeed man. "Walking Away" does not count if its with a girl that you don't necessarily care for. It doesn't matter if she is an HB 10.. If you don't care for her; the benefits of walking away are minuscule. IMO you would have to walk away form 100 attractive women that you don't have deep feelings for (by choice not by necessity) to equal walking away from 1 girl that you actually have feelings for(by choice not necessity once again). Walking away after you've tried almost everything you could or walking away after giving it "just one more chance" doesn't count. You have to sacrifice that possibility of reuniting for the true benefits.

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I read Gamblers article on letting go a while back pretty much the same thing as what you're saying, but earlier on with this girl she had said a lot of her past relationships didn't work out because she has a lot of guy friends and her boyfriends would get jealous. I kinda laughed and was like I don't really understand that I mean who am I to say who you can and can't be friends with? I kinda caught her off guard she was like wow I'm impressed. Since then she's tested me a couple times my reaction was totally conguent with what I had said earlier, but also it legitimatly doesn't bother me because I have a lot of options and can attract women with ease. Things were good she'd text I'd text she'd call I'd call. Then I felt myself getting too invested now comes the letting go part.

As much is the phsychology behind seduction is an awesome tool to have the whole game is kinda getting tiresome for me. I'm kinda at the point now where I wouldn't mind just having a cool gf that I can hang out with and not have to worry about game. Not to say I wouldn't apply what I know.